What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? tx (dfw)
I'm still waiting for divorce to be finalized, it's been almost 2yrs though.
I wanted to leave tx a year after I got here, but things happened, I got married...etc.
I've been very unhappy here, I hate the weather, it's bad for allergies and health issues (my kids will be prone b/c ex and entire family suffers from allergies, asthma, etc) my *entire* family, my 5 sibs, 7 nieces/nephews, aunts uncles cousins grandparents, etc all live in chicago.
my job is based out of portland OR and they desperately want me to move. I'd have family-like support there, my coworkers and I are very close and all have kids the same age as mine.
took them a year to even decide to hire me (promoted internally) because of the location issues. I know my boss and HER boss would gladly write letters on my behalf.
so far my ex has refused to pay court ordered CS (he'll be 8m in arrears when we go to court next month) but he was very angry when I had asked him to leave on a sat, filed papers on ME, took off with the kids and hid them, emptied banks acct, took stuff from home, etc.
he likes to tell me i'm a psycho B*tch and he should be primary and I shouldn't be allowed to even SEE my kids.
it's just anger though, From knowing him for 8yrs - its like a child with a toy. Doesn't play with it until someone else wants it....then willing to throw a huge fit and kick and spit.
His parents, unfortunately are not only egging him on, but funding this battle.
It's settled down somewhat, but he's burning bridges by not paying CS i'm sure.
he still sees the kids every minute and "forgets" to bring them back when he's supposed to, because he's "superdad" in his mind.
It's already getting old, I can tell. and i'm sure his mom/sister are getting tired of taking care of the kids for him.
I'm documenting everything I can, but right now it's just worry over the kids not having their nails cut for 30 days during summer visit, bruises and bumps EVERY time they visit....not just "boys will be boys" bruises, but not watching the kids and they are running into things and hurting themselves excessively.
being as neither kid has sustained a large bruise on their heads in my care EVER since birth, and do it weekly at my STBXs....i'd call that neglectful parenting, but it's not enough for a judge to listen to i know.
Question :
I know it'll be a long haul, but what should I be documenting, working towards, etc to move?
job situation here has been bleak for ages, both OR and chicago are better areas for me financially, mentally, physically for the kids and so forth.
I want to know if anyone has been able to move with a dad wanting to do regular visits in TX.....and what sort of things I should be doing now to try and work towards this goal in the future.
oh, and I DO work for a hotel chain, so I can offer up rooms at supercheap for visitation for ex.....so there is that on my side, albiet small
I'm still waiting for divorce to be finalized, it's been almost 2yrs though.
I wanted to leave tx a year after I got here, but things happened, I got married...etc.
I've been very unhappy here, I hate the weather, it's bad for allergies and health issues (my kids will be prone b/c ex and entire family suffers from allergies, asthma, etc) my *entire* family, my 5 sibs, 7 nieces/nephews, aunts uncles cousins grandparents, etc all live in chicago.
my job is based out of portland OR and they desperately want me to move. I'd have family-like support there, my coworkers and I are very close and all have kids the same age as mine.
took them a year to even decide to hire me (promoted internally) because of the location issues. I know my boss and HER boss would gladly write letters on my behalf.
so far my ex has refused to pay court ordered CS (he'll be 8m in arrears when we go to court next month) but he was very angry when I had asked him to leave on a sat, filed papers on ME, took off with the kids and hid them, emptied banks acct, took stuff from home, etc.
he likes to tell me i'm a psycho B*tch and he should be primary and I shouldn't be allowed to even SEE my kids.
it's just anger though, From knowing him for 8yrs - its like a child with a toy. Doesn't play with it until someone else wants it....then willing to throw a huge fit and kick and spit.
His parents, unfortunately are not only egging him on, but funding this battle.
It's settled down somewhat, but he's burning bridges by not paying CS i'm sure.
he still sees the kids every minute and "forgets" to bring them back when he's supposed to, because he's "superdad" in his mind.
It's already getting old, I can tell. and i'm sure his mom/sister are getting tired of taking care of the kids for him.
I'm documenting everything I can, but right now it's just worry over the kids not having their nails cut for 30 days during summer visit, bruises and bumps EVERY time they visit....not just "boys will be boys" bruises, but not watching the kids and they are running into things and hurting themselves excessively.
being as neither kid has sustained a large bruise on their heads in my care EVER since birth, and do it weekly at my STBXs....i'd call that neglectful parenting, but it's not enough for a judge to listen to i know.
Question :
I know it'll be a long haul, but what should I be documenting, working towards, etc to move?
job situation here has been bleak for ages, both OR and chicago are better areas for me financially, mentally, physically for the kids and so forth.
I want to know if anyone has been able to move with a dad wanting to do regular visits in TX.....and what sort of things I should be doing now to try and work towards this goal in the future.
oh, and I DO work for a hotel chain, so I can offer up rooms at supercheap for visitation for ex.....so there is that on my side, albiet small