Need Ideas

[KarenWalker]

What is the name of your state? OK

Despite giving them $20,000 each year, my husband's ex has filed bankruptcy and their house is being foreclosed on. The children wear second-hand clothes and are never given material posessions, while the EX and her husband buy new furniture, a big screen TV, etc.

I know all of this information is huge, but I don't know what we can do with it. We have joint custody (which has never been good enough) and they go to school in Oklahoma rather than our neighboring state.

Ideas? HELP!!!

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? OK

Despite giving them $20,000 each year, my husband's ex has filed bankruptcy and their house is being foreclosed on. The children wear second-hand clothes and are never given material posessions, while the EX and her husband buy new furniture, a big screen TV, etc.

I know all of this information is huge, but I don't know what we can do with it. We have joint custody (which has never been good enough) and they go to school in Oklahoma rather than our neighboring state.

Ideas? HELP!!!

Ideas for what? Why do you think this info is "huge"?

 

[VeronicaGia]

What is the name of your state? OK

Despite giving them $20,000 each year, my husband's ex has filed bankruptcy and their house is being foreclosed on. The children wear second-hand clothes and are never given material posessions, while the EX and her husband buy new furniture, a big screen TV, etc.

I know all of this information is huge, but I don't know what we can do with it. We have joint custody (which has never been good enough) and they go to school in Oklahoma rather than our neighboring state.

Ideas? HELP!!!

If she is going to be homeless, your husband needs to file for temporary custody.

 

[KarenWalker]

My instinct is that this is definitely supplemental information for our continual custody battle. I'm not sure how to use this information although I feel that it is urgently important.

Missing a few bills doesn't make you a bad parent or a bad person, but besides praying for their situation, I need to know how to use it to our advantage, however mean-spirited that seems.

They go to school there on the grounds that the EX didn't want to uproot them from their school or their neighborhood, but here we go....

 

[KarenWalker]

If she is going to be homeless, your husband needs to file for temporary custody.

That is true. If she goes and stays with nearby family, should we still pursue temporary custody based on the loss of their house?

 

[MandyD]

Ask for Will Truman's advice.

Sorry, I couldn't resist. Carry on...

 

[LdiJ]

My instinct is that this is definitely supplemental information for our continual custody battle. I'm not sure how to use this information although I feel that it is urgently important.

Missing a few bills doesn't make you a bad parent or a bad person, but besides praying for their situation, I need to know how to use it to our advantage, however mean-spirited that seems.

They go to school there on the grounds that the EX didn't want to uproot them from their school or their neighborhood, but here we go....

Sorry...but honestly this won't help your husband. Its not huge, its not even a "blip". It also won't help your husband if they lose their home and move in with family.

 

[stealth2]

I doubt that's going to be as "huge" as you seem to think it is. If they were living in a car due to the loss of the house, that would be one thing. But moving in with her parents? Nah. Nor is the kids being dressed in secondhand clothes.

 

[CJane]

Are you honestly suggesting that finling bankruptcy, shopping at the second hand store, etc makes a person an unfit parent?

 

[KarenWalker]

I'm obviously not stating that this makes them unfit (see above statements). I hate to use this as ammunition, but I am seeking HOW this would be used as ammunition. I pray for them and hope they are okay, but I don't want my kids on the streets or crammed into another tiny house with strange people that I don't know.

We just want our kids to be here and we've been fighting gently for years. Any advice on gaining custody would be great

 

[Zephyr]

but I don't want my kids on the streets or crammed into another tiny house with strange people that I don't know.



WHOSE KIDS?!?!?!

 

[KarenWalker]

My kids as opposed to stranger's children. Being a step-parent doesn't make me or their step-father any less of a parent just because we didn't biologically make them.

 

[stealth2]

I pray for them and hope they are okay, but I don't want my kids on the streets or crammed into another tiny house with strange people that I don't know.

Uuuh, they are not YOUR kids, and they're staying with family - whether you know them or not.

This is not a lynchpin for a change of custody.

 

[CJane]

I'm obviously not stating that this makes them unfit (see above statements). I hate to use this as ammunition, but I am seeking HOW this would be used as ammunition. I pray for them and hope they are okay, but I don't want my kids on the streets or crammed into another tiny house with strange people that I don't know.

We just want our kids to be here and we've been fighting gently for years. Any advice on gaining custody would be great

What grounds have you been fighting ON? If mom isn't unfit, and you've repeatedly stated that she's not, then what? You most likely CAN'T use the bankruptcy or anything else as ammunition unless you can prove that uprooting the children and moving them into your house and a new school and all of that is better than staying with relatives. Tall order, and probably next to impossible.

I know you were hoping that this was a huge thing, but it's just not.

 

[KarenWalker]

Well, it sounds like there is nothing I can do other than think positive thoughts for them. If you will all do the same, hopefully the kids will get to remain uninterrupted in life!