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I have a 15 yr old daughter, should I say more?

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GothicAngel

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What is the name of your state? New Jersey

Hi everyone this is a first for me so I make it short and sweet. My daughter is 15 and I honestly can't take the abuse anymore.
Not only is she physically abusive by also verbally. When she does'nt get things her way, she's calls me the "B" word and many others, but I won't post it on this forum.
Her father and I spoke and he does'nt want to deal with her, so I'm on my own. :confused:
I found out recently that she was talking to a 25 yr old man! I honestly don't know how she is able to find these people? I really need to know my options on what I can or cannot do to stop this before she harms herself or worse get pregnant!
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I AM ALWAYS LIABLE

Senior Member
GothicAngel said:
What is the name of your state? New Jersey

Hi everyone this is a first for me so I make it short and sweet. My daughter is 15 and I honestly can't take the abuse anymore.
Not only is she physically abusive by also verbally. When she does'nt get things her way, she's calls me the "B" word and many others, but I won't post it on this forum.
Her father and I spoke and he does'nt want to deal with her, so I'm on my own. :confused:
I found out recently that she was talking to a 25 yr old man! I honestly don't know how she is able to find these people? I really need to know my options on what I can or cannot do to stop this before she harms herself or worse get pregnant!
:eek:
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My response:

Have you heard of my patented and copyrighted "Brazilian Method"?

IAAL
 
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Wolflmg

Member
Well for one you need to try to get dads act together, before your daughter falls more onto the wrong path.

I would suggest consouling/therapy for her, and perhaps look into the teen restreat type program that help trouble teens. It helps to determin their problems and is a big eye opener.

You can do something about the 25 year old man, you can press charges agaisnt him, and put a restraining order agaisnt him to stay away from your daughter. And if he had sex with her, that's crime. An adult cannot have sex with a minor. So if he did, he would be in big trouble with the law.

Here are a few sight on those retreat type programs. It would really be a good thing to get her into one of these, before she whinds up pregnant or gets into jail. And I know you don't want that to happen.
I hope these sights help you out.

http://www.troubledteen101.com/
http://www.help4troubledteens.com/directory/teen-health-problem.html
http://www.help4troubledteens.com/directory/teen-problem.html
http://www.redcliffascent.com/
http://www.focusas.com/NewJersey.html
http://www.boot-camp-boot-camps.com/resources/United_States/NJ
http://faculty.ncwc.edu/toconnor/juvjusp.htm
http://www.riteofpassage.com/index.htm
http://www.troubledteenministries.com/
http://www.teenprogram.info/schools/index?type=Boarding+School&state=nj
 
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GothicAngel

Member
Thank you so much for your replies. I will look into those sites and I hope one or more is helpful. This is'nt the first time she has done this. I know that I should have mention it before, but right not I'm trying to keep a 28 year old man in jail because he raped her. And for some reason counseling is not setting in because she is still chatting with older men? I'm just trying to figure what I'm doing wrong as a parent? :(
 
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I AM ALWAYS LIABLE

Senior Member
My response:

My "Brazilian Method" is far less expensive than any "program" and has guaranteed, permanent, results.

Let me know if you'd like more information.

IAAL
 
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OhBullship

Guest
GothicAngel said:
Thank you so much for your replies. I will look into those sites and I hope one or more is helpful. This is'nt the first time she has done this. I know that I should have mention it before, but right not I'm trying to keep a 28 year old man in jail because he raped her. And for some reason counseling is not setting in because she is still chatting with older men? I'm just trying to figure what I'm doing wrong as a parent? :(
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Being raped could be the problem, that isn't something little girls just get over so it might not be your parenting. You are the parent and you need to take that back, but considering the circumstances you might be the only person she feels secure enough with to express the type of anger and frustration she is feeling. How long ago did it happen?


I'm not exactly giving you a free pass here, while it might not be your fault it is your responsibility to get her back on track, she is depending on you to be mom and it isn't up to her to make that happen, it's up to you. You might try family counseling instead of just sending her.
 
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OhBullship

Guest
needhelpnow111 said:
Oh no, please... don't say it... she was TALKING to a 25 year old man??? TALKING????? Wow. Have you ever stopped to think... maybe it was her teacher, a friend's brother, a sales-person? Why do you have to automatically assume he's banging the hell out of her?

Oh, and has there ever lived a 15-year-old girl who has never called her mom a bitc*?

You knew what you were getting into... I'm not a parent, but I know from what my sister puts my parents through, your situation is completely normal.

However, because of the "physical abuse (a little more detail would help)," I would fully suggest IAAL's Brazilian Method as well.
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Did you actually read her post or are you just stupid?
 
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OhBullship

Guest
needhelpnow111 said:
Well, I did. Perhaps you could actually point out where I was wrong.

Instead of just being stupid...
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Her child was raped dumbas$. The behavior is also not normal or acceptable. Why don't you go get the 'help' your name suggestes you need.
 
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needhelpnow111

Junior Member
Okay, I'm sorry. I didn't see the second post she wrote. In my own fairness, I think it would have been a little more appropriate for her to have noted it in her first post. Once again, my mistake.

With that information, perhaps you should try a counseling program like our esteemed colleague has prescribed for me.
 
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Cynthia Harring

Junior Member
In the same boat

I understand exactly where you are coming from. Unless, someone has
been through this they do not understand. I have a daughter that is now
17, almost 18, and she started acting that way at the age of 13. I have
done everything possible to stop this girl. I have even pressed charges
against her for hitting me. She went to boot camp. I also sent her to a
wilderness program. Nothing has helped. And oh yes, we've been to therapists, psychiatrists and the list goes on. These programs do not work.
I have come to the conclusion that if a child decides that they are not going
to listen, they won't. I just wanted to say to you, do not feel guilty. You have done nothing wrong. People will look at you like why can't you get this
under control? But if you do one thing for yourself, do not put yourself on a constant guilt trip over this.
 
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