husband wants to adopt child

[berniebing]

What is the name of your state? NY

my friend's husband wants to adopt her 12 year old son; she does not know the father, and never put a name for the father on the birth certificate; her son is about 12 - 13 years old; she has now been married for about 7 years, and her & husband have little girl; husband wants to adopt son. how does one go about doing this; can this be done with name change for son as well; son has mom's maiden name.

 

[stephenk]

She has no idea who the father is of her son?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

She has no idea who the father is of her son?

My response:

Now you know why New York is overpopulated. Them Puerto Ricans keeps going from bed, to bed, to bed, to bed. It gets quite confusing for them, and fairly sloshy.

IAAL

 

[esaloca]

Off Base here

And what makes you think she's Puerto Rican?

We are being a bit biased don't you think? I believe she was asking how adoption laws, I didn't read anything more than that!!

 

[berniebing]

NY

no she doesn't know who the father is; she was very young and stupid and drunk; if she does know, which i don't think she does, she has never revealed his identity;

does anyone have any pertinent information regarding my question?? or is everyone just going to have their jollies??

 

[stealth2]

I believe she's going to have trouble doing this on her own. She really needs to talk to a lawyer in NY.

 

[berniebing]

thanks - i agree - probably easy to do the name change, but not so easy re: divorce

 

[stealth2]

Not necessarily - it usually also requires the consent of both parents. Or a court order.

 

[nextwife]

NY

no she doesn't know who the father is; or is everyone just going to have their jollies??

Hey, I don't know who my daughter's (bio)father is, either.

 

[stealth2]

Yeah, but that confuses the issue since you adopted your child from abroad. If you divorced your current husband and wanted a new guy to adopt her, CH would have to consent since he is her LEGAL father.

 

[nextwife]

Sorry. My espresso kicked in and I was in the mood to be a wise guy.

Actually, we were able to adopt her (under the laws of her birth country) without ever having paternity established. Her mom simply signed her parental rights over and left her at the orphange at about three weeks old. "Father Unknown" is exactly what was on her original birth certificate and the court adoption papers.

 

[haiku]

Next, I can get wise right along with you-I had to adopt my own daughter!

to change MY name on her birth cert, I had to sign the same TPR, the bio-dad did. Her adoption papers state we BOTH (me and her now dad) adopted the child.

as far as OP, best start with a lawyer, when dad is unknown or not willing. this is not something you want to mess with on your own. And once adoption is final you can change the childs name. (and as stated, if she wants hers changed, she can do that, too)

 

[nextwife]

Next, I can get wise right along with you-I had to adopt my own daughter!

to change MY name on her birth cert, I had to sign the same TPR, the bio-dad did. Her adoption papers state we BOTH (me and her now dad) adopted the child.

Too funny, Haiku!

My DH was adopted by his stepdad when he was 14 (his dad died three months before he was born). He tried to get a copy of the adoption papers at the courthouse here and they wouldn't let him, like it was a big secret or something. He was in court when it was done! I'm not sure if his mom was or wasn't listed as the other "adoptive parent". The ironic thing is that the attorney who handled that adoption was the father of one of MY customers I worked with for years before I knew my husband!

 

[stealth2]

I wasn't trying to be snippy, and I'm sorry if it came out that way. I could just see OP thinking "but, nextwife said they did it!"

 

[nextwife]

No, you weren't snippy. You were correcct to clarify.