proud_parent
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What is the name of your state? Iowa
Two weeks ago my husband [H] was granted sole custody of his and his ex-wife's [x] eight year old daughter [D]. [https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=361305] With the ink not even dry on the order (literally...but that's another issue), H has a new dilemma.
Last month, H attended parent-teacher conferences. X was at that time living in the UK, so H sent copies of D's progress reports to her via regular air mail. Less than a week later, H learned that X had moved to Pennsylvania to an undisclosed address. Figuring the UK mail may have missed her, H emailed X and offered to send extra copies to her new address. X replied only that her mail would be forwarded; she neither gave an address nor requested any further action.
Today, X emailed: "I have still not got [D's] midterm report card. Could you send a copy in an envelop sealed with [D] when she sees my parents this weekend." [Even before trial, H had arranged for D to stay overnight with her maternal grandparents this Saturday.]
On the surface, this is a benign if odd request. (Sealed envelope? This is a 2nd grade report card, not a CIA dossier.) But combined with X's previous attempts to evade service, her refusal to answer interrogatories, her failure to provide discovery, etc., this seems a ploy to conceal her location and thus avoid child support enforcement. (X has paid nothing since the temporary order went into effect six months ago.)
H wants to tell X to go to h***. He argues that he mailed the information to X's last known address and again offered to mail them to her; he has also provided X phone numbers and email addresses for D's teachers and principal. I agree that X's request is asinine, but as X still is entitled to the information, I'm urging the high road. I suggested that he send all future correspondence to X through email, and that he scan these and any other documents relating to D and forward them as attachments. Still, I can't think of a tactful reply to X's email. If it were my battle, I'd be tempted to place X on notice that her motives are transparent, and that if she intends to flout court orders she will have to do so without H's cooperation.
Can anyone suggest a more appropriate response?
Two weeks ago my husband [H] was granted sole custody of his and his ex-wife's [x] eight year old daughter [D]. [https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=361305] With the ink not even dry on the order (literally...but that's another issue), H has a new dilemma.
Last month, H attended parent-teacher conferences. X was at that time living in the UK, so H sent copies of D's progress reports to her via regular air mail. Less than a week later, H learned that X had moved to Pennsylvania to an undisclosed address. Figuring the UK mail may have missed her, H emailed X and offered to send extra copies to her new address. X replied only that her mail would be forwarded; she neither gave an address nor requested any further action.
Today, X emailed: "I have still not got [D's] midterm report card. Could you send a copy in an envelop sealed with [D] when she sees my parents this weekend." [Even before trial, H had arranged for D to stay overnight with her maternal grandparents this Saturday.]
On the surface, this is a benign if odd request. (Sealed envelope? This is a 2nd grade report card, not a CIA dossier.) But combined with X's previous attempts to evade service, her refusal to answer interrogatories, her failure to provide discovery, etc., this seems a ploy to conceal her location and thus avoid child support enforcement. (X has paid nothing since the temporary order went into effect six months ago.)
H wants to tell X to go to h***. He argues that he mailed the information to X's last known address and again offered to mail them to her; he has also provided X phone numbers and email addresses for D's teachers and principal. I agree that X's request is asinine, but as X still is entitled to the information, I'm urging the high road. I suggested that he send all future correspondence to X through email, and that he scan these and any other documents relating to D and forward them as attachments. Still, I can't think of a tactful reply to X's email. If it were my battle, I'd be tempted to place X on notice that her motives are transparent, and that if she intends to flout court orders she will have to do so without H's cooperation.
Can anyone suggest a more appropriate response?
