I live in North Carolina. Recently divorced in February of this year after being separated for nearly 2yrs. We have 4 children. The oldest is 8 and the youngest is almost 2. We have joint legal custody, and he has primary physical custody of the oldest 3 children. I have primary physical custody of the youngest child.
Okay here we go..... I was living with my Mother, had been there for 10 mos, working full time, and getting visitations every other weekend with the 3 older children. After the last child was born in August, the father was getting his visitations with the toddler every other weekend. All was fine & smooth until my oldest daughter told me that her father made her put his thing in her mouth. She didn't actually say "his thing" she referenced to it by pointing her finger to her crotch and saying "He made me put his mmmm in my mouth." I asked how many times, and where? She stated twice in the bathroom. I contact DSS in my county, an investigation is done, during the investigation the father takes me to court for contempt, to which I was not found in contempt because DSS accompanied me, and explained they instructed me not to allow contact during the investigation.
The judge gave DSS 48hrs to do a petition or the 2 middle children must return at the 48hrs and the visitation with the infant shall resume. As for the oldest child whom made the allegation would return in 30 days if the petition isn't filed. DSS was ready to file but was waiting on the Court Order signed by the judge to which could not be provided by the attorney within the 48hr time frame. So guess what...he picks up the children and there is nothing I nor the DSS could do to stop it. DSS did substantiate the claim in the county to which I lived in but had to transfer the case to the fathers county. To which his county DSS would not speak to me about the case. Nothing ever came of it.
However, It came time for the Fathers visitation with the toddler and for the oldest child to return to his custody, once he got all the children in his possession he refused to return the toddler after his visitation was up, and then began denying my visitations with the other children. He filed a DSS claim that I had neglected the toddler because of a rash he had from where he had gotten Thrush which is very common in infants. DSS closed the case and found no neglect however the Father still refused to return the infant or allow visitations as court ordered.
I had been waiting on a court date, which got cancelled once, and then rescheduled, delaying my hearing, his lawyer counter suits me for SOLE custody! We have a three day trial this June for a Permanent hearing. He has been allowing me see the kids at a Family Center to which I have to pay money for. He basically keeps claiming that professionals advised him that he not allow me unsupervised visiting. However, these professionals have no names, or to be blunt they simply don't exist. I have re-married as of April 15th to an officer, and I have taken parenting classes (NOT court ordered but voluntarily) and see the children regularly routinely every other Sat and every other Wed. My ex-husband got primary custody in the beginning b/c I didn't have an attorney, poor at representing myself, and didn't have a solid support system.
Is it possible that although the children are doing okay in school, and health wise appear to be fine, that I could still have a chance of getting primary physical custody simply because of his actions? He is a narcissist person, very abusive and controlling (sneaky & malicious), he literally carries a bible everywhere, and can cry on queue. Its that bad, I am at the near end of my rope with this man. Just in case anyone is wondering "my tag name matthew02 is the middle name of my son and he was born in Feb."
Okay here we go..... I was living with my Mother, had been there for 10 mos, working full time, and getting visitations every other weekend with the 3 older children. After the last child was born in August, the father was getting his visitations with the toddler every other weekend. All was fine & smooth until my oldest daughter told me that her father made her put his thing in her mouth. She didn't actually say "his thing" she referenced to it by pointing her finger to her crotch and saying "He made me put his mmmm in my mouth." I asked how many times, and where? She stated twice in the bathroom. I contact DSS in my county, an investigation is done, during the investigation the father takes me to court for contempt, to which I was not found in contempt because DSS accompanied me, and explained they instructed me not to allow contact during the investigation.
The judge gave DSS 48hrs to do a petition or the 2 middle children must return at the 48hrs and the visitation with the infant shall resume. As for the oldest child whom made the allegation would return in 30 days if the petition isn't filed. DSS was ready to file but was waiting on the Court Order signed by the judge to which could not be provided by the attorney within the 48hr time frame. So guess what...he picks up the children and there is nothing I nor the DSS could do to stop it. DSS did substantiate the claim in the county to which I lived in but had to transfer the case to the fathers county. To which his county DSS would not speak to me about the case. Nothing ever came of it.
However, It came time for the Fathers visitation with the toddler and for the oldest child to return to his custody, once he got all the children in his possession he refused to return the toddler after his visitation was up, and then began denying my visitations with the other children. He filed a DSS claim that I had neglected the toddler because of a rash he had from where he had gotten Thrush which is very common in infants. DSS closed the case and found no neglect however the Father still refused to return the infant or allow visitations as court ordered.
I had been waiting on a court date, which got cancelled once, and then rescheduled, delaying my hearing, his lawyer counter suits me for SOLE custody! We have a three day trial this June for a Permanent hearing. He has been allowing me see the kids at a Family Center to which I have to pay money for. He basically keeps claiming that professionals advised him that he not allow me unsupervised visiting. However, these professionals have no names, or to be blunt they simply don't exist. I have re-married as of April 15th to an officer, and I have taken parenting classes (NOT court ordered but voluntarily) and see the children regularly routinely every other Sat and every other Wed. My ex-husband got primary custody in the beginning b/c I didn't have an attorney, poor at representing myself, and didn't have a solid support system.
Is it possible that although the children are doing okay in school, and health wise appear to be fine, that I could still have a chance of getting primary physical custody simply because of his actions? He is a narcissist person, very abusive and controlling (sneaky & malicious), he literally carries a bible everywhere, and can cry on queue. Its that bad, I am at the near end of my rope with this man. Just in case anyone is wondering "my tag name matthew02 is the middle name of my son and he was born in Feb."
