I really need someone to help me with this question!

[ihavehope]

What is the name of your state? PA

Ten years ago when I left my marriage with my two children, my step-mother co-signed a lease for me to rent an apartment for a year. This wasn't in a very nice area to raise my children, so after the lease was up I was hoping to purchase a home. I was unable to get a mortgage on my own so my step-mother once again co-signed the loan, making her a co-owner. It was basically a low risk investment for her, and then I could have a nice home for myself and my children. After about six years the neighborhood was again not so great, I was on SSDI and again unable to get a mortgage, so again my step-mother helped me out. Now after being married for about 2 1/2 years (husband not on title), my now husband just up and left me for another women. With only having child support and SSDI as my income, I can no longer afford my home. I had to file bankrupcy about a year ago, because the only way I was affording my home and my bills was by using cash advances from my credit cards. Because the housing market has been pretty good in my area....we could make a pretty good profit when I finally sell the house. My question is: In my current financial possition I am unable to afford to live comfortably (upper/lower class) in my current area, I have family and friends in FL where (if my step-mother helped me again) I could afford a very nice home in a very nice area. Because my ex-husband is fighting my move, he is trying to say that any money made off of the sale of my house should go toward rent or purchase of something in my current area. I know my step-mother would gladly help me again allowing me to use the profit from the house, and co-signing a loan again (if I asked her to). If I went to FL the property that we would buy would be a good investment of the money, and I would be able to live comfortably with my children on my fixed income. If it wasn't for my step-mother co-signing these loans I would have nothing....can a judge really force me to stay in PA???? We never agreed that money made on any of these properties would be mine, infact originally we said that if she took the risk on me....she would get any profit and/or tax benefit.....it just happens that if I ask her to help me again she probably will in order to give her grand-kids a better life. Can they force her to give me half the money and co-sign a lease or mortgage?????.....especially since that is not what I want?????

**My question is......what can I do to prevent being forced to stay in this area???? Other than this problem with the profit from my house, every other aspect of the case is in my favor.

I hope someone can give me some help with this.....thank you.

 

[trblchic4]

as far as the situationwith your house that can go either way that is more between u and ur mom or whatever but as far as having o stay in yor area it depends how bad the father wants to press the issue he could fight nd the judge could very well say u have to stay there i know becsaeu i am fighting with my soon to be ex about the very issue i want to go to nc and he is fighting for me to have to stay here because of the kids. i wish u the best of luck

 

[stealth2]

Your ex can't make YOU stay in PA. However, he CAN keep you from removing the children from the state. If he's been even somewhat regularly involved with the kids - he's got a good shot at that.

 

[kat1963]

You expect the court to believe that your step mom co-signed a mortgage for you, you make all the payments yet she gets all the tax benefits and ALL profits? It doesn’t make any sense to me & I seriously doubt it will to the courts. It does appear however that 1. You are trying to not pay your ex an equitable division of (your half) the property while you were married 2. You are trying to use the *no money, poor disabled mommy* situation to gain sympathy from the court in order to move the children away from their father as punishment for him leaving the marriage.
This is how you contradict yourself:
“…we could make a pretty good profit when I finally sell the house.”
“…she would get any profit and/or tax benefit.”
Reeks of fraud to me. Stop the games before you lose custody. Don't like what I have to say then just wait for the judge, if I can see it he/she likely will too.
KAT

 

[ihavehope]

in response to your very disrespectful thread.

You expect the court to believe that your step mom co-signed a mortgage for you, you make all the payments yet she gets all the tax benefits and ALL profits? It doesn’t make any sense to me & I seriously doubt it will to the courts. It does appear however that 1. You are trying to not pay your ex an equitable division of (your half) the property while you were married 2. You are trying to use the *no money, poor disabled mommy* situation to gain sympathy from the court in order to move the children away from their father as punishment for him leaving the marriage.
This is how you contradict yourself:
“…we could make a pretty good profit when I finally sell the house.”
“…she would get any profit and/or tax benefit.”
Reeks of fraud to me. Stop the games before you lose custody. Don't like what I have to say then just wait for the judge, if I can see it he/she likely will too.
KAT

You obviously didn't read my question currectly. I am not trying to punish the father of my children for leaving me.....since I left him 10 years ago, because he was abusive to myself and my children. My second husband who has no children with me is the one who recently left me, and has left me unable to pay my bills and mortgage.

As far as your response....you may want to consider the fact that you don't even know me and to make negative comments regarding my disablility is very rude and disrespectful.

My question was asking for help not judgement. I will assume you are just any angry, judgemental person who must not be very happy....and you can be sure I will not let your negativity affect me one bit.

 

[stealth2]

People can only base responses on what you have posted. Which has basically shown that you are unable to provide for your kids on your own. Frankly, if you were my ex, I would be seriously considering filing for a change in custody at this point.

 

[Ron1347]

What is the name of your state? PA

Ten years ago when I left my marriage with my two children, my step-mother co-signed a lease for me to rent an apartment for a year. This wasn't in a very nice area to raise my children, so after the lease was up I was hoping to purchase a home. I was unable to get a mortgage on my own so my step-mother once again co-signed the loan, making her a co-owner. It was basically a low risk investment for her, and then I could have a nice home for myself and my children. After about six years the neighborhood was again not so great, I was on SSDI and again unable to get a mortgage, so again my step-mother helped me out. Now after being married for about 2 1/2 years (husband not on title), my now husband just up and left me for another women. With only having child support and SSDI as my income, I can no longer afford my home. I had to file bankrupcy about a year ago, because the only way I was affording my home and my bills was by using cash advances from my credit cards. Because the housing market has been pretty good in my area....we could make a pretty good profit when I finally sell the house. My question is: In my current financial possition I am unable to afford to live comfortably (upper/lower class) in my current area, I have family and friends in FL where (if my step-mother helped me again) I could afford a very nice home in a very nice area. Because my ex-husband is fighting my move, he is trying to say that any money made off of the sale of my house should go toward rent or purchase of something in my current area. I know my step-mother would gladly help me again allowing me to use the profit from the house, and co-signing a loan again (if I asked her to). If I went to FL the property that we would buy would be a good investment of the money, and I would be able to live comfortably with my children on my fixed income. If it wasn't for my step-mother co-signing these loans I would have nothing....can a judge really force me to stay in PA???? We never agreed that money made on any of these properties would be mine, infact originally we said that if she took the risk on me....she would get any profit and/or tax benefit.....it just happens that if I ask her to help me again she probably will in order to give her grand-kids a better life. Can they force her to give me half the money and co-sign a lease or mortgage?????.....especially since that is not what I want?????

**My question is......what can I do to prevent being forced to stay in this area???? Other than this problem with the profit from my house, every other aspect of the case is in my favor.

I hope someone can give me some help with this.....thank you.

Umm...aren't you saying that your children are from a 1st marriage? And aren't you saying that the issue you are having right now isn't with your 1st husband (the father of the children), but with a 2nd husband, who is not the father of any of your children? Your details have confused me a bit. I've re-read it a couple of times, but my mind isn't seeming to wrap around it. Sorry.

Okay...never mind...re-read it a 5th time. Your 'ex', I got it. The other guy isn't your ex...yet.

 

[LdiJ]

Umm...aren't you saying that your children are from a 1st marriage? And aren't you saying that the issue you are having right now isn't with your 1st husband (the father of the children), but with a 2nd husband, who is not the father of any of your children? Your details have confused me a bit. I've re-read it a couple of times, but my mind isn't seeming to wrap around it. Sorry.

Her second husband is the cause of her current financial problems. Her first husband, the father of her children, is the one who may prevent her from making the move she feels she needs to make, to better her financial situation.