Need Advice - Fast

[JAguirre]

What is the name of your state? California

When my daughter (21) purchased her vehicle, she did not have adequate credit so her then boyfriend co-signed with her. For whatever reason, they did not put the car in his AND her name, but rather in his OR her name. My understanding is that both are legal owners of the vehicle and either can sell without permission from the other. Note that they have since broken up and she has made EVERY payment, including the down payment herself.

Today, he (admittedly) stold the car from her place of employment. In the car were my daughter's purse (which included her house keys, etc.). Also in the car was an out-of-town friends wallet (which contains his airline ticket home).

What, if any, recourse does she have? Can she file a police report against him for -- at the very least -- the theft of her purse? Can she sue him for the monies that she paid against the loan?

Please help?

 

[tamjam7]

same boat

Indiana
I am also in the same boat my ex boyfriend and I purschased a car together he beat me up and took the car so I quit making the payments. He makes sur the payments are late every month. I am not paying for a car he beat me up and took and gave to his girlfriend to drive. Iam in an expensive legal battle. My attorney says if the bank sues me they also have to sue him. Both of our names are on the title and loan.My aatorney also thinks that a judge may rule to sell the car anyway he has to have me sign the title before he sells the car so no one really wins on this. Let me know what happens.

 

[JAguirre]

Please I really need some advice here.

The saga continues. We contacted the police who told us there was nothing we could do. Because the car was in his name as well, he technically didn’t steal the car. Because the car was also in her name, neither her purse nor her friend’s wallet, could technically be considered stolen since it remained on her property.

We also found out that his mother picked up their child from pre-school that day without her knowing and took him home with her. She recently moved and lives in a different county. My daughter has no idea of where his mother lives. And … there is nothing we can do about this because there is no standing court order pertaining to custody.

When my daughter went to retrieve her friend’s wallet and her belongings at his request, money had been taken from her purse. In addition, a bank card, insurance cards, house key and monies were missing from her friend’s wallet (fortunately he had his driver’s license with him). Keep in mind that he has never met my daughter’s friend – and knows nothing about him. However, he commented on what kind of motorcycle the friend drove and that he knew the friend lived up north.

When my daughter commented that things appeared to be missing, he laughed at her and told her “I don’t need your money – I make so much money that if I hit you with my paycheck you’d have ink poisoning.” At that time he also told her that he was keeping their child and if she took him to court, there was absolutely no way she would win because of the amount of money he made. He has her convinced that this is true. He even asked her how it felt to know he had this much control over her.

Because of the nature of the things that were missing, and the amount of money – over $500 – the police advised that we file a report since theft of that nature is a felony. We did this; however, the officer that took the report, could not list him as a suspect – even though everything pointed to the fact that he took these things – as there was no way to “prove” he did this. He said the detectives who received the report would have to decide if there was enough evidence to prosecute – which could take up to two months.

My daughter will file restraining order against him, at which time she will file for temporary full custody (until the court hearing). The police say at that time, if he does not turn over their child, he can be arrested – although I am not sure that he cares as long as my daughter does not “win” any argument. He could go to jail and my daughter would still be without her child.

I am very pessimistic, since he is intelligent, makes good money, can be very charming when he desires, and believes he is above reproach. After all, he has gotten through this many loopholes to date.

Can you advise – short of contacting an attorney – if there are any other avenues we can visit and/or research to help? Will the D.A. have my daughter’s best interest at heart? Is there anything that will prevent him from sliding through the numerous loopholes we have found already?

Advice is strongly needed.

 

[LdiJ]

Please I really need some advice here.

The saga continues. We contacted the police who told us there was nothing we could do. Because the car was in his name as well, he technically didn’t steal the car. Because the car was also in her name, neither her purse nor her friend’s wallet, could technically be considered stolen since it remained on her property.

We also found out that his mother picked up their child from pre-school that day without her knowing and took him home with her. She recently moved and lives in a different county. My daughter has no idea of where his mother lives. And … there is nothing we can do about this because there is no standing court order pertaining to custody.

When my daughter went to retrieve her friend’s wallet and her belongings at his request, money had been taken from her purse. In addition, a bank card, insurance cards, house key and monies were missing from her friend’s wallet (fortunately he had his driver’s license with him). Keep in mind that he has never met my daughter’s friend – and knows nothing about him. However, he commented on what kind of motorcycle the friend drove and that he knew the friend lived up north.

When my daughter commented that things appeared to be missing, he laughed at her and told her “I don’t need your money – I make so much money that if I hit you with my paycheck you’d have ink poisoning.” At that time he also told her that he was keeping their child and if she took him to court, there was absolutely no way she would win because of the amount of money he made. He has her convinced that this is true. He even asked her how it felt to know he had this much control over her.

Because of the nature of the things that were missing, and the amount of money – over $500 – the police advised that we file a report since theft of that nature is a felony. We did this; however, the officer that took the report, could not list him as a suspect – even though everything pointed to the fact that he took these things – as there was no way to “prove” he did this. He said the detectives who received the report would have to decide if there was enough evidence to prosecute – which could take up to two months.

My daughter will file restraining order against him, at which time she will file for temporary full custody (until the court hearing). The police say at that time, if he does not turn over their child, he can be arrested – although I am not sure that he cares as long as my daughter does not “win” any argument. He could go to jail and my daughter would still be without her child.

I am very pessimistic, since he is intelligent, makes good money, can be very charming when he desires, and believes he is above reproach. After all, he has gotten through this many loopholes to date.

Can you advise – short of contacting an attorney – if there are any other avenues we can visit and/or research to help? Will the D.A. have my daughter’s best interest at heart? Is there anything that will prevent him from sliding through the numerous loopholes we have found already?

Advice is strongly needed.

I see one option where the child is concerned. The father may have equal legal rights to the child but his mother doesn't. If your daughter knows where the mother lives (has the address) she may be able to get the police there to help her retrieve her child. It would be worth trying....but she needs to do it without any warning.

The only advantage that his money gives him is the opportunity to hire good legal help. Your daughter needs an attorney.

 

[JAguirre]

Unfortunately, she has no idea where the mother lives as she just moved to a different county. However, I was recently notified that while the mother may be under the letter of the law by having possession of the child (for which the father granted), my daughter has every right to know the address/location of the child regardless of who has current possession.

So … we have filed another police report stating that the father refuses to acknowledge the location.

I believe you are correct – there is no way to do this without an attorney since the father is treating this as a game of win or lose between him and my daughter. Thx again.

 

[tamjam7]

same boat

I am very sorry for your daughter. My ex boyfriend also has alot of money. Not only do we have the car he took that is owed on he is also suing me for charges on a credit card which he made me an authorized user because he di not want to do any of the shopping. He also gave me a car titled to me only his name has never been on the title that he also is suing me for. I had to put up 16,000.00 dollar bond to drive the car. My court date is coming up October 29. I made my mind up that I would rather the sell the car and give the money to my attny. Tell your daughter to get a restraining order even if he tries to call her let the police know also keep records of anytime he tries to call it could be very useful tell her not to trust him period. Good Luck