Help with my daughter

[Izzabella]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Jersey
I lost my daughter to my sister because of drugs. I was clean 2 years when the adoption went through. I tried to appeal it 2 times. I got nowhere. I am now clean 5 years this weekend, March 13. I do see my daughter. She is getting older now, 8, and she wants to see me more than every other weekend. My daughter gets very upset that my sister won't let her see me more. She keeps telling my sister that she is her aunt not her mother. My daughter is hurting. My sister is a very depressed person and my mother is the one who really takes care of my daughter. I am going to college now to become a respiratory therapist and I am a hair stylist. I would really like to reverse the adoption. I do know it is possible but will take a lot of work. I do live paycheck to paycheck at the present time. But when I am done with college I will make better money. Will someone help me?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Jersey
I lost my daughter to my sister because of drugs. I was clean 2 years when the adoption went through. I tried to appeal it 2 times. I got nowhere. I am now clean 5 years this weekend, March 13. I do see my daughter. She is getting older now, 8, and she wants to see me more than every other weekend. My daughter gets very upset that my sister won't let her see me more. She keeps telling my sister that she is her aunt not her mother. My daughter is hurting. My sister is a very depressed person and my mother is the one who really takes care of my daughter. I am going to college now to become a respiratory therapist and I am a hair stylist. I would really like to reverse the adoption. I do know it is possible but will take a lot of work. I do live paycheck to paycheck at the present time. But when I am done with college I will make better money. Will someone help me?

If there was an adoption, she's no longer your daughter. Sorry.

With that said, where was Dad at the time?

Was this a LEGAL adoption?

 

[Izzabella]

Help my daughter

One, that's pretty harsh. She is my daughter, no matter what any legal papers say. She calls me Mommy and calls my sister Aunt. The father is not in the picture. And I KNOW that this can be done. But I guess there are lawyers who can't handle it. It's not like one of those adoptions that I never see my daughter. Then I could understand what you said, but I see her and I am involved in her life. It doesn't matter to my sister and I guess not to any lawyer how my daughter is hurting. That just goes to show you, that as long as she has a roof over her head it's fine. I did not sign any papers, it was DFYS. I will find a lawyer who is strong and will help me. I have checked this out and it is possible. I guess I need a lawyer who will really want to help me, not a lawyer who wants to give free advise or help someone with a simple court case. I'm sorry that I answering like this, but that's wrong. If I was still doing drugs, then I could see your answer. I'M NOT. I care what happens to my daughter. And I really wish someone out there would see my point of view and help.

 

[Isis1]

One, that's pretty harsh. She is my daughter, no matter what any legal papers say. She calls me Mommy and calls my sister Aunt. The father is not in the picture. And I KNOW that this can be done. But I guess there are lawyers who can't handle it. It's not like one of those adoptions that I never see my daughter. Then I could understand what you said, but I see her and I am involved in her life. It doesn't matter to my sister and I guess not to any lawyer how my daughter is hurting. That just goes to show you, that as long as she has a roof over her head it's fine. I did not sign any papers, it was DFYS. I will find a lawyer who is strong and will help me. I have checked this out and it is possible. I guess I need a lawyer who will really want to help me, not a lawyer who wants to give free advise or help someone with a simple court case. I'm sorry that I answering like this, but that's wrong. If I was still doing drugs, then I could see your answer. I'M NOT. I care what happens to my daughter. And I really wish someone out there would see my point of view and help.

ALOT of us see your point of veiw. however, the law doesn't. the law says you gave up your child for adoption. not just custody, not just guardianship. adoption.

so answer the question. where is the child's biological father? did he consent to the adoption? was this adoption filed with the courts?

 

[Proserpina]

One, that's pretty harsh. She is my daughter, no matter what any legal papers say. She calls me Mommy and calls my sister Aunt. The father is not in the picture. And I KNOW that this can be done. But I guess there are lawyers who can't handle it. It's not like one of those adoptions that I never see my daughter. Then I could understand what you said, but I see her and I am involved in her life. It doesn't matter to my sister and I guess not to any lawyer how my daughter is hurting. That just goes to show you, that as long as she has a roof over her head it's fine. I did not sign any papers, it was DFYS. I will find a lawyer who is strong and will help me. I have checked this out and it is possible. I guess I need a lawyer who will really want to help me, not a lawyer who wants to give free advise or help someone with a simple court case. I'm sorry that I answering like this, but that's wrong. If I was still doing drugs, then I could see your answer. I'M NOT. I care what happens to my daughter. And I really wish someone out there would see my point of view and help.

?!

You are not this child's legal parent, if the child was adopted - that is the legal truth.

I'm sorry I didn't sugar coat it. And despite your lousy attitude, I'll give you more free advice:

You NEED an attorney if you stand ANY chance at changing the current situation.

 

[Izzabella]

Help my daughter

First, I did not consent to this adoption. It was done by DFYS. They didn't even tell me or the father about it. Her father, at the time, was still doing drugs, and now she doesn't really see him, except. Her father gave his rights up to me, but I tried to get kinship guardianship and the court did adoption and I didn't even know it was happening. I found out through someone I worked with that it was happening. I did not sign any paper agreeing to this.

 

[Silverplum]

One, that's pretty harsh. She is my daughter, no matter what any legal papers say. She calls me Mommy and calls my sister Aunt. The father is not in the picture. And I KNOW that this can be done. But I guess there are lawyers who can't handle it. It's not like one of those adoptions that I never see my daughter. Then I could understand what you said, but I see her and I am involved in her life. It doesn't matter to my sister and I guess not to any lawyer how my daughter is hurting. That just goes to show you, that as long as she has a roof over her head it's fine. I did not sign any papers, it was DFYS. I will find a lawyer who is strong and will help me. I have checked this out and it is possible. I guess I need a lawyer who will really want to help me, not a lawyer who wants to give free advise or help someone with a simple court case. I'm sorry that I answering like this, but that's wrong. If I was still doing drugs, then I could see your answer. I'M NOT. I care what happens to my daughter. And I really wish someone out there would see my point of view and help.

