Just out of curiosity

[stealth2]

Damn. I was going to applaud your grammatically correct post, until I got down to the end. BZZZZZZZT.

 

[stealth2]

Aaaah I bet Mr Wonderful is the one who pays alimony, eh?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

If I was "in charge" of legislation, receipents of any type of state or federal aid would NOT be allowed to vote! That would get the advocates out of office.

Thank GOD you aren't. But then, you'll never guess who was

 

[navy_kids]

What is the name of your state? PA
I ask this question out of curiosity. I have seen numerous posts here stating "my ex quit his/her job, my ex jumps from job to job, my ex took a low paying job so he/she doesn't have to pay, or pay a reduced % of child support" How can this be? When my ex took me for CS my payments were based on my "earning potential". Do the rules on this vary that much from state to state? Just curious.

is there an answer for the OP?
After all the hem-haw, do we not thunk he/she diserves some kind of answer lol
Tried to spell more words wrong but couldn't

 

[stealth2]

Generally, Flusstered, a voluntary decrease in income will not result in a decrease in the support obligation and the court will look at the NCP's (and often the CP's) earning potential. Unfortunately, tho, when someone is determined to not pay support, it's pretty easy to get out of doing it. By job-hopping, quitting, etc. The "punishments" for not paying tend to be difficult to enforce - how can you garnish a paycheck that doesn't exist? What difference does suspending a license make when the person doesn't get stopped by the cops? And so on.

Hope that helps answer your question.

Did you miss the above, navy-kid?

 

[topsidder]

Actually, my husband does not pay alimony. His ex is on her third marriage with a child out of wedlock. She is the bum! And, you guessed right, does not work.

Again, you are correct, I have personal experience with the system. I have witnessed failure, lies, and actual theft. Unfortunatly, the system is obsolved of all responsibility. They can do whatever strikes their fancy. I have a problem with that. And, as a tax payer, I will continue to monitor their activities, their "aides" (such as your site) activities, and their "evil doings"

I will always be an advocate for non custodial parents and I will speak about my personal experiences whenever I SO CHOOSE! That's in MY "best interest"

And, I have one piece of advice left for all the NCP's out there: When everyone is saying they are only interested in the "best interest of the child" remember this:

- The Judges
- The Attorney's (even yours Mr. NCP)
- The Schools
- The State System
- The Elected Officials
- The CP
- And, apparently, what you thought was free advice Websites ....
are all watching out for your Kid. They have all decided you are incapable of it, and will step up to the plate for ya. Trust me, the only "best interest" you need to be concerned about is yours. Your Kid is well protected. THEY have not lost THEIR constitiutional rights.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Oh brother

 

[Flusstered]

Wow!!

First, that me thank Stealth2 for your answer. As a WOMAN ( ) AND NCP, I appreciate it. Prior to my divorce I had a high paying, high stress admin job which I hated. I decided to go back to doing what I enjoyed, but it also came with a pay decrease of about half. It was shortly afterwards that my ex hit me with the CS and they based it on the income from the first job. Had I known, of course I would have never left that position, but no use crying over spilled milk. I did what I had to do, pay support. Secondly, Topsidder, get a grip okay? I have gotten nothing but educated by coming to this forum. I can't count how many times I've found the answers to my questions here without typing a word. I have an attorney, and these people have helped me more for free than he has. (but I'll keep him) From experience, NCP's have it tough, some more than others depending on your ex, but, without forums such as this, being an NCP would be impossible to get through. And think about it, these people here are giving up their time to try and help us poor slobs out and then they get asked some ridiculous questions, sure they're going to get a sarcastic comment. Responses like that give me a reason to smile It makes it easier to get through. And of course, if you don't like your answer, don't follow it, it's that easy. Words to live by: "Don't criticize me until you've walked a mile in my shoes" Again, thanks to all.