Banned_Princess
Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NY
Good morning everyone, I hope you've had a nice weekend
My cousin came to me with this situation, I don't think she expected me to do anything, but I knew just where to come.
she has an 11 year old daughter, 10 years ago she volunteered custody to her parents, she was on drugs but has been recovered 7 or so years. she never did anything to change the custody through the court, but they have all lived together 6 years, she is an active mother and fully cares for her daughter, school, MD, cooks, cleans, buys her things, I mean fully. Her parents carry the health insurance on the kid, and they all contribute to the household bills and food.
the father of this kid was in jail when she was born, spent 5 years there, isn't on the birth certificate, he acknowledges paternity, but has never done not one thing for or with her. he has seen her maybe 6 times, he promised her he would call her, and never did. they have not seen or heard from him in like 2 or 3 years. I asked her about when she signed over custody, did they ask about him or notify him, she doesn't remember if it came up, or if she said she didn't know who was the father. whatever the case, the judge awarded the parents physical custody, gave half of the decision making to my cousin, awarded visitation as both party's agree or whatever.
recently my cousin lost her income, and has applied for services, at first she did not include her daughter as applying with her, but in the interview, the DSS worker added her to the case since they live together she was clear with the worker that she shares custody with her parents, but according to her, he didn't seem interested.
She has always wanted to file for child support from Mr deadbeat do nothing dad, but was not sure how it would play out, with her not having full custody and all, but of course the DSS worker has put in for child support and paternity be established. he was vague on anything he went over with her,
she would like to know, is it going to make any difference in court for the child support that she is ordered NCP? will she have to bring her parents into this situation, as in have them present in court? her parents don't want to rock any boats they don't care if he pays support or not, and wont return custody to my cousin, she doesn't want to fight them for it. they have just been living this way so long (together as a family), but my cousin definitely wants dad to be ordered to pay support, and is willing to go whatever mile she has to to get the order. She would have done it earlier, but like I said, she was unsure about the whole custody thing and how that would work.. plus she didn't really need it, they were all supporting each other fine.
Plus she has no idea where he is, what his birthdate is, what his last address was, how to contact him, or anything about him in order to locate him. DSS and child support enforcement can handle all that right? I mean he was in prison, and again just recently...
thanks guys.
Good morning everyone, I hope you've had a nice weekend
My cousin came to me with this situation, I don't think she expected me to do anything, but I knew just where to come.
she has an 11 year old daughter, 10 years ago she volunteered custody to her parents, she was on drugs but has been recovered 7 or so years. she never did anything to change the custody through the court, but they have all lived together 6 years, she is an active mother and fully cares for her daughter, school, MD, cooks, cleans, buys her things, I mean fully. Her parents carry the health insurance on the kid, and they all contribute to the household bills and food.
the father of this kid was in jail when she was born, spent 5 years there, isn't on the birth certificate, he acknowledges paternity, but has never done not one thing for or with her. he has seen her maybe 6 times, he promised her he would call her, and never did. they have not seen or heard from him in like 2 or 3 years. I asked her about when she signed over custody, did they ask about him or notify him, she doesn't remember if it came up, or if she said she didn't know who was the father. whatever the case, the judge awarded the parents physical custody, gave half of the decision making to my cousin, awarded visitation as both party's agree or whatever.
recently my cousin lost her income, and has applied for services, at first she did not include her daughter as applying with her, but in the interview, the DSS worker added her to the case since they live together she was clear with the worker that she shares custody with her parents, but according to her, he didn't seem interested.
She has always wanted to file for child support from Mr deadbeat do nothing dad, but was not sure how it would play out, with her not having full custody and all, but of course the DSS worker has put in for child support and paternity be established. he was vague on anything he went over with her,
she would like to know, is it going to make any difference in court for the child support that she is ordered NCP? will she have to bring her parents into this situation, as in have them present in court? her parents don't want to rock any boats they don't care if he pays support or not, and wont return custody to my cousin, she doesn't want to fight them for it. they have just been living this way so long (together as a family), but my cousin definitely wants dad to be ordered to pay support, and is willing to go whatever mile she has to to get the order. She would have done it earlier, but like I said, she was unsure about the whole custody thing and how that would work.. plus she didn't really need it, they were all supporting each other fine.
Plus she has no idea where he is, what his birthdate is, what his last address was, how to contact him, or anything about him in order to locate him. DSS and child support enforcement can handle all that right? I mean he was in prison, and again just recently...
thanks guys.
