What is the name of your state? tn, i am still wanting any advice anyone has on the issue of since my ex will be out of the country, or even if that doesn't wk out, and he's out on the road during visit, why does he still have to go there, if his dad isn't going to be there? and what are my chances of getting it modified while he's out of the country? if he just totally wanted to go and made an issue of it, then i would just continue, but he hasn't said that. i just feel, like that, when his dad comes home, he can visit then. why should he have to go, when he's not there, and times when his dad comes in and doesn't even contact my son.also, they say he will be gone for a yr. i find it all hard to believe. but that's their story. i thought visitation is for the parent to spend time with their child. my lawyer told me that he still had to go, even if his dad wasn't there. i feel he could have pushed the issue further. if anyone has a similar situation i'd appreciate it. i dread having to go thru court and all that, but i don't know what else to do, and my son's step mom is psycho and i don't want him around her w/o his dad there, she tells him things about me that aren't true, or not to tell me things, etc. it's never his dad he tells me said those things either, i am so fed up with it all, and he's only 12.
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maybe i need educating on what i can and can't post or thread. some people are helpful to others or at least try, while some just are not. some people are just like some of the people we all speak of here, wants everything their way, etc. patience is a virtue and i have definitely been patient, otherwise i would have already taken matters into my own hands and be in prison. and i'm sure other viewers know how i feel.
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It gets confusing if a Poster keeps starting new threads for the same question. As for your question, the only way to change the visitation is to file for a modification to cover the time that the dad will be gone. The step-mom is a stranger and has no rights to your son, so no reason for him to have to visit her, but you can't just decide this on your own, get it done legal.
you need to modify visitation plain and simple.
it is true, that what a parent does on thier time is thier business, and if dad chooses to work the entire time that is his business. You really cannot dictate what he chooses to do with his time, just as he may not like people you let your son spend time with KWIM? this may be why your lawyer did not persue it any further.
What it sounds to me, is there is a real lack of communication between you two.
It is very difficult in trucking especially over the road to plan your hometime. You 2 need to discuss the possibility of him arranging to attempt to get a gaurantee from his company of at least one weekend he can be counted on to get home, for visitation purposes. Stress the importance of the boy spending some time with dad. than the rest of the visits can be dealt with on a reasonable basis. (example-when he is in, and wants to see the kiddo, he can call and ask you, and barring any plans you have, you should encourage his visits) This system works well for alot of trucking families.
I would highly reccomend you try this approach and then get it made official in court.
it is true, that what a parent does on thier time is thier business, and if dad chooses to work the entire time that is his business. You really cannot dictate what he chooses to do with his time, just as he may not like people you let your son spend time with KWIM? this may be why your lawyer did not persue it any further.
What it sounds to me, is there is a real lack of communication between you two.
It is very difficult in trucking especially over the road to plan your hometime. You 2 need to discuss the possibility of him arranging to attempt to get a gaurantee from his company of at least one weekend he can be counted on to get home, for visitation purposes. Stress the importance of the boy spending some time with dad. than the rest of the visits can be dealt with on a reasonable basis. (example-when he is in, and wants to see the kiddo, he can call and ask you, and barring any plans you have, you should encourage his visits) This system works well for alot of trucking families.
I would highly reccomend you try this approach and then get it made official in court.