No consent

[LdiJ]

You realize you don't know enough about family law to be posting anything other than questions about your own situation, don't you?

This post of yours I just quoted, and others, are just legal nonsense.

Despite some of the high profile cases where significant others/non-spouses have adopted another parent's child with the other parent remaining a parent, (think Woody Allen/Mia Farrow, Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie) it IS normally true that if a single person adopts your child, it removes you as the child's parent as well.

So OHroadwarrior really isn't wrong about that.

 

[Silverplum]

Despite some of the high profile cases where significant others/non-spouses have adopted another parent's child with the other parent remaining a parent, (think Woody Allen/Mia Farrow, Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie) it IS normally true that if a single person adopts your child, it removes you as the child's parent as well.

So OHroadwarrior really isn't wrong about that.

I'm sure you could write paragraphs and paragraphs to "explain" your defense of what was a silly comment that didn't help the OP.

Go for it.

And when you're finished here, you have more defending of OHroadwarrior to do, all over the boards.

 

[braydensmom11]

Then don't complain about the purported father not "helping". You have done nothing that would require him to "help." He is not the legal father, thus he has no legal obligation.

I'm not complaining about him not helping. All I asked was since he is not, then if my fiance could adopt. I don't care either way. That was his choice and he made it. He is in a different state and is now unreachable. So again, his fault. All I wanted to know was what to do.

 

[Silverplum]

I'm not complaining about him not helping. All I asked was since he is not, then if my fiance could adopt. I don't care either way. That was his choice and he made it. He is in a different state and is now unreachable. So again, his fault. All I wanted to know was what to do.

This is a legal board.

If you want to complain, and you surely did spend time doing that, that's another board somewhere else.

If you want to know how to conduct legal business, this is the right place.

Since you never filed for child support, legally it is not his responsibility to give you a penny or a nickel or a dime. Therefore, your complaint was answered in a legal manner.

 

[stealth2]

I'm not complaining about him not helping. All I asked was since he is not, then if my fiance could adopt. I don't care either way. That was his choice and he made it. He is in a different state and is now unreachable. So again, his fault. All I wanted to know was what to do.

If you don't care either way, do your child a favor and don't even consider it for quite a few years of being married. The kiddo deserves better than that.

 

[LeemonGator]

To the OP,

Just to share my experience with you on and provide some tips:

Research the laws of your state vigorously. I mean study them and then study them some more. Find the case that holds the issue at bar in your state. In my state of Kansas, its "Adoption of JMD". It was decided by the supreme court a month ago and just happened to fall in favor of stepparents adopting.

This will probably allow my SO to finally adopt. Won't know until December, we've been going to court for over a year.

Father, who doesn't know our child, drives 7 hours to show up for every court appearance. He has never missed a child support payment. He has never asked to see our child.

Be prepared to spend money (5 to 10k), be prepared for your adoption to change the way Father acts about the situation. If you lose the adoption, you may succeed in lighting a fire under the father.

Do your research, don't get outsmarted or try to file if the law is clearly against you. If the law is against you and your situation, it might be better to let things lay where they lie.