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mbensoni

Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Minnesota

My ex and I divorced in 2001...I have explained in the past why I don't have my daughter living with me. 2001 - 2003 I lived close by and could see my daughter whenever I wanted. 2003-2004 I lived with my ex as a roommate - Our daughter started school that year. 2004 I got remarried and of course moved out of the ex's house - I did not fight him for custody as my daughter was in school and she was not in harms way. I moved about 70 miles from him and we met just about every weekend, half way, so that I could get my daughter for the weekend. Also, when there was no school for her I would take vacation and she would stay with me. I also had her for summer vacations 2005 and 2006. NOW, I have moved farther away and the agreement between the two of us was that we would meet half way every weekend. - Half way is an 1.25 hours for each of us.... Oh and during the summer vacation for 2006 - he saw her one weekend for a couple of hours each day. She stayed with his mom because he was too busy working.

Speed forward to last weekend. All weekend - my 8 year old cried saying she did not want to go to her dad's house. He claims nothing has changed and nothing creepy is going on over there - he claims it's because he has rules and I must not. As I explained to him - she just wants to see her brother more and her step sister and is sad that she will be in school when I deliver her new brother. When she was dropped off - she refused to get out of the vehicle and he ended up literally pulling her out while she is throwing a scene. He would not allow me to say good bye and almost ran over my feet ( I was standing by the side of the vehicle.

Now this weekend, I was supposed to have her, and he has now decided since there was such an uproar last wekend - that now I can see her every other weekend only. The divorce papers state that I can have reasonable visitation with her - it does not outline days, holidays, etc. Also, he pulled her out of her school where she has been for K, 1st, and 2nd grade and put her in a new school for no reason at all - I was against it. But I am just the non-custodial parent you know.

So I just don't know what to do - Yes I know it was my fault that I moved with my husband so he could be closer to work. I offered the ex to pick her up and drop her off at the old spot which is only 45 minutes from his home and he said NO. I then offered to pick and drop her off from his house and he has said NO.

I am just sick because he is not a rational person. I know he would not go to see a mediator. I am not really keen on attempting a custody battle because I don't want to involve my daughter that way. But when I talk to her and she cries and cries saying she wants to live with me and he yells at her to change the subject - I am just at a loss.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Thank you.
 


Silverplum

Senior Member
You're dang lucky he was letting you see her EVERY weekend.

If you want a set schedule, file for one. Better yet, ask him to meet you to work one out, file it with the court, and there you go.

You are not going to get primary custody without a battle, it seems. And I don't see anything in your post that leads me to believe you have grounds for a change.
 

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