Grandma B said:
Thank You GrandmaB, those kind words have made my day alot brighter after the Hellish weekend I have had.
I can honestly say that being able to come to these boards and help others keeps my mind off of what is going on in my turbulent life at the moment. Even if I have to do it from a reclining position with the heating pad, it is better then lying around going brain dead. I hope you have a Happy Holiday.
I had a siege of back problems several years ago, and you definitely have my deepest sympathies. It's especially difficult for those of us who don't enjoy lying around. Have they approved your surgery yet? Hope you can get some relief soon.
BTW, I was not able to return to FL because my s-i-l began paying. We'd been working on restoring the house he'd neglected through the years he was there, she sold it, and she and the kids moved here also. She had been given permission to move them in the divorce, but had to sell the house first. He had been paying $350 instead of the ordered $1,000 ($850+$150 for arrears judgment), but as is his habit in December, has paid nothing this month. She had a few liens against the house for other things he had been ordered to pay, which had to come out of her profit. I'm sure she could get a judgment for them, but you can't eat or live in judgments.
She did meet with CSE office before leaving up north and talked to them the other day. The judge had told him to go to the Clerk's office in April the same day as the divorce hearing to file a withhold and transmit form for the support, but he has never done it. CSE has to notify him first, but is planning to start involuntary payroll deduction. They said it might take 6-8 weeks to begin.
Anyway, we're all nestled down here in Sunny Florida (not quite so sunny today though), awaiting Santa's visit. Hope he's good to you and yours, and that you all have a very Merry Christmas! [/B][/QUOTE]
If all else fails, she can also see if she can get the DA in the county the support order was issued to file felony non support against the ex. I know how frustrating it is trying to get someone to pay when they know all the loopholes.
As for my surgery, well I am waiting for the decision now from the Contested Case Hearing... Should know something around the first of the year. This has been going on since April, you would think I would be used to hurry up and waiting but I am not. I cannot remember ever being out of work this long in the almost 20 yrs I have worked.
I hope you and your family do have the Merriest of Christmases and hopefully next year will bring better luck for all of us.
and the reason it is getting to me this week is because I had to go before a Administrative Judge for my WC hearing monday and I hate feeling weak and vulnerable and that is exactly how I get when I am testifying before a man in authority in a 3piece suit. I wither like a leaf in the wind in the fall.. LOL, (hard to imagine I know)..so it has just been a very emotionally turbulent week for me.. us Aries hate to admit we have weaknesses, and this week has been one very weak week for me.. *S*