Laws of boy/girl school age visitation

[angieb888]

What is the name of your state? ****land

If my fiance's children (a boy who is ten and a girl who is six) stay with us on weekends and some long holidays..are we required to provide them with seperate rooms to sleep in? I am hearing many different things and would LOVE to know the right answer. We are about to get a townhome and need to know if we need to get them seperate bedrooms for the little amount we see them or if bunk beds would be fine.

Please help me...time is running out....

 

[CJane]

You're not required by law to provide them with seperate rooms. However, as the boy approaches puberty, I'd make sure they weren't sharing. Know what I mean?

 

[wrkngmom]

If you think about the best interests of the children, then separate bedrooms are the way to go. You could also get creative and turn a large room into two separate rooms. Think about the kids and how comfortable they will be as they get older.

 

[angieb888]

We had a three bedroom lined up and it fell through. Now the only thing available is a two. By the time he is 12 (he turns 11 in Feb) we can transfer to a three or move. But yes at that age I would want him to have his own room. I want them to have it now...things just aren't going our way and the situation we are in is backing us into a wall. I just wanted to make sure we were not breaking any laws by allowing them to share a room. They would have seperate beds. Right now....they sleep on seperate couchs and we just want a better place for them.

Thank you for your quick answer! You have NO idea how much relief you have brought me.....

 

[wrkngmom]

well if you're upgrading from no bedroom to a shared bedroom, then you should be fine for now.

 

[angieb888]

Right now...my fiance and i rent out the basement apt of a house with my friends upstairs. His children usually stay upstairs in the main living room with my other roommate's child and they have camp outs. It is just getting too crowded and we need to have our own home for our family even if we just have them every other weekend. I just found out the three bedroom was promised to us and another family but it is a rental complex so not much we can do...we have nothing in writing.

I just started freaking out when we found out all that was left was two bedrooms because we spent all of our money clearing judgements on his credit to get into this place. Now that I know we are not breaking any laws...I am more comfortable settling for the two for the time being.

Thank you again for being so quick to answer. I have been a wreck for days now and everyone else i deal with seems to just take their time with no consideration for what people go through while they wait. Your kindness is appreciated!

 

[haiku]

my husband has 3 children from his first marriage and we have one together. We have never provided rooms or even seperate ones for them. My husband pays lotsa money so they cna have thier own room at home.....

when they were little no one slept in a room including our kid who had one. they had weekend campouts in the living room.

now they are heading into thier teens, the ones that don't live here still don't have designated rooms, I have kids sleeping in the living room, my office bunking together in my kiddos room etc....What they DO have though is designated drawer space for clothes and stuff they want to keep here.

during one of the past major court battles, his ex demanded seperate bedrooms for them (yeah a 5 bedroom house for kids who don't live with us...)her OWN lawyer laughed her butt off at her.....never had any issues in court since.

 

[angieb888]

LOL....now that is a good story. His ex is actually wanting to know WHY we want them to have their own room. She wants us to send her the extra $ we would pay for the extra room. She actually said that and wasn't kidding. Even though she is getting the court designated child support and we help with everything we can.

They have their own drawers where we are now. Sometimes they just need to be away from each other and we had the means to give them the luxury of their own rooms til it all fell apart. Plus I thought it was required since he was school age. I should have known I was given wrong info on that. For now I think we will just try to make the one they share into two seperate spaces and see how that works.

I just know I need out of where we are now. It is turning into the Brady bunch there. I feel like we live in a hotel so many people live there on the weekends we have them. We have alot of roomates...plus them.

 

[AmarieNorton]

She wants us to send her the extra $ we would pay for the extra room.

What?! She wants you guys to give her the extra money that you would spend on the extra room for the kids IF you had extra rooms for them (which you don't)? What sense does that make?

 

[wrkngmom]

I think OP is saying that the mother said "don't use the money for a third bedroom, give it to me"

 

[AmarieNorton]

I think OP is saying that the mother said "don't use the money for a third bedroom, give it to me"

so she's saying "don't spend money on a 3rd bedroom so that my children will be comfortable when they visit on the weekends, let them remain uncomfortable w/o their own space and give ME the extra money on top of the child support that I get". Doesn't sound to me like she's trying to keep their best interest in mind - JMHO.

 

[angieb888]

She is always looking for more. I know it is not easy being a single mom. My mom was a single parent. But his children are well taken care of and between us and their grandparents, they need nor want for anything.

She constantly makes it sound as though she struggles yet throws a huge party for New Years and get 24 yes twenty four lbs of shrimp plus and ham and so on.

I have done my share of griping. All I want is for the kids to be comfortable when they stay with us...have an area to play and lounge around and just a place that feels like a second home. Now I know I can do that!

 

[VA_Mom]

She constantly makes it sound as though she struggles yet throws a huge party for New Years and get 24 yes twenty four lbs of shrimp plus and ham and so on.

Who said she used the child support money? It's quite possible she used foodstamps instead.

 

[angieb888]

She doesn't get those. Definately doesn't qualify for that!

 

[VA_Mom]

I was just joking anyway.