New Marriage Adoption

[TempAngel09]

I had my little girl in N.C. but we have always lived in S.C..I just got married to a great man that is not her bio-dad but he would like to adopt her. However she does go and see her bio-dad about once a month but other than her going over to his house and spending the weekend with him he doesn't pay any child support or help with any of her bills. His name is not on her birth cert. due to N.C. laws and I have given him all the info he needs so he could be added but in the two in a half years since she was born he has not done anything to add himself to her birth cert.. So My husband wants to adopt her but we don't know what we should do since he has no legal right to her but she does go see him once a month. Do we have to ask him to sign over his rights or is there anything else we can do? I figured since his name is not on the birth cert. and he has never done anything to help support her or change it we could go ahead and start the adoption process.

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

 

[Zigner]

I had my little girl in N.C. but we have always lived in S.C..I just got married to a great man that is not her bio-dad but he would like to adopt her. However she does go and see her bio-dad about once a month but other than her going over to his house and spending the weekend with him he doesn't pay any child support or help with any of her bills. His name is not on her birth cert. due to N.C. laws and I have given him all the info he needs so he could be added but in the two in a half years since she was born he has not done anything to add himself to her birth cert.. So My husband wants to adopt her but we don't know what we should do since he has no legal right to her but she does go see him once a month. Do we have to ask him to sign over his rights or is there anything else we can do? I figured since his name is not on the birth cert. and he has never done anything to help support her or change it we could go ahead and start the adoption process.

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

Part of the "adoption process" will be getting permission from the purported father of the child. You complain that the father hasn't done anything to be legally declared the father over the past 2-1/2 years...but the simple fact is that YOU have also done nothing. Dad doesn't owe a DIME in child support at this point due to your inaction.

 

[Antigone*]

I had my little girl in N.C. but we have always lived in S.C..I just got married to a great man that is not her bio-dad but he would like to adopt her. However she does go and see her bio-dad about once a month but other than her going over to his house and spending the weekend with him he doesn't pay any child support or help with any of her bills. His name is not on her birth cert. due to N.C. laws and I have given him all the info he needs so he could be added but in the two in a half years since she was born he has not done anything to add himself to her birth cert.. So My husband wants to adopt her but we don't know what we should do since he has no legal right to her but she does go see him once a month. Do we have to ask him to sign over his rights or is there anything else we can do? I figured since his name is not on the birth cert. and he has never done anything to help support her or change it we could go ahead and start the adoption process.

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

So basically you want to play musical daddies, when this little girl already has one.

What is going to happen when you and this replacement dad separate, are you going to be okay with him having custody of your daughter?

 

[nextwife]

IN addition, READ the archives. Rushing a new spouse into a step-adoption is a really BAD idea. Give the marriage at minimum a couple years and THEN, if appropriate, and there is no dad in the picture at all, it might make sense to look into adoption.

This child has a father, sees their father at least monthly. Adoption is not appropriate.

 

[Ohiogal]

I had my little girl in N.C. but we have always lived in S.C..I just got married to a great man that is not her bio-dad but he would like to adopt her. However she does go and see her bio-dad about once a month but other than her going over to his house and spending the weekend with him he doesn't pay any child support or help with any of her bills. His name is not on her birth cert. due to N.C. laws and I have given him all the info he needs so he could be added but in the two in a half years since she was born he has not done anything to add himself to her birth cert.. So My husband wants to adopt her but we don't know what we should do since he has no legal right to her but she does go see him once a month. Do we have to ask him to sign over his rights or is there anything else we can do? I figured since his name is not on the birth cert. and he has never done anything to help support her or change it we could go ahead and start the adoption process.

What is the name of your state? South Carolina

And why haven't you filed to establish paternity?

 

[TheGeekess]

And why haven't you filed to establish paternity?

It's easy enough to do.

SC Child Support Enforcement

 

[Proserpina]

IN addition, READ the archives. Rushing a new spouse into a step-adoption is a really BAD idea. Give the marriage at minimum a couple years and THEN, if appropriate, and there is no dad in the picture at all, it might make sense to look into adoption.

This child has a father, sees their father at least monthly. Adoption is not appropriate.

Agree completely.

OP, please don't come back and tell us how bad a father Dad is, okay? It will save us lots of time.