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Here is an article written in the paper called Deadbeat Dads Steal Future
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How easy it was to just replace "him/his/he" with "her/she" and call them welfare thieves!
Time to burrow into the "cracks" of all the fat a$$ women who refuse to work while their children go to school from 8am - 3:30pm and come home to an empty cabinet being told that because "daddy did not send his money, you can't eat"
Get over it; your 50% responsible, and if your kid can't eat because the 350.00 monthly check did not show up, then you need a serious lesson in fiscal responsibility. If your child is deprived of medical / housing / and food because your ex did not send that life saving 350.00 monthly check - you need a reality check.
Time to burrow into the "cracks" of all the fat a$$ women who refuse to work while their children go to school from 8am - 3:30pm and come home to an empty cabinet being told that because "daddy did not send his money, you can't eat"
Get over it; your 50% responsible, and if your kid can't eat because the 350.00 monthly check did not show up, then you need a serious lesson in fiscal responsibility. If your child is deprived of medical / housing / and food because your ex did not send that life saving 350.00 monthly check - you need a reality check.
SuzieWahoozie
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Amen!
My husband has custody of his daughter and her mother - although ordered to pay CS by the courts - does not. Do the courts do anything...nooooooooooooo! This is not a serious issue I guess because she keeps losing her job and cries that she is "unemployed" and can't afford to pay $26.00 per week! In my state (Indiana), unless she gets $10,000+ in arrears she can skate. Mind you, my husband and I make a good living and provide well for his daughter - $26.00 per week isn't going to make us or break us, but there is a principal here...it's the child's money.
Just to clarify, we were only granted custody last December (2003). The child is almost 12 now, so she was 11 when she came to live with us. My husband and his ex divorced when she was only 4 years old. For seven years, my husband RELIGIOUSLY paid child support - while being denied visitation over 150 times. It isn't like he's "getting what he deserves" (retaliation). He was always there for his daughter in every way - including meeting his financial obligations to her, which were ALOT more than $26.00 per week.
My husband also in the last ten months has NEVER denied one minute of visitation to his ex.
Not all Dads are criminals. My husband is a wonderful father. His ex-wife on the other hand isn't stepping up to help her daughter in any way.
I realize she's unemployed (perpetually), but whether Mommy is working or not, the kid has to eat, no?
Ok...I'm done venting.
My husband has custody of his daughter and her mother - although ordered to pay CS by the courts - does not. Do the courts do anything...nooooooooooooo! This is not a serious issue I guess because she keeps losing her job and cries that she is "unemployed" and can't afford to pay $26.00 per week! In my state (Indiana), unless she gets $10,000+ in arrears she can skate. Mind you, my husband and I make a good living and provide well for his daughter - $26.00 per week isn't going to make us or break us, but there is a principal here...it's the child's money.
Just to clarify, we were only granted custody last December (2003). The child is almost 12 now, so she was 11 when she came to live with us. My husband and his ex divorced when she was only 4 years old. For seven years, my husband RELIGIOUSLY paid child support - while being denied visitation over 150 times. It isn't like he's "getting what he deserves" (retaliation). He was always there for his daughter in every way - including meeting his financial obligations to her, which were ALOT more than $26.00 per week.
My husband also in the last ten months has NEVER denied one minute of visitation to his ex.
Not all Dads are criminals. My husband is a wonderful father. His ex-wife on the other hand isn't stepping up to help her daughter in any way.
I realize she's unemployed (perpetually), but whether Mommy is working or not, the kid has to eat, no?
Ok...I'm done venting.
Smarty Panties
Member
What do you mean by "unless she's $10K in arrears she can skate"?
topsidder said:
Why don't you tell that to MY ex?? B/c he doesn't seem to believe he should be 50% responsible for OUR kids...He is perfectly content to sit on his a$$ collecting welfare while I work full time to keep a roof over our children's head and food in their stomachs.
YOU really need a reality check yourself, there ARE women who work full time to support their children whose father's decided it wasn't their responsibility. I know there are just as many deadbeat moms(whether they are the CP's or the NCP's) when are YOU going to admit not ALL CP's are like your ex???
SuzieWahoozie
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What I Meant
In my state (IN) unless a parent gets $10,000 in arrears, they don't consider it criminal, and will not process an arrest warrant.
