What is the name of your state? Texas
I have twins that just turned 4 years old. Father has only been an active part in their lives about three months since they were eight months old. He became active in july 2005 unitl october 2005 when he met a new girlfriend and our parental relationship went to pot. Here is the problem I am haveing. He refuses to discuss anything with me. Medical, school, insurance, etc...Anything that I have to include him on in order to raise the kids as a joint conservator. He hasn't seen the kids since october, but calls me about every other day and asks how they are doing. If I say anything other than they are fine he refuses to discuss the issue with me and hangs up. His girlfriend (who now lives with him) refuses to let him talk on the phone if I call. For example, my daughter needs tubes put in her ears and there is information that we need to discuss about the procedure and his insurance and he refuses to even discuss it with me, and it is something that HE has to call his insurance company about (I already tried) and he will not do it. Me trying to reason with him about this (like any other time) it ends up in a big upheval, useally ending in his girlfriend and I screaming at each other, or they just refusing to answer the phone so I am left just dangling in the air wondering what I am going to do to take care of my child. It hass gotten to the point that I cannot deal with this predicament anymore. It leaves me angry and upset and him laughing because I need something from him and he has control by not giving it to me. His girlfriend has even stooped to the point of calling our children ugly names, and my ex does nothing. It is obvious that the phone calls he makes to me to "check on his kids" are really just phone calls to cause confrontation and arguements. My question is can I elect a mediator (such as my mom(the kids grandma)) and have him call her and not me to make these "checks" on the children. I speak with my mom several times a day every day and she knows everything about my children, so she would be able to inform him on how they are. Sadly though, I think that if he doesn't get to start conflict by talking to me he will quit calling altogether. I no longer want this conflict with him and I feel that I have exhausted every attempt to have a parenting relationship with this man as long as his girlfriend is in the picture. I have even stooped to begging and pleading with the two, and they jsut laugh at me. Can the calls go through my mother legally, or am I in contempt if I do not answer my phone when he calls? Also, is there anything that can be done about his failure to cammunicate about his "joint" part of the decree? I have sent him several certified letters and he refuses them, and I have sent him the same letters through the regular mail and e-mails, and he says that he does not receive them. I have told him that he is free to sign over his rights, and not pay a cent of child support, but he says no, this is too much fun!!!
I have twins that just turned 4 years old. Father has only been an active part in their lives about three months since they were eight months old. He became active in july 2005 unitl october 2005 when he met a new girlfriend and our parental relationship went to pot. Here is the problem I am haveing. He refuses to discuss anything with me. Medical, school, insurance, etc...Anything that I have to include him on in order to raise the kids as a joint conservator. He hasn't seen the kids since october, but calls me about every other day and asks how they are doing. If I say anything other than they are fine he refuses to discuss the issue with me and hangs up. His girlfriend (who now lives with him) refuses to let him talk on the phone if I call. For example, my daughter needs tubes put in her ears and there is information that we need to discuss about the procedure and his insurance and he refuses to even discuss it with me, and it is something that HE has to call his insurance company about (I already tried) and he will not do it. Me trying to reason with him about this (like any other time) it ends up in a big upheval, useally ending in his girlfriend and I screaming at each other, or they just refusing to answer the phone so I am left just dangling in the air wondering what I am going to do to take care of my child. It hass gotten to the point that I cannot deal with this predicament anymore. It leaves me angry and upset and him laughing because I need something from him and he has control by not giving it to me. His girlfriend has even stooped to the point of calling our children ugly names, and my ex does nothing. It is obvious that the phone calls he makes to me to "check on his kids" are really just phone calls to cause confrontation and arguements. My question is can I elect a mediator (such as my mom(the kids grandma)) and have him call her and not me to make these "checks" on the children. I speak with my mom several times a day every day and she knows everything about my children, so she would be able to inform him on how they are. Sadly though, I think that if he doesn't get to start conflict by talking to me he will quit calling altogether. I no longer want this conflict with him and I feel that I have exhausted every attempt to have a parenting relationship with this man as long as his girlfriend is in the picture. I have even stooped to begging and pleading with the two, and they jsut laugh at me. Can the calls go through my mother legally, or am I in contempt if I do not answer my phone when he calls? Also, is there anything that can be done about his failure to cammunicate about his "joint" part of the decree? I have sent him several certified letters and he refuses them, and I have sent him the same letters through the regular mail and e-mails, and he says that he does not receive them. I have told him that he is free to sign over his rights, and not pay a cent of child support, but he says no, this is too much fun!!!