NCP filing for change of custody 2mos before 18th b-day?!

[cocobunny]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio

I am the CP of my 17yo daughter. Long story short I found out she was having sex with MEN (well over 21yo) from the internet. I set ground rules and took her to the doctor. I also set up some counseling appointments. She did not want to follow the rules and ran away she also refused to let the doctors help her.

I contacted the police as well as the NCP the moment it happened. The NCP finds her and brings 2 police officers to my door demanding that I let her get her stuff from the house. I spoke with the officers alone and explained the situation. I told them my home was not a storage facility and that she could not take her things. That if she wanted her things she would have to live here under my rules. Otherwise she was not welcomed here due to the strange men coming and going from my home.

NCP says he is now filing for custody (child turns 18 in 2 mos. and graduates in 6 weeks). Because I changed the locks and dont want our daughter there. (When in actuality I just want her to follow the rules and not have strangers in the house.)

Is it possible for him to get custody considering she has 60 days until she turns 18?!

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio

I am the CP of my 17yo daughter. Long story short I found out she was having sex with MEN (well over 21yo) from the internet. I set ground rules and took her to the doctor. I also set up some counseling appointments. She did not want to follow the rules and ran away she also refused to let the doctors help her.

I contacted the police as well as the NCP the moment it happened. The NCP finds her and brings 2 police officers to my door demanding that I let her get her stuff from the house. I spoke with the officers alone and explained the situation. I told them my home was not a storage facility and that she could not take her things. That if she wanted her things she would have to live here under my rules. Otherwise she was not welcomed here due to the strange men coming and going from my home.

NCP says he is now filing for custody (child turns 18 in 2 mos. and graduates in 6 weeks). Because I changed the locks and dont want our daughter there. (When in actuality I just want her to follow the rules and not have strangers in the house.)

Is it possible for him to get custody considering she has 60 days until she turns 18?!

He would kind of be wasting his filing fees. He could maybe get emergency, temporarly orders prior to her birthday, but the odds of actually getting a court date for a full hearing before she turns 18 would be pretty slim.

I don't know why he would bother.

 

[sometwo]

He could maybe get emergency, temporarly orders prior to her birthday, but the odds of actually getting a court date for a full hearing before she turns 18 would be pretty slim.

and I don't see what the big deal about that is? Your obviously not getting anywhere and are trying but maybe it would do good for her to be with dad. Who knows though. With 2 months left its really not that big of deal either way I don't think. Its obviously a tough situation and you don't have very long with your daughter ( at 18 she gets to do what she wants) . It might do some good to have a long serious talk with dad to try to get your daughter help now.

 

[cocobunny]

LdiJ - Thank you for your quick reply. He lives in Michigan so that is currently where the child and NCP are. My concern comes from many things, but also because today was the first day back from spring break and he had not taken her to school.

I got a call from the school stating they had got a call from the NCP wanting the child's school records. The school was smart enough to scan her school file and see that he was the NCP and not the CP and gave me an immediate phone call. I informed them that until a court said otherwise I was still the CP and did not give my approval for the records to be sent out of the district more or less the state. They agreed and complied with my wishes.

I think the NCP is under the impression that since he told the police that he was filing for (emergency/temporary??) custody and the police said that was ok that he felt it was ok to have the records. Even I know that the police dont have that kind of power to tell the NCP he can have the school records.

 

[cocobunny]

and I don't see what the big deal about that is? Your obviously not getting anywhere and are trying but maybe it would do good for her to be with dad. Who knows though. With 2 months left its really not that big of deal either way I don't think. Its obviously a tough situation and you don't have very long with your daughter ( at 18 she gets to do what she wants) .


It might do some good to have a long serious talk with dad to try to get your daughter help now.

Sometwo-- Thanks for your reply. Trust me when I say I have tried to talk to dad. He refuses to talk unless and I quote " You drive up here to my house and I can video record our conversation."

I felt that was a little extreme because I'm not the one on trial. I just want to get my kid some help, and would hope he would be a part of that. But your right..2 more months. But I just want my baby to get the counseling she needs. Thats most important.

 

[Zigner]

So, you lock kiddo out and say she can't stay there...then when she moves in with the only parent willing to take her in, you refuse to give HER things to HER. THEN, you obstruct the other parent's attempts to get kiddo back in to school.


You're batting 1.000 mom.

 

[cocobunny]

If you have nothing constructive--

So, you lock kiddo out and say she can't stay there...then when she moves in with the only parent willing to take her in, you refuse to give HER things to HER. THEN, you obstruct the other parent's attempts to get kiddo back in to school.


