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If I don't get to see her, why should I pay support?

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I live in Indiana, and I payed my support for 4 years, and now because I don't get to see her, I stopped paying. Now she is taking me to court about back support. Can she do that? Is there anything I can do to fight this? Any advice is good advice. Thank you for taking the time to read this and responde.
 


I AM ALWAYS LIABLE

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HunterX said:
I live in Indiana, and I payed my support for 4 years, and now because I don't get to see her, I stopped paying. Now she is taking me to court about back support. Can she do that? Is there anything I can do to fight this? Any advice is good advice. Thank you for taking the time to read this and responde.



My response:

Visitation and Child Support are exclusive of each other; i.e., when you don't visit, that doesn't mean you don't pay.

You're about to get a huge lesson in court.

IAAL
 
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HunterX thanks Liable

Well, I have to say foremost, I didn't stop paying to be mean or anything....I thought that is how it worked.....oh well, I have time to pay the back support and become current, but I thought she could not do that to a paying father. Thanks again for your advice. Take care
 

tigger22472

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Per your other post.. and the answer you were given ... without a court order for visitation she wasnt' LEGALLY obligated to abide by it. To prevent this from happening again you need to file for visitation.
 

nextwife

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Even if you had a CO that she was refusing to cooperate with (like my husband's ex) you STILL are obligated to pay, even if she is found in contempt. They are legally seperate issues.

The law, in general, treats failure to obey visitation orders far less punitively than it does failure to pay CS. Unpaid CS is collectable forever, but uncollected visitation can never truly be paid back.

But, in your case, you don't even have a visitation order to have enforced. So get to court and address this. Why have you let this go on so many years with no legal right to visitation?
 

carofl93

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You quit paying child support because you haven't gotten to see your child? And you actually think that you can fight the CS order in court? Hee hee hee...I needed a good laugh this morning. I believe the judge is going to eat you alive. You should have gone back to court when your child's mother stopped visitation...not the road you took with non payment of support. Chld support and visitation are 2 totally separate things.
 
The only one you may hurt is your child. Dont be such a baby. Even though your ex wont let you see her, you have rights. That become less valued when you are a deadbeat father.
Take her to court, dont be a heel and abandon your child. You picked this crazy person, now deal with it.
My ex had a ex who was insane. He could not see his kid if I was around. He chose not to play her games. He chose to stay with me, and fight her in court. Since he has a background, they only let him see her one hour a week at McDonalds. Now the kid is 18 and lives with her Dad. He always tried to not pay c/s and I made him. It is the right thing to do.
 

karma1

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prettyredhead said:
The only one you may hurt is your child. Dont be such a baby. Even though your ex wont let you see her, you have rights. That become less valued when you are a deadbeat father.
Take her to court, dont be a heel and abandon your child. You picked this crazy person, now deal with it.
My ex had a ex who was insane. He could not see his kid if I was around. He chose not to play her games. He chose to stay with me, and fight her in court. Since he has a background, they only let him see her one hour a week at McDonalds. Now the kid is 18 and lives with her Dad. He always tried to not pay c/s and I made him. It is the right thing to do.


WELL thats a huge surprise--you have an ex??
BAHHHHHH!
 
I feel your pain. My husband pays $300/month for a child he has not been allowed to see for over a year (and all because his ex doesn't like that we got married.) We are just now getting ready to go to court to enforce visitation. Nonetheless, they are right. CS and visitation are separate issues. My husband's ex will find that out in court as well because she believes she has the right to withhold visitation for child support arrears.
 

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