As I stated, we didn't get this child in our custody until,she was 11 years old. Today, in fact, is her 12th birthday. She has only lived with us since December 2003. Her mother originally paid nothing, and then just this past September was ordered to pay $26 per week until the child is 18 and/or finishes college. At $26 per week, Mother-of-the-Year won't get to $10,000 in arrearage for 7+ years. If my stepdaughter decides not to go to college, she will have received ZERO in support from her Mother. If she goes to college, and her Mother finally decides to step up, she will have gone a looooooooooong time being screwed out of support money. (Note I didn't say she'd be missing out on anything - my husband and I will ALWAYS make sure she has everything she needs, and as much of what she wants as we can afford and deem reasonable).
In my state (IN) unless a parent gets $10,000 in arrears, they don't consider it criminal, and will not process an arrest warrant.
As I stated, we didn't get this child in our custody until,she was 11 years old. Today, in fact, is her 12th birthday. She has only lived with us since December 2003. Her mother originally paid nothing, and then just this past September was ordered to pay $26 per week until the child is 18 and/or finishes college. At $26 per week, Mother-of-the-Year won't get to $10,000 in arrearage for 7+ years. If my stepdaughter decides not to go to college, she will have received ZERO in support from her Mother. If she goes to college, and her Mother finally decides to step up, she will have gone a looooooooooong time being screwed out of support money. (Note I didn't say she'd be missing out on anything - my husband and I will ALWAYS make sure she has everything she needs, and as much of what she wants as we can afford and deem reasonable).
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in response to the idiot out there
I don’t know who you are but that article was written by my mother and inspired by my dead beat ex-husband. I am not on welfare. I am a special education teacher raising 2 children alone in NJ. I work full time, own a house and take care of my kids. I have never been on any type of welfare or financial assistance. Let me see, who must you be? A divorced dad who dreads sending over his child support payment every month. You got a Dead Beat attitude. And as a professional working in the field of education, I recommend some therapy for you.
As for everyone else out there, I am sure that there are a lot of dead beat moms too. No parent should be a dead beat. It takes 2 parents and 2 salaries to raise kids.
I don’t know who you are but that article was written by my mother and inspired by my dead beat ex-husband. I am not on welfare. I am a special education teacher raising 2 children alone in NJ. I work full time, own a house and take care of my kids. I have never been on any type of welfare or financial assistance. Let me see, who must you be? A divorced dad who dreads sending over his child support payment every month. You got a Dead Beat attitude. And as a professional working in the field of education, I recommend some therapy for you.
As for everyone else out there, I am sure that there are a lot of dead beat moms too. No parent should be a dead beat. It takes 2 parents and 2 salaries to raise kids.
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Topsidder
thank you, topsidder. i wince every time these mothers (and the child support enforcement officers on this forum posing as real people) say that parenting is 50/50, yet they put all the financial responsibility on the father. step up, moms!
topsidder said:
thank you, topsidder. i wince every time these mothers (and the child support enforcement officers on this forum posing as real people) say that parenting is 50/50, yet they put all the financial responsibility on the father. step up, moms!
Hisbabygirl77
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Be it male or female there are dead beat parents out there and because of there actions (or lack thereof) the children suffer. Emotionally, mentally and financially a lot of times. BTW I know plenty of divorced mom's and a very very small number of them sit home on their butts doing nothing. Most work hard and take care of their children. The same goes for the men. If any parent does not take care of there child by way of custody, visitation, child support, emotional support ect........ the child suffers. As parents we are suppose to give 110% to our children when we don't we see what happens just look at our juvenille system and see what percentage of those kids come from one parent homes. If only the children didnt have to become a statistic!
john123456
Member
What was the purpose of the OP's post?
john123456 said:
Mother's against Dead Beat DADS I presume.
Now If it were Father's Against Dead Beat Moms , I suppose their would be an Excuse.
And what about the DADS that do pay support to their Lazy X's only to look at the money being smoked up in a pipe or drank up by their X's , only to be told we have no proof,and we can't dictate how the CS payments are made.
The point the poster is trying to make is about DEAD BEAT DADS because , the MOMS started it with that name and It has stuck.
Go to FL. and try signing up for Health & Human services if you're an abled bodied man . DENIED> WE DON'T DO THAT.
Go there if you're a women w/ children . Accepted ..
Get the Point ? It's called Bias ....
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john123456
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Blonde Lebinese said:
Blonde Lebinese:
My only point was I thought this was a LEGAL question and answer site not an editorial column.