Military pension

[Fordgirl45]

I am doing a pro se divorce and I am desperately trying to find out what legalese is needed for me to collect part of my husband's pension and thrift savings plan for it to be legally divided in our divorce?

I also will be doing a QDRO on my own. Married 18 years.

Is there anyone that could help me with this??

 

[Ohiogal]

I am doing a pro se divorce and I am desperately trying to find out what legalese is needed for me to collect part of my husband's pension and thrift savings plan for it to be legally divided in our divorce?

I also will be doing a QDRO on my own. Married 18 years.

Is there anyone that could help me with this??

You should get an attorney to prepare the documents for you. Or at least get a consult with an attorney. That would be practicing law and you have not stated the state.

 

[Zigner]

I am doing a pro se divorce and I am desperately trying to find out what legalese is needed for me to collect part of my husband's pension and thrift savings plan for it to be legally divided in our divorce?

I also will be doing a QDRO on my own. Married 18 years.

Is there anyone that could help me with this??

Yes, an attorney.
(Drafting legal documents, or specific advice about drafting legal documents goes beyond the scope of an internet forum.)

 

[Fordgirl45]

Yes, an attorney.
(Drafting legal documents, or specific advice about drafting legal documents goes beyond the scope of an internet forum.)

I would love that but I cannot afford it. My husband abandoned me and hasn't given me anything. I am forced to pay everything and he walks away. I want this done and I cannot afford what they want and pay all the bills I was left with.

 

[Fordgirl45]

I would love that but I cannot afford it. My husband abandoned me and hasn't given me anything. I am forced to pay everything and he walks away. I want this done and I cannot afford what they want and pay all the bills I was left with.

I will also be going for alimony under the laws in my state.

 

[Just Blue]

I would love that but I cannot afford it. My husband abandoned me and hasn't given me anything. I am forced to pay everything and he walks away. I want this done and I cannot afford what they want and pay all the bills I was left with.

What state?

 

[Zigner]

I will also be going for alimony under the laws in my state.

What you are asking the members of this forum to do would be the unlawful practice of law, which is a crime. In some jurisdictions, it's even a felony.

I'm sorry, but if you will need to get professional assistance, as indicated above. You may wish to contact your local court to find out if they have any self-help resources.

EDIT: Of course, if you aren't in the US (and I have no reason to believe you are), then this advice may or may not be accurate, but this forum still would not be the appropriate place to get answers.

 

[Fordgirl45]

You should get an attorney to prepare the documents for you. Or at least get a consult with an attorney. That would be practicing law and you have not stated the state.

I don't want to say which state I am in just incase he reads these sites.

 

[Zigner]

I don't want to say which state I am in just incase he reads these sites.

If you are concerned about confidentiality, then the only resource that offers it is an attorney.

Best of luck to you.

 

[Just Blue]

I don't want to say which state I am in just incase he reads these sites.

Then no one here can help you. There are 50 states and everyone of them have different laws/guidelines for divorce.

 

[zddoodah]

Is there anyone that could help me with this?

Yes. A lawyer admitted to practice in the unidentified state where your case is pending.

I don't want to say which state I am in just incase he reads these sites.

Seriously? Because you think you might be the only woman in your state involved in a divorce from a military spouse?

 

[cbg]

Fordgirl45, if there are any law schools in your area, they often run "clinics" where third year students, under the guidance of their professors, are able to assist you with legal issues for no or a very low cost. You might want to look into that.