The law clearly states the facts, and Proserpina has told you only the truth.

 

[Proserpina]

First, I did not consent to this adoption. It was done by DFYS. They didn't even tell me or the father about it. Her father, at the time, was still doing drugs, and now she doesn't really see him, except. Her father gave his rights up to me, but I tried to get kinship guardianship and the court did adoption and I didn't even know it was happening. I found out through someone I worked with that it was happening. I did not sign any paper agreeing to this.

Please consult with an attorney local to you - seriously, this is NOT going to be a DIY project and because DFYS were involved you may have an uphill battle even in the best case scenario.

 

[Silverplum]

First, I did not consent to this adoption. It was done by DFYS. They didn't even tell me or the father about it. Her father, at the time, was still doing drugs, and now she doesn't really see him, except. Her father gave his rights up to me, but I tried to get kinship guardianship and the court did adoption and I didn't even know it was happening. I found out through someone I worked with that it was happening. I did not sign any paper agreeing to this.

You consented by your actions: you failed to complete the case plan.

At some point, due to your actions, your signature is not needed.

 

[Isis1]

First, I did not consent to this adoption. It was done by DFYS. They didn't even tell me or the father about it. Her father, at the time, was still doing drugs, and now she doesn't really see him, except. Her father gave his rights up to me, but I tried to get kinship guardianship and the court did adoption and I didn't even know it was happening. I found out through someone I worked with that it was happening. I did not sign any paper agreeing to this.

let's start back from square one.

there was obviously an incident in relation to the drug use that caused to social services to be involved. what was it? be honest.

then, social services had a safety plan. did you follow ANY of it? for how long was the time span to fulfill it?

did you show up to ANY of the court hearings?

do you have a copy of the court order terminating your rights?

 

[Izzabella]

Help my daughter

I'm not asking for sugar coating. All I'm asking for is that someone help me REVERSE the adoption. I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE. Someone who works in the courthouse, in that department, told me it is possible, but not easy. I need to know where to start to get this going. I don't want to be sugar coated and I can handle anything you give me. I screwed up and I have fixed my life, for the better, and would really like to reverse this adoption because I love my daughter and care what happens to her and how she feels. I do know legally she is not mine anymore, but she it mine. If you are a parent you know how I feel. It's hurts to see my daughter hurting.

 

[Isis1]

I'm not asking for sugar coating. All I'm asking for is that someone help me REVERSE the adoption. I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE. Someone who works in the courthouse, in that department, told me it is possible, but not easy. I need to know where to start to get this going. I don't want to be sugar coated and I can handle anything you give me. I screwed up and I have fixed my life, for the better, and would really like to reverse this adoption because I love my daughter and care what happens to her and how she feels. I do know legally she is not mine anymore, but she it mine. If you are a parent you know how I feel. It's hurts to see my daughter hurting.

you'll need an attorney, a really good one. and a mistake in the adoption. or the legal mother's consent.

 

[Proserpina]

I'm not asking for sugar coating. All I'm asking for is that someone help me REVERSE the adoption. I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE. Someone who works in the courthouse, in that department, told me it is possible, but not easy. I need to know where to start to get this going. I don't want to be sugar coated and I can handle anything you give me. I screwed up and I have fixed my life, for the better, and would really like to reverse this adoption because I love my daughter and care what happens to her and how she feels. I do know legally she is not mine anymore, but she it mine. If you are a parent you know how I feel. It's hurts to see my daughter hurting.

You need to consult with a local attorney - it really is that simple.

 

[Silverplum]

I'm not asking for sugar coating. All I'm asking for is that someone help me REVERSE the adoption. I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE. Someone who works in the courthouse, in that department, told me it is possible, but not easy. I need to know where to start to get this going. I don't want to be sugar coated and I can handle anything you give me. I screwed up and I have fixed my life, for the better, and would really like to reverse this adoption because I love my daughter and care what happens to her and how she feels. I do know legally she is not mine anymore, but she it mine. If you are a parent you know how I feel. It's hurts to see my daughter hurting.

Then go to "Someone who works in the courthouse, in that department," and, since that person "told me (you) it is possible," that person should be able to help you.

Right?

 

[momofrose]

I'm not asking for sugar coating. All I'm asking for is that someone help me REVERSE the adoption. I KNOW IT CAN BE DONE. Someone who works in the courthouse, in that department, told me it is possible, but not easy. I need to know where to start to get this going. I don't want to be sugar coated and I can handle anything you give me. I screwed up and I have fixed my life, for the better, and would really like to reverse this adoption because I love my daughter and care what happens to her and how she feels. I do know legally she is not mine anymore, but she it mine. If you are a parent you know how I feel. It's hurts to see my daughter hurting.

it's been 5 years since this adoption was finalized and "someone" told you a reversal can be dome? Is this "someone" an expert in adoption? She has the legal background and situation background to have told you IT CAN BE DONE???

The fact is this - no sugar coating - the adoption is final and legal. Unless the mom (NOT you) agrees to let YOU adopt the child then there is abolsutely nothing you can do - In my "expert"opion - you should be helping your daughter through this identity crisis she may be going through by supporting her and explaining that NONE of this is HER fault and it is ALL YOUR fault - that you love herm but that you are legally her aunt. DO NOT put her mom down in front of her.

And by the way - just because you stopped doing drugs does not mean YOU get to change your niece's world yet again!!!