Non-biological father signed birth certificat and now wants to adapt

[TY2009]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia ---sorry for the typo...adopt not *adapt**

Hi, first of hats up to the father of my 2 yr old son. He is a great man and I appreciate him being in my son's life. When I found out I was pregnant, I told him that it may or may not be his. He stuck around and stayed with me during the pregnancy and after our son was born. The biological father was aware that I was pregnant and he was around in the first few months of my pregancy up until I had to chose sides. I cut the bio-father off as he claimed that I couldn't possibly be pregnant by him. After my son was born in '09, I asked the non-bio father to go do the DNA test, which came back not in his favor. We both were crushed! But he said that he understood and thanked me for being honest from the start. He insisted to sign the birth certificate and to remain. Shortly after, we moved in together but things didn't work out and we split up. We were both obviously struggling with the issue more than I wanted to believe. I suggested numerous times to contact the biological father for the sake of our relationship and our son and also to possibly get the adaption process started but he didn't want non of it. We are now apart, in two sep household, he keeps him 3 days/week and takes care of him. We have, however, gotten to the point where things are starting to get uncomfortable when dealing with eachother. He finally said contact the bio-father and get the adoption process started so I have now again contacted the biological father, who seems to avoid me/the issue. Question is can we proceed with the adaption process without the bio-father's involvement being that the non-bio father signed the birth certificate? And can I force the bio-father to do the DNA test if his involvement is required? What do we/he/I need to be aware if the biological father (who by the way claims to be sterile) continue to avoid this matter? I can take any critic so be blunt and honest as I know that I was not dishonest to all involved from jump. Please help and thank you.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
Hi, first of hats up to the father of my son. He is a great man and I appreciate him being in my son's life. When I found out I was pregnant, I told him that it may or may not be his. He stuck around and stayed with me during the pregnancy and after our son was born. After the birth I asked him to go do the DNA test, which came back not in his favor. He proceeded to insist to sign the birth certificate. We moved in together and things didn't work out. He obviously was struggling with the issue more than I wanted to believe. I suggested that we contact the biological father for the sake of our relationship and our son and also to possibly get the adaption process started if the biological father (who by the way claims to be sterile) signs off on the terminination of his parental rights. I have now contacted the biological father, who seems to wanting to avoid me/the issue. Question is can we proceed with the adaption process without the bio-father's involvement? And can I force the bio-father to do the DNA test?

No, you cannot proceed with the adoption.

But hey, hats up.

 

[Antigone*]

No, you cannot proceed with the adoption.

But hey, hats up.

This man who is not daddy would be an idiot to saddle himself with child support for a child that is not his.

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia ---sorry for the typo...adopt not *adapt**

Hi, first of hats up to the father of my son. He is a great man and I appreciate him being in my son's life. When I found out I was pregnant, I told him that it may or may not be his. He stuck around and stayed with me during the pregnancy and after our son was born. After the birth I asked him to go do the DNA test, which came back not in his favor. He proceeded to insist to sign the birth certificate. We moved in together and things didn't work out. He obviously was struggling with the issue more than I wanted to believe. I suggested that we contact the biological father for the sake of our relationship and our son and also to possibly get the adaption process started if the biological father (who by the way claims to be sterile) signs off on the terminination of his parental rights. I have now contacted the biological father, who seems to wanting to avoid me/the issue. Question is can we proceed with the adaption process without the bio-father's involvement? And can I force the bio-father to do the DNA test?

It is very sad that you seem to be so clueless as to the harm you have done.

 

[Banned_Princess]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia ---sorry for the typo...adopt not *adapt**

Hi, first of hats up to the father of my son. He is a great man and I appreciate him being in my son's life. When I found out I was pregnant, I told him that it may or may not be his. He stuck around and stayed with me during the pregnancy and after our son was born. After the birth I asked him to go do the DNA test, which came back not in his favor. He proceeded to insist to sign the birth certificate. We moved in together and things didn't work out. He obviously was struggling with the issue more than I wanted to believe. I suggested that we contact the biological father for the sake of our relationship and our son and also to possibly get the adaption process started if the biological father (who by the way claims to be sterile) signs off on the terminination of his parental rights. I have now contacted the biological father, who seems to wanting to avoid me/the issue. Question is can we proceed with the adaption process without the bio-father's involvement? And can I force the bio-father to do the DNA test?

you are going to need an adoption lawyer for this, if it is even possible.

generally you cannot go ahead and adopt a child that is already yours via AOP, and birth certificate signature / naming. child is fathers