Is This Legally Acceptable?

[Badhead]

What is the name of your state? Minnesota

I have physical custody and share legal custody with exhusband. Ex has had the same girlfriend, now a fiance, for about 6 years now. She is NOT stepmother legally as of yet.

Needless to say, her and I do NOT get along, which is a separate issue anyway. My question is this: when it is ex's weekend, and he is out of town for hunting/fishing trip for 2 weeks and fiance wants to pick up my son to keep him for weekend, is that legal? My ex makes no prior arrangement with me about this. She comes to pick son up and just takes him to wherever they go. Aren't there any laws stating the physical custody parent has a right to know where the child is going (whether out of state or whatever)? Shouldn't arrangements be made beforehand and be approved also?

What about child conferences for school? She has participated in each school conference and commented negatively each time, making my son feel terrible. But, again, that's another issue for another time. Don't I have some say over how can participate in my son's school conference? Could I just invite some friend of mine and that would be okay?

Just looking for input here. Thanks for your support.


Badhead in MN

 

[haiku]

I cannot answer all of your post, but I do know, unless otherwise stated in a parenting agreement, the NCP has the freedom to do what they want with thier children during thier visitation time with the child without prior approval of the CP, this includes leaving thier kids with other people, and trips to "timbuktu" as long as the child is returned at the designated time.

 

[LdiJ]

I cannot answer all of your post, but I do know, unless otherwise stated in a parenting agreement, the NCP has the freedom to do what they want with thier children during thier visitation time with the child without prior approval of the CP, this includes leaving thier kids with other people, and trips to "timbuktu" as long as the child is returned at the designated time.

Sorry, but I don't agree with that one. Not if dad isn't going to be there at all. The fiancee isn't a family member. Mom cannot be held in contempt for not providing visitation to dad's fiancee.

However it would probably be best for mom to take it back to court and to get wording put into the orders that if dad isn't to be present then the child stays with mom.

 

[stealth2]

It wasn't overly clear to me if the fiancee was picking the kid up and spending the weekend just the two of them, or if she was taking the kid to wherever Dad is.

 

[LdiJ]

It wasn't overly clear to me if the fiancee was picking the kid up and spending the weekend just the two of them, or if she was taking the kid to wherever Dad is.

Well, now that you mention it that could be the case. If so, then that's different. However I do agree that the other parent has the right to know where the child is....whichever parent is taking the child out of town. If that is the primary issue then mom can ask for wording reflecting that to be added to the orders.

 

[haiku]

i took the poster to be asking in part of her question as to whether she had the right to "pre-approve' what dad or who he deems responsible for the kids during his time can do with them.

And as I stated unless otherwise noted in the papers, she does not.

QUOTE FRONM BADHEAD:"She comes to pick son up and just takes him to wherever they go. Aren't there any laws stating the physical custody parent has a right to know where the child is going (whether out of state or whatever)? Shouldn't arrangements be made beforehand and be approved also?"