What is the name of your state? Minnesota
My ex and I divorced in 2001...I have explained in the past why I don't have my daughter living with me. 2001 - 2003 I lived close by and could see my daughter whenever I wanted. 2003-2004 I lived with my ex as a roommate - Our daughter started school that year. 2004 I got remarried and of course moved out of the ex's house - I did not fight him for custody as my daughter was in school and she was not in harms way. I moved about 70 miles from him and we met just about every weekend, half way, so that I could get my daughter for the weekend. Also, when there was no school for her I would take vacation and she would stay with me. I also had her for summer vacations 2005 and 2006. NOW, I have moved farther away and the agreement between the two of us was that we would meet half way every weekend. - Half way is an 1.25 hours for each of us.... Oh and during the summer vacation for 2006 - he saw her one weekend for a couple of hours each day. She stayed with his mom because he was too busy working.
Speed forward to last weekend. All weekend - my 8 year old cried saying she did not want to go to her dad's house. He claims nothing has changed and nothing creepy is going on over there - he claims it's because he has rules and I must not. As I explained to him - she just wants to see her brother more and her step sister and is sad that she will be in school when I deliver her new brother. When she was dropped off - she refused to get out of the vehicle and he ended up literally pulling her out while she is throwing a scene. He would not allow me to say good bye and almost ran over my feet ( I was standing by the side of the vehicle.
Now this weekend, I was supposed to have her, and he has now decided since there was such an uproar last wekend - that now I can see her every other weekend only. The divorce papers state that I can have reasonable visitation with her - it does not outline days, holidays, etc. Also, he pulled her out of her school where she has been for K, 1st, and 2nd grade and put her in a new school for no reason at all - I was against it. But I am just the non-custodial parent you know.
So I just don't know what to do - Yes I know it was my fault that I moved with my husband so he could be closer to work. I offered the ex to pick her up and drop her off at the old spot which is only 45 minutes from his home and he said NO. I then offered to pick and drop her off from his house and he has said NO.
I am just sick because he is not a rational person. I know he would not go to see a mediator. I am not really keen on attempting a custody battle because I don't want to involve my daughter that way. But when I talk to her and she cries and cries saying she wants to live with me and he yells at her to change the subject - I am just at a loss.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
My ex and I divorced in 2001...I have explained in the past why I don't have my daughter living with me. 2001 - 2003 I lived close by and could see my daughter whenever I wanted. 2003-2004 I lived with my ex as a roommate - Our daughter started school that year. 2004 I got remarried and of course moved out of the ex's house - I did not fight him for custody as my daughter was in school and she was not in harms way. I moved about 70 miles from him and we met just about every weekend, half way, so that I could get my daughter for the weekend. Also, when there was no school for her I would take vacation and she would stay with me. I also had her for summer vacations 2005 and 2006. NOW, I have moved farther away and the agreement between the two of us was that we would meet half way every weekend. - Half way is an 1.25 hours for each of us.... Oh and during the summer vacation for 2006 - he saw her one weekend for a couple of hours each day. She stayed with his mom because he was too busy working.
Speed forward to last weekend. All weekend - my 8 year old cried saying she did not want to go to her dad's house. He claims nothing has changed and nothing creepy is going on over there - he claims it's because he has rules and I must not. As I explained to him - she just wants to see her brother more and her step sister and is sad that she will be in school when I deliver her new brother. When she was dropped off - she refused to get out of the vehicle and he ended up literally pulling her out while she is throwing a scene. He would not allow me to say good bye and almost ran over my feet ( I was standing by the side of the vehicle.
Now this weekend, I was supposed to have her, and he has now decided since there was such an uproar last wekend - that now I can see her every other weekend only. The divorce papers state that I can have reasonable visitation with her - it does not outline days, holidays, etc. Also, he pulled her out of her school where she has been for K, 1st, and 2nd grade and put her in a new school for no reason at all - I was against it. But I am just the non-custodial parent you know.
So I just don't know what to do - Yes I know it was my fault that I moved with my husband so he could be closer to work. I offered the ex to pick her up and drop her off at the old spot which is only 45 minutes from his home and he said NO. I then offered to pick and drop her off from his house and he has said NO.
I am just sick because he is not a rational person. I know he would not go to see a mediator. I am not really keen on attempting a custody battle because I don't want to involve my daughter that way. But when I talk to her and she cries and cries saying she wants to live with me and he yells at her to change the subject - I am just at a loss.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.