You're batting 1.000 mom.

I locked her out?! When did that happen? I said she cant stay there unless she follows my rules...Oh my! That is out of control thinking. Heaven forbid children obey. Your right. I'll let her move back in and let her whore around. I'll let strange men in and out of my house. In fact I'll leave the door wide open for the whole neighborhood to steal our stuff.

If you have nothing constructive-- keep it to yourself.

 

[Ohiogal]

LdiJ - Thank you for your quick reply. He lives in Michigan so that is currently where the child and NCP are. My concern comes from many things, but also because today was the first day back from spring break and he had not taken her to school.

I got a call from the school stating they had got a call from the NCP wanting the child's school records. The school was smart enough to scan her school file and see that he was the NCP and not the CP and gave me an immediate phone call. I informed them that until a court said otherwise I was still the CP and did not give my approval for the records to be sent out of the district more or less the state. They agreed and complied with my wishes.

I think the NCP is under the impression that since he told the police that he was filing for (emergency/temporary??) custody and the police said that was ok that he felt it was ok to have the records. Even I know that the police dont have that kind of power to tell the NCP he can have the school records.

He is going to get emergency custody based on your actions. The school is also in violation of the law as according to OHIO law he can have the school records and the school can face contempt of court.
A court is NOT going to be happy with you denying your daughter access to her clothing and things. I have seen courts in Ohio order immediate release of all of the child's items to the child to take with them to the other parent.

You may have won this battle, but be prepared that you will NOT win the war AND you will most likely forever lose your child.Some victory you have.

 

[Ohiogal]

I locked her out?! When did that happen?

You stated this.

Because I changed the locks and dont want our daughter there. (When in actuality I just want her to follow the rules and not have strangers in the house.)

I said she cant stay there unless she follows my rules...Oh my! That is out of control thinking. Heaven forbid children obey. Your right. I'll let her move back in and let her whore around.

You ARE out of control quite frankly. There were better ways of dealing this rather than depriving YOUR CHILD of HER belongings. A court will order emergency custody to dad due to the fact that you refused to act appropriately. You interfered with dad's legal right to the school records. YOU interfered with the law. YOU refused to let your child have her clothes. Should we continue?

I'll let strange men in and out of my house. In fact I'll leave the door wide open for the whole neighborhood to steal our stuff.

If you have nothing constructive-- keep it to yourself.

Lady, you don't understand constructive. What you have done is basically destroy any hopes of a relationship with your daughter. You have also guaranteed that dad will get a court order for emergency custody AND an order for his child to retrieve HER belongings from YOUR house -- with police intervention if possible.

 

[Silverplum]

I agree with OG -- DAD has EVERY right to child's school records. Who do you think you are?? The OWNER of the child?

Newsflash: You are not that child's owner. You are a parent, one of two. The other one has every bit as much right to the child's medical and scholastic records as you do.

I locked her out?! When did that happen? I said she cant stay there unless she follows my rules...Oh my! That is out of control thinking. Heaven forbid children obey. Your right. I'll let her move back in and let her whore around. I'll let strange men in and out of my house. In fact I'll leave the door wide open for the whole neighborhood to steal our stuff.

If you have nothing constructive-- keep it to yourself.

For hx.

 

[cocobunny]

He is going to get emergency custody based on your actions. The school is also in violation of the law as according to OHIO law he can have the school records and the school can face contempt of court.
A court is NOT going to be happy with you denying your daughter access to her clothing and things. I have seen courts in Ohio order immediate release of all of the child's items to the child to take with them to the other parent.

You may have won this battle, but be prepared that you will NOT win the war AND you will most likely forever lose your child.Some victory you have.

You are mistaken. The victory I want is for this child to get help. Dont be judgmental about my actions. She wont get help with the NCP. Hes had her a week and by his own admission had not taken her in for any kind of help or EVEN ASKED HER ABOUT THE SITUATION. I will bring this to the judges attention. Please also know this child dislikes him more than my house. She states this openly. She wants to be at my house, she just doesn't want to follow the rules (her words not mine).

She has tons of items at the NCP residence. Which I purchased the bulk of and willingly sent them with her on her first weekend stay.

I dont think the NCP wanted the records. He was trying to transfer her to a whole other school and state. Your telling me he can just up and move her to another school district....that doesn't sound right.

 

[cocobunny]

Basically hes not obligated to buy any clothes (?), but he can move her about as he chooses?! Come on now YOUR out of control. That doesn't even sound appropriate.

Once again please read: the doors were locked because of strangers.