mediation

[jimmitycrickits]

What is the name of your state? Michigan

They say that agreeing to a parenting time mediation is voluntary, but can there be any legal ramifications to not agreeing?

 

[stealth2]

A judge generally looks more favorably on people who at least make an effort to solve the issues w/o taking up the court's time. My ex was ordered to pay a chink of my legal fees as a result of his refusing to attend mediation.

 

[jimmitycrickits]

I attended a mediation last summer for the same purpose. The NCP did not show up, and they allowed him to do a teleconference. I signed the agreement that day, and they mailed it to him. He sent it back unsigned, objecting to it. I do not feel like going through the whole ordeal again. Will my presence and his absence at the first mediation, overweigh the fact that I do not want to do it again?

Thanks.

 

[stealth2]

Maybe. Maybe not. I'd say you're best off trying it again. If he doesn't show, all the more ammo for you. If he does, maybe y'all will actually resolve the issue.

 

[jimmitycrickits]

Thanks.

My child saw him over the week-end and suffered an anxiety attack on Wednesday, from holding in the secrets she was supposed to keep from me. She is going to see a psychologist next week.

I do not understand why grown folks want to screw with a child's head like that.

Currently there is no parenting time order, and I am praying that a judge will only grant supervised, under these circumstances.

 

[max221]

I think mediation is worth a try. When is was getting divorced, my ex's attorney made an offer in which I would received roughly 1% of the marital assets and would be allowed to see the kids once/month for a couple of hours with supervision. (Supervision for what? I don't drink/take drugs, I've never hit anyone... geez). Anyway, blah, blah, blah, we ended up in mediation. She tried to lie about her income, I had copies of her W2s, (thank you xerox), and in the end the mediator fought for me to have about 30% of the marital estate (ex was hiding her assets) and reasonable (unsupervised) visitation.

So--give it another try--it might work. Oh, and NO telelconferencing: tell him to grab some wood and sit on a chair in the room.

 

[casa]

to: jimmitycrickits

I went through mediation and it was helpful. In my state, county the judge ordered the mediation and said if either didn't show up-they would be fined the cost of mediation.

I would go if I were you.

 

[jimmitycrickits]

This isn't ordered. It states on the form that it is completely voluntary. If it were court ordered I would go without hesitation.

Thanks though.