juvenile terror

[XoMICHELLEoX]

What is the name of your state?Pennsylvania
I have a 16 year old son and 3 daughters ages 14,10 and 9. My son has been a holy terror on the family. He has been through the juvenile court system for everything from arson to stealing cars. He seems to think that he can get his own way by bullying me with threats of violence. He has no reguard to rules (curfew, going to school, doing drugs, hanging with certain people...) My latest dilema with him was that he hit his youngest sister so hard that she still has knuckle bruises a week and a half later. Nobody seems to be able to help me. The police see him as a juvenile (even though the courts no longer will) so we are referred to county services. Currently, I threw him out of the house. He is staying with a friend and I am giving him the child support paid to me by his father(whom is a drug addict that doesn't even have a permanant home), and buying him food. I met with county services along with my son and he just made all kinds of outragious allegations about me and my current boyfriend. He said we are crackheads that smoked marijiuana WITH him!!!! He also alleged that the only reason I through him out is because he had been stealing our drugs!!! ( It was like all the things he had been caught up in back fired and he accused me of them!!!) Although we have had a problem with him stealing it has had nothing to do with drugs. He robbed all of his sisters piggy banks (which I now have locked in my bedroom), along with money out of my purse. It was like I was doing something wrong because he did not get his own way. His drinking and drugs and total disreguard to everyone in the family is scaring everyone, even friends and family. He has threatened me that if I lose his child support I am going to lose all my kids, he even had the odasity to tell the county service that his sisters would be better off some where else!! I told them I know what their goal is, it's to save the child that's being abused. I then told them I'm one step ahead of them, I removed the problem!!! Now my problem is how can I leagally "get rid" of my kid? ANY suggestions will greatly be appreciated.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state?Pennsylvania
I have a 16 year old son and 3 daughters ages 14,10 and 9. My son has been a holy terror on the family. He has been through the juvenile court system for everything from arson to stealing cars. He seems to think that he can get his own way by bullying me with threats of violence. He has no reguard to rules (curfew, going to school, doing drugs, hanging with certain people...)

And why not?

My latest dilema with him was that he hit his youngest sister so hard that she still has knuckle bruises a week and a half later. Nobody seems to be able to help me.

And did you or your daughter file domestic abuse charges against this punk?

The police see him as a juvenile (even though the courts no longer will) so we are referred to county services.

Again, why hasn't anyone charged him with battery or domestic assault?

Currently, I threw him out of the house. He is staying with a friend and I am giving him the child support paid to me by his father(whom is a drug addict that doesn't even have a permanant home), and buying him food.

So, you are rewarding his behavior. No wonder he doesn't change.

I met with county services along with my son and he just made all kinds of outragious allegations about me and my current boyfriend. He said we are crackheads that smoked marijiuana WITH him!!!! He also alleged that the only reason I through him out is because he had been stealing our drugs!!!

And what did you expect?

( It was like all the things he had been caught up in back fired and he accused me of them!!!) Although we have had a problem with him stealing it has had nothing to do with drugs. He robbed all of his sisters piggy banks (which I now have locked in my bedroom), along with money out of my purse. It was like I was doing something wrong because he did not get his own way.

Something wrong? Well, for starters, how about the fact that you have rewarded his violent behavior at every turn.
Why SHOULD he change?

His drinking and drugs and total disreguard to everyone in the family is scaring everyone, even friends and family. He has threatened me that if I lose his child support I am going to lose all my kids, he even had the odasity to tell the county service that his sisters would be better off some where else!!

And until you grow the hell up, I agree. His sisters don't need to become a victim of YOUR making.

I told them I know what their goal is, it's to save the child that's being abused. I then told them I'm one step ahead of them, I removed the problem!!! Now my problem is how can I leagally "get rid" of my kid? ANY suggestions will greatly be appreciated.

Great statement. You screwed up and now want to wash your hands of the problem.

Well, here's what you do.

1. STOP giving this punk any money.
2. FILE CHARGES of domestic abuse against him.
3. Have your daughter file battery charges against him.

And pray he doesn't kill someone while out of the home. You are still legally responsible for him.

 

[XoMICHELLEoX]

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And why not?

(And did you or your daughter file domestic abuse charges against this punk?)
he has been charged. The police arrested him, processed him and then released him back to my custody...So now there are fines to pay.
Again, why hasn't anyone charged him with battery or domestic assault?

So, you are rewarding his behavior. No wonder he doesn't change.

(And what did you expect?)
I expected that some type of punishment *placements through probation,*curfews etc.. would have made some impact on his life for him to want to be a better person.
(Something wrong? Well, for starters, how about the fact that you have rewarded his violent behavior at every turn.
Why SHOULD he change?)
having him arrested didn't seem to even phase him. There is no place else to help. I am disabled and that didn't stop him from being violent toward me. I never gave him money because of his drinking and partying. His father has failed here, not me. He thinks his father is soooo cool because he has bought him things, given him money and he too is a drug user. He just wont step up to the plate and put his foot up hisazz.
(And until you grow the hell up, I agree. His sisters don't need to become a victim of YOUR making.)
I think I recall calling 911 when his violence turned toward his sister... because he's a juvenile they, *the police, and county services, don't want to do anything to him because after the incident he left... Their comment to me was " how can he be a threat if he left?"
(Great statement. You screwed up and now want to wash your hands of the problem.)
I don't think I can possibly offer you enough details of the problems I have had with my son. I have done ,according to the "in-home" thereputic staff workers that monitored our household, everything right. He just has a problem with, and refuses,any authority.
Well, here's what you do.

(1. STOP giving this punk any money.
2. FILE CHARGES of domestic abuse against him.
3. Have your daughter file battery charges against him.)
1. I only gave him, *I prefer the term thug instead of punk, money after I MADE him leave my house. The money I gave him is to pay for the roof over his head until the law let's me get him out legally
2. Been there, done that.
3. Another fine is not going to help my daughter, But the counceling she is now receiving, should.
(And pray he doesn't kill someone while out of the home. You are still legally responsible for him.)

That's exactly what I said to the county children services. It's a shame that somebody has to be hurt or killed before anything can be done to stop people juveniles him. I'm looking for some answers to solve the problem. All I have been able to do is temporarily remove the problem from my household. Although according to the law, he can continue to break in to my house any time he wants because this is "where he lives". Believe me, the whole thing might sound frustrating to you like I haven't done anything, but that is not the case. According to the juvinile probation department, the courts are just waiting for him to commit a felony to lock him up in jail. And like you said, I hope and PRAY someone doesn't get hurt or killed.

 

[djohnson]

I'm banking on IAAL's brilliantly patented Brazil advice here. It would be perfect.

hint: It's one one way ticket and one round trip ticket. Guess who doesn't get to return.