Is it worth it?

[swtwilma]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ

I feel that my life is one legal drama after another, but I was just wanting some advice from non-family.

My 3 kids dad has them for 6 weeks in the summer (per parenting plan) We decided on him having an extra week with them since he has them less during the school year.

Dad's new wife took all the kids on vacation out of state, but dad stayed home (in AZ).

10 days later dad met kids and new wife.

5 days later dad left and came back to AZ and new wife and kids stayed on vacation.

I was informed of the vacation time but was told they would all be back. As of now I was told the kids and step mom will be back when they are ready and prior to my parenting time.

This is his vacation time and that is why I am wondering if it is worth even saying anything but I find it sad that my children are with their step mom and not with their dad when the entire reason we decided on him having more time with them in the summer was so that HE could spend more time with the kids.

I also realize that this is his loss and time that he will not get back. I also know that my children are upset that they are with their step mom and not with their dad.

Do I just shut my mouth and let my kids (11, 9 and 7) say something to Dad if they have a problem with it?

I am not a child of divorce but I was a child. When I was a child I would much rather have been spending time with my mom and dad than with anyone else.

What would be the best way to deal with this?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? AZ

I feel that my life is one legal drama after another, but I was just wanting some advice from non-family.

My 3 kids dad has them for 6 weeks in the summer (per parenting plan) We decided on him having an extra week with them since he has them less during the school year.

Dad's new wife took all the kids on vacation out of state, but dad stayed home (in AZ).

10 days later dad met kids and new wife.

5 days later dad left and came back to AZ and new wife and kids stayed on vacation.

I was informed of the vacation time but was told they would all be back. As of now I was told the kids and step mom will be back when they are ready and prior to my parenting time.

This is his vacation time and that is why I am wondering if it is worth even saying anything but I find it sad that my children are with their step mom and not with their dad when the entire reason we decided on him having more time with them in the summer was so that HE could spend more time with the kids.

I also realize that this is his loss and time that he will not get back. I also know that my children are upset that they are with their step mom and not with their dad.

Do I just shut my mouth and let my kids (11, 9 and 7) say something to Dad if they have a problem with it?

I am not a child of divorce but I was a child. When I was a child I would much rather have been spending time with my mom and dad than with anyone else.

What would be the best way to deal with this?

If you and dad can communicate at all, then it wouldn't hurt to tell him that the children are disappointed that they are spending time with stepmom instead of spending time with dad, and that the whole point of him having extra time in the summer was so the kids could spend time with him.

However, I suspect that the real problem is that stepmom is his daycare provider, and stepmom wants this extended vacation.

 

[stealth2]

I would likely leave it be, but be less accommodating of extra time in the future.