Is it possible to annul adoption of stepchildren that are now adults?

[kissmcneil]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma

My husband adopted his then wife's children 20 years ago. They have since been divorced for 15+ years and he did fulfill his support obligations until the youngest was 18. Two of the three children adopted have since taken back their birth names and none of them have anything to do with him and have not for many years. He is trying to move forward in his life and has since disinherited them in his will and of course has no legal obligation to them, but when he has to do security clearances for his job, he has to list them and yet he has to state that he does not know their addresses etc since he has not had contact with them for so many years. Can he now legally annul that adoption or list them as children? What is the process? Thank you so much for your help.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma

My husband adopted his then wife's children 20 years ago. They have since been divorced for 15+ years and he did fulfill his support obligations until the youngest was 18. Two of the three children adopted have since taken back their birth names and none of them have anything to do with him and have not for many years. He is trying to move forward in his life and has since disinherited them in his will and of course has no legal obligation to them, but when he has to do security clearances for his job, he has to list them and yet he has to state that he does not know their addresses etc since he has not had contact with them for so many years. Can he now legally annul that adoption or list them as children? What is the process? Thank you so much for your help.

He cannot divorce his children. They are his children. There is no process to divorce your children. He is stuck with them as his children forever.

 

[Silverplum]

The adoption made them his children, legally. They are not his stepchildren.

 

[kissmcneil]

He cannot divorce his children. They are his children. There is no process to divorce your children. He is stuck with them as his children forever.

That is disappointing. They truly have nothing to do with him and have treated him so badly and want to hurt him any way they can. It is a sad situation.

 

[Zigner]

That is disappointing. They truly have nothing to do with him and have treated him so badly and want to hurt him any way they can. It is a sad situation.

So why would he increase the drama? And why would you, the loving new wife, want to encourage this additional drama?

 

[Ohiogal]

That is disappointing. They truly have nothing to do with him and have treated him so badly and want to hurt him any way they can. It is a sad situation.

Maybe if he had been a better or more involved father, they would have something to do with him. He is partially to blame for this situation. He needs to own his fault.

 

[Silverplum]

That is disappointing. They truly have nothing to do with him and have treated him so badly and want to hurt him any way they can. It is a sad situation.

It happens in biological families, also.

 

[Ohiogal]

It happens in biological families, also.

Did you note what I noted?

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma

My husband adopted his then wife's children 20 years ago. They have since been divorced for 15+ years and he did fulfill his support obligations until the youngest was 18. Two of the three children adopted have since taken back their birth names and none of them have anything to do with him and have not for many years. He is trying to move forward in his life and has since disinherited them in his will and of course has no legal obligation to them, but when he has to do security clearances for his job, he has to list them and yet he has to state that he does not know their addresses etc since he has not had contact with them for so many years. Can he now legally annul that adoption or list them as children? What is the process? Thank you so much for your help.

it says nothing about the emotional or physical part of parenting. It says nothing about dad being involved or trying to be involved. It is all about how he was FINANCIALLY there. If that is the case, it is no wonder that the kids have nothing to do with him -- he was not there for them in all the ways a parent should be.

 

[justalayman]

if his kids really don't like him as much as he doesn't like them, maybe they can find somebody to adopt them (if adult adoption is a possibility in whatever states they live) and remove him as the father.



If he thinks this will change anything concerning a security clearance issue, he is mistaken. He is better off simply telling the truth and going from there.

 

[sandyclaus]

"Well, THAT escalated quickly!"

<SIGH> My kids hate me and treat me like crap, so I want to make them NOT my kids anymore.

Yeah, like trying to annul an adoption is going to solve anything here.

No one says he has to interact with his children if they are being spoiled adult brats and not treating him nicely. But going to the extreme of actually trying to reverse an adoption of it? That's quite a bit over the top.

There's a reason why the kids are acting the way they are. Maybe it's stepdad's fault, maybe it's mom's fault. But terminating the relationship by legal means isn't the solution.

 

[Silverplum]

<SIGH> My kids hate me and treat me like crap, so I want to make them NOT my kids anymore.

