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mimic2g
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To anyone who can give me advice. Please take a seat this is a long story for me and is quite painful. So please only serious responses. Thank You
I used to be in the Navy. During my "A" school in Tennesee I met a woman and we started seeing eachother. Soon enough I was living with her instead of in the barracks. She suggested we get married since we were already living together and I figured why not. I was a young naive 19 year old boy with a strong sex drive and no brains. So after a month of being with this woman we got married. The next day I knew I no longer wanted to be married. I knew I had to be in Florida in 2 weeks for additional navy training. So I decided I would just leave and deal with it later. The day before I left she told me she might be pregnant. I was still bound and determined to leave on my own. After a week in Florida I had to go speak to a an officer about lack of support and how I abandoned her (fair enough). From that point on I had to send her 1/3 of my pay and 1/2 once my daughter was born. So until seperation from the Navy in Oct. 99 I did just that. Since then I have sent no money at all. So to summerize I have been legally married to this woman since Sept. of 99 but have not lived with her since Sept. of 99. Part of the reason I put off filing for a divorce was the fact that I was in the military and she was my wife. She could say whatever she wanted and they would believe her. Now I want to go about getting this divorce finally and I want to know what I need to do and in what order. My wife was 36 at the time we got married. She has been married 2 times before, each to a military guy, and had a child with each one. She lied about alot of things, and she is very jealous and likes to hit when she gets upset (main reason why I just left and did not tell her). I feel like she took advantage of that 19 year old boy and I feel so angry and sad I don't know how to handle it. Over all it has made me a better person. I know I owe money for child support since I left the navy. I want to know if she can get alimony or any of my belongings. Any help would be great!
I used to be in the Navy. During my "A" school in Tennesee I met a woman and we started seeing eachother. Soon enough I was living with her instead of in the barracks. She suggested we get married since we were already living together and I figured why not. I was a young naive 19 year old boy with a strong sex drive and no brains. So after a month of being with this woman we got married. The next day I knew I no longer wanted to be married. I knew I had to be in Florida in 2 weeks for additional navy training. So I decided I would just leave and deal with it later. The day before I left she told me she might be pregnant. I was still bound and determined to leave on my own. After a week in Florida I had to go speak to a an officer about lack of support and how I abandoned her (fair enough). From that point on I had to send her 1/3 of my pay and 1/2 once my daughter was born. So until seperation from the Navy in Oct. 99 I did just that. Since then I have sent no money at all. So to summerize I have been legally married to this woman since Sept. of 99 but have not lived with her since Sept. of 99. Part of the reason I put off filing for a divorce was the fact that I was in the military and she was my wife. She could say whatever she wanted and they would believe her. Now I want to go about getting this divorce finally and I want to know what I need to do and in what order. My wife was 36 at the time we got married. She has been married 2 times before, each to a military guy, and had a child with each one. She lied about alot of things, and she is very jealous and likes to hit when she gets upset (main reason why I just left and did not tell her). I feel like she took advantage of that 19 year old boy and I feel so angry and sad I don't know how to handle it. Over all it has made me a better person. I know I owe money for child support since I left the navy. I want to know if she can get alimony or any of my belongings. Any help would be great!