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Ukiah
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Hey, I've begun to write up something to possibly present to Court. I'm not done yet... This is only the begining. Can you give me your opinion on this as well as pointers? Please?
Here it is....
My Boyfriend and I live in a one-bedroom home. We have lived in the same house for over two years in a quiet “country- like” neighborhood. Which includes neighbors having horses, and other farm animals. The property we live on is owned by my boyfriend’s family. Though we are not in a rush to get married, my boyfriend and I are in a committed monogamous relationship.
There isn’t much traffic on our dead-end street. All levels of school are within close proximity of our residence. The Elementary school is around the corner from us. The Junior High school and High Schools are approximately one mile away. Even though we are considered to be living in the country, stores are easily accessible; most are within walking distance.
When the county approves the plans to building a second story as well as a recreation room on the existing lot, Akima will have a room of her own. As I have not had a complete view at the plans, I believe her room will be within the dimensions of 12X14. These plans include making the living room area larger, which will include room for our office and study area. There is a yard to play in which has grass, as well as freedom to roam the one-acre property.
In our community, Akima will be able to enroll in and attend various activities, if she chooses. Such as dance, softball, martial arts, and any other kind of extracurricular activity. There are small amusement parks, one with rides, and others with ponds in which to feed ducks and walk our family dog.
I have always been in my daughter’s life. Nurturing her self-esteem and confidence, giving encouragement, showing support in anything she does, helping her cope with frustrations, and anxieties. I have been active in her education, participating in school functions, parent/teacher conferences, being a chaperone on fieldtrips, helping within the classroom and assisting with homework when allowed. I call Akima once a week, I would like to call her more, and wish she were allowed to call me as often as she wanted or needed.
My daughter and I have what I would consider a great relationship, even though she is young, she is able to comprehend what I am saying to her. When she is visiting, we are virtually inseparable! We do a lot of activities together; Talking about events in her life (good or bad), going to Garage Sales, and Thrift Shops, taking the family dog for walks, or taking a walk together. We go to the park and play on the equipment, watch movies together, and play dress-up (usually with my clothes). Together, Akima and I have searched the Internet for subjects she is interested in. At times Akima has confided that she wished she lived with me, drawing pictures with the same intentions, and asking that I drop her off at school (with having done so in the past).
We have had disagreements; I will admit that. We have successfully worked through most of them, if it is in her best interest to compromise (i.e. trading of a chore), I will allow her to negotiate a special consideration. If it is not in her best interest (i.e. riding her bike without a helmet) I will hold steadfast and allow her to be angry. She has thrown fits, and when left to think about her actions, she apologizes for her them. I have tried not to spoil her too much, but on the other hand give her what I feel she needs most in life, unconditional love, stability, discipline and a nurturing environment. Of course, every now and then, a few unnecessary wants never hurt anyone.
In the past as well as present, Akima has been emotional, crying over what seems to be small issues. She has cried when spilling milk, losing money or a toy and forgetting homework, or a book. This year, her schooling has suffered. She has not been getting the proper amount of sleep, seems more stressed over the “what ifs” of any situation. She has been made to keep “secrets” from her teacher’s by not telling them she has moved 50 miles away to a new county and town, along with a few others, such as not being able to talk about her new babysitter, or mention the fact that her father is not home 3 to 4 nights a week, or even simple pleasures as to places she may be going to or have visited. I have noticed she is a bit more relaxed in our home, until Sunday, and then when she realizes she has to go back to her dad’s, she acts out more, and gets frustrated easily.
I want to point out father's faults as parent, then conclude on a positive note as to what I feel is in the best interest of my (our) daughter. What do you think?
Ukiah
[Edited by Ukiah on 04-24-2001 at 10:45 PM]
Here it is....
My Boyfriend and I live in a one-bedroom home. We have lived in the same house for over two years in a quiet “country- like” neighborhood. Which includes neighbors having horses, and other farm animals. The property we live on is owned by my boyfriend’s family. Though we are not in a rush to get married, my boyfriend and I are in a committed monogamous relationship.
There isn’t much traffic on our dead-end street. All levels of school are within close proximity of our residence. The Elementary school is around the corner from us. The Junior High school and High Schools are approximately one mile away. Even though we are considered to be living in the country, stores are easily accessible; most are within walking distance.
When the county approves the plans to building a second story as well as a recreation room on the existing lot, Akima will have a room of her own. As I have not had a complete view at the plans, I believe her room will be within the dimensions of 12X14. These plans include making the living room area larger, which will include room for our office and study area. There is a yard to play in which has grass, as well as freedom to roam the one-acre property.
In our community, Akima will be able to enroll in and attend various activities, if she chooses. Such as dance, softball, martial arts, and any other kind of extracurricular activity. There are small amusement parks, one with rides, and others with ponds in which to feed ducks and walk our family dog.
I have always been in my daughter’s life. Nurturing her self-esteem and confidence, giving encouragement, showing support in anything she does, helping her cope with frustrations, and anxieties. I have been active in her education, participating in school functions, parent/teacher conferences, being a chaperone on fieldtrips, helping within the classroom and assisting with homework when allowed. I call Akima once a week, I would like to call her more, and wish she were allowed to call me as often as she wanted or needed.
My daughter and I have what I would consider a great relationship, even though she is young, she is able to comprehend what I am saying to her. When she is visiting, we are virtually inseparable! We do a lot of activities together; Talking about events in her life (good or bad), going to Garage Sales, and Thrift Shops, taking the family dog for walks, or taking a walk together. We go to the park and play on the equipment, watch movies together, and play dress-up (usually with my clothes). Together, Akima and I have searched the Internet for subjects she is interested in. At times Akima has confided that she wished she lived with me, drawing pictures with the same intentions, and asking that I drop her off at school (with having done so in the past).
We have had disagreements; I will admit that. We have successfully worked through most of them, if it is in her best interest to compromise (i.e. trading of a chore), I will allow her to negotiate a special consideration. If it is not in her best interest (i.e. riding her bike without a helmet) I will hold steadfast and allow her to be angry. She has thrown fits, and when left to think about her actions, she apologizes for her them. I have tried not to spoil her too much, but on the other hand give her what I feel she needs most in life, unconditional love, stability, discipline and a nurturing environment. Of course, every now and then, a few unnecessary wants never hurt anyone.
In the past as well as present, Akima has been emotional, crying over what seems to be small issues. She has cried when spilling milk, losing money or a toy and forgetting homework, or a book. This year, her schooling has suffered. She has not been getting the proper amount of sleep, seems more stressed over the “what ifs” of any situation. She has been made to keep “secrets” from her teacher’s by not telling them she has moved 50 miles away to a new county and town, along with a few others, such as not being able to talk about her new babysitter, or mention the fact that her father is not home 3 to 4 nights a week, or even simple pleasures as to places she may be going to or have visited. I have noticed she is a bit more relaxed in our home, until Sunday, and then when she realizes she has to go back to her dad’s, she acts out more, and gets frustrated easily.
I want to point out father's faults as parent, then conclude on a positive note as to what I feel is in the best interest of my (our) daughter. What do you think?
Ukiah
[Edited by Ukiah on 04-24-2001 at 10:45 PM]