Yeah, like trying to annul an adoption is going to solve anything here.

No one says he has to interact with his children if they are being spoiled adult brats and not treating him nicely. But going to the extreme of actually trying to reverse an adoption of it? That's quite a bit over the top.

There's a reason why the kids are acting the way they are. Maybe it's stepdad's fault, maybe it's mom's fault. But terminating the relationship by legal means isn't the solution.

The children are already disinherited.

 

[kissmcneil]

WAIT I think this was taken quiet out of context

Wait a minute! I wasn't trying to be rude and there are a lot of complex issues at hand here. The only reason that I stated that he fulfilled his financial obligation is that I didn't want anyone thinking that he was trying to avoid that. I have read many posts prior to posting this and wanted to make sure that was NOT perceived as the issue. I will say that he went way above and beyond for these children at the expense of his natural born children. I was not around for much of this and was only asking on where to go from here. He tried to contact the children many times over the years and continued to send cards, presents etc. I was trying to avoid getting into a lot of the details. He is also not trying to lie on anything and has been nothing but upstanding and truthful and good hearted man. They have been influenced by their mother and treat him very hateful and yet he still to this day refuses to speak evil about her. I was only asking about legal advice and not moral advice. This man has truly walk long and hard miles. I don't want to start any drama, I don't want to start anything. I was just asking. I am sorry I got everyone so upset. (the title was suppose to "taken quite out of context" not quiet)

 

[Silverplum]

Wait a minute! I wasn't trying to be rude and there are a lot of complex issues at hand here. The only reason that I stated that he fulfilled his financial obligation is that I didn't want anyone thinking that he was trying to avoid that. I have read many posts prior to posting this and wanted to make sure that was NOT perceived as the issue. I will say that he went way above and beyond for these children at the expense of his natural born children. I was not around for much of this and was only asking on where to go from here. He tried to contact the children many times over the years and continued to send cards, presents etc. I was trying to avoid getting into a lot of the details. He is also not trying to lie on anything and has been nothing but upstanding and truthful and good hearted man. They have been influenced by their mother and treat him very hateful and yet he still to this day refuses to speak evil about her. I was only asking about legal advice and not moral advice. This man has truly walk long and hard miles. I don't want to start any drama, I don't want to start anything. I was just asking. I am sorry I got everyone so upset. (the title was suppose to "taken quite out of context" not quiet)

I can see that. Thanks for reading prior posts.

 

[justalayman]

as I said; annuling the adoption or they being adopted as adults by others really is not going to change anything regarding a security clearance check of any importance. They would find out about the kids one way or another anyway (like checking his financial records where he issued the child support payments from)/ If they see that and he claims no kids, what do you think their first thoughts will be at that point? Mine would go right to;
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'he lied"




I think he is better off leaving things the way they are and explaining the lack of contact however it is.

 

[Ohiogal]

Wait a minute! I wasn't trying to be rude and there are a lot of complex issues at hand here. The only reason that I stated that he fulfilled his financial obligation is that I didn't want anyone thinking that he was trying to avoid that. I have read many posts prior to posting this and wanted to make sure that was NOT perceived as the issue. I will say that he went way above and beyond for these children at the expense of his natural born children. I was not around for much of this and was only asking on where to go from here. He tried to contact the children many times over the years and continued to send cards, presents etc. I was trying to avoid getting into a lot of the details. He is also not trying to lie on anything and has been nothing but upstanding and truthful and good hearted man. They have been influenced by their mother and treat him very hateful and yet he still to this day refuses to speak evil about her. I was only asking about legal advice and not moral advice. This man has truly walk long and hard miles. I don't want to start any drama, I don't want to start anything. I was just asking. I am sorry I got everyone so upset. (the title was suppose to "taken quite out of context" not quiet)

Thank you for clarifying. YOu didn't have to apologize. The issue is that these children are HIS children -- just as his natural born children are. No, really. The fact that you differentiate -- don't do that. Just don't. If he treated them differently than his other children that is on him. There were things he could have done when the children were minors but he can't do it now.
He also cannot annul his children.