My Lawyer-- Her Lawyer

[DreamMan]

I am new to this forum - Will be using more in the future.. I am from SC, I have been seperated for 5 months now and have one 3 year old daughter from this marriage. My wife left and comitted Adultery 2 weeks later which was confirmed and documented by a licesed PI. We have shared custody of our daughter for the first 3 months ( half/half) until our first court date in early FEB. My lawyer works in the same building as her lawyer , as well as right down the hall from one another....they use to be in pratice some 5 years ago. both have been in pratice for ~12 years.
On our first court appearance -- the judge ordered Status Quo, until a guardian could investigate further. A guardian was not appointed at the time of the first court appearance. The lawyers could not decided therefore additional expense has accured.--my wife and I are both professionals--chemist and nurse. And since then my wife has been fired from the Hospital due to the Adultery was with a married Co-worker ( male nurse).
----I dont feel that my lawyer has my best interest in hand and that things are not being handled expedietly.--
Question : Would it be a bad thing to confront my Attorney and ask why ( dont want to rub him the wrong way ) or should I go out and Hire another Attorney ? Would this slow the process any? Would I have to start over ( filing etc.)? Does the court view this as bad ( considering the short term in the big picture)? Would it be advantageous to me to hire another Attorney ?
I feel like privelaged information has been leaked to her Attorney and then back to my wife... Any advice on these initail questions would be a big help and a great start.
I would like advice now before I incure additional Attorney fees.
Thanks greatly for any input.

 

[Ukiah]

I am new to this forum -
Question : Would it be a bad thing to confront my Attorney and ask why ( dont want to rub him the wrong way ) or should I go out and Hire another Attorney ? Would this slow the process any? Would I have to start over ( filing etc.)? Does the court view this as bad ( considering the short term in the big picture)? Would it be advantageous to me to hire another Attorney ?
I feel like privelaged information has been leaked to her Attorney and then back to my wife... Any advice on these initail questions would be a big help and a great start.
I would like advice now before I incure additional Attorney fees.
Thanks greatly for any input.

Welcome to the board.

My advice to you is that if you do not feel comfortable with your attorney, check out a few others. the new attorney would file proper papers stating they are now representing you, if you choose that atty to represent you.

You should go to the courthouse and get a compltete copy of your file to share with any prospective attorney, this will let you know right away what the attorney has to say about your case instead of having to wait for him to go to the courthouse and review your file and get back to you.

After you pay what you owe to your old attorney, get all the papers you have given him, or have your new atty get in touch with the old to get that info. Either way you should always have a copy of what was given to him for your records.

I feel that bottom line; it is your decision to have what ever attorney you want, have a slew of them if you like. I made it clear to the attorney I had that I DID NOT want him talking to my X's attorney with out my knowledge and presence. I don't want any miscommunication between my atty and me. I had him sign a paper when he made me sign his.