Need help finding out about a law!!!

[candi4687]

Case is in Tennessee, but live in KY.
I have a few more threads if you would like to read them and respond but I need to find out for sure about something. It states NOTHING in our divorce about me not being able to move with our kids and since my ex had not saw the kids in over 6 months (Even longer since he actually took them for visitation and he was 10 mins. away) I figured why not try to better our life and move to where schools are better and better paying jobs. Now the question I desperately need answered is what is the legal distance I can move away from that jurisdiction without getting permission or not having to send a certified letter to my ex to let him know of my move. I am sorry this is basically the same as my other post but only one person answered and as far as my situations goes my ex is pathetic and stops at nothing just to hurt us. Therefore, I never go to court not knowing all the facts and especially if I am in the wrong. Basically what I am saying is I do EVERYTHING to make sure my kids are taken care of and I WILL NOT see them hurt by this man any more than what he does legally.
PLEASE RESPOND IF YOU CAN HELP OR JUST HAVE ANY ADVICE AT ALL TO HELP ME.

 

[Smarty Panties]

http://www.divorcetn.com/moveaway.htm

 

[candi4687]

Ok well since I now know the law since it is too late since I have already moved what can I do?

 

[Inquiry123]

Questions

Since-cerely send the notice of intent to move. Start the process rolling. Maybe your ex won't respond and the move will be uncontested.

What's the WORST that could happen? You will claim ignorance. You will claim that when you discovered the process that you should have followed, you immediately attempted to follow the process. You will beg the forgiveness of the court and relocate if so ordered.

Hopefully you will have a legitimate, objective, understandable reason for moving the children...that is obviously in the best interest of the children.

OK...how far away have you gone? Are you prepared to provide ALL of the transportation for visitation?

 

[Whyte Noise]

Hope he doesn't take you back to court over it.

I know that sounds a tad snippy... but it's a distinct possibility.

You may not get in as much trouble as you would have if the father was consistant with his visitation, but you did move without notice and that's not good.

 

[candi4687]

We stay in court over child support and that is why the matter is just now coming up. He is looking at serving the rest (5 months) of a 6 month sentence for non-payment of child support. I have moved 85 miles away and the law states 100 miles, but where my problem starts is because I am approximately 4 miles across the state line. I do provide all transporattion cost and I don't have a problem with that. There are MANY factors as to why I moved. I feel that once someone gets so desperate to hurt someone else that they accuse every male that enters the home of molestation. They have even accused my nephew, 4yrs old at the time, of messing with my daughter. Once before my son had a diaper rash, I admit that it was pretty bad but that is because he had a reaction to the medicine, but My ex knew about that and they took pictures and went around showing that to A LOT of people in our town saying that I had a bf that was molesting them. How much can someone take.
BY THE WAY... It has been proven by a doctor each time these accusations arrose. My daughter has even had to go through counceling because she stated nothing happened and no one ever did anything to her but him and his family INSISTED that she had been messed with. So they made her go through it. My daughter is 6 yrs old and I have talked to her on several occasions since I have been messed with as a child myself. It should have clearly shown that after 6-7 people were accused of this they would have looked into why their dad was accussing them and get to the real abuse. Even though no physical abuse to my children has taken place I feel that was just wrong! MENTAL ABUSE is just as bad if not worse... Physical abuse fades away and hurts less with time but mental abuse stays around.
Also I have 25 DV charges against my ex. It had gotten so bad that he threatened to blow up my car, and would call threatening to kill me. Cops were called and he could walk in the front of my home threatening me all day long as long as he was on the sidewalk or in the road. RESTRAINING ORDERS don't work!!! They are a Joke! Now yes I accept that I was ignorant in not knowing a law that is not stated in my divorce decree but why should I be so at fault for one thing but he can get away with all he has done. BY THE WAY Christmas break he actually had the kids for 8 days. Out of that he kept them with him for maybe 5 days. My daughter has been crying and acting funny since returning. I found out that the reason why is because her father assured her that he was going to put me in jail for kidnapping her and that then her and her brother(4yrs) could come live with him. I have heard him myself tell her that I don't love her and that the only reason why I have them with me is to "Steal daddy's money"! Can you imagine how that made my 6 year old daughter feel? I dont know anymore, all I know is our children deserve better than this. Sorry to take up space.....
Any comments or advice?

 

[candi4687]

30 days are up... now what do I do?

On 10 Jan I typed up a letter of intent to move to send to my Ex (NCP).

This letter consist of:
(1) Statement of intent to move.
(2) Location of proposed new residence and phone number.
(3) Reasons for proposed relocation;and
(4) Statement that the other party may file a petition in opposition to the move within (30) days of the receipt of the notice.

This letter was received by him on 13 Jan 05 by his wife. I did send this certified and I have proof of the date they signed for the letter. The date is 17 Feb and I have recieved a copy of this letter from the DHS because I assume that my EX copied it and sent it there for some UNGODLY reason. I have contacted the courts and they claim that nothing is on file as to him petitioning this. Am I good now or is there ANYthing else that must be done???? I have tried to contact my ex over this matter and when he will talk to me all I get is that he is getting custody for me moving out of the state.

Any advice or comments are appreciated.
Thank You

 

[candi4687]

I guess there is nothing more to say or do?

 

[candi4687]

What Is Legal???

I just contacted my ex about some things going on and he claims that he had taken this letter of intent to move to a lawyer and they SUPPOSEDLY claim that it is not legal because I did not have it notarized. The law that I read and was told of stated NOTHING about having this letter notarized. WHAT SHOULD I DO? IS THERE ANY TRUTH BEHIND THIS????????
He also admitted to living in AL but claims he still has TN residency. I ask how he figured that but says that is none of my damn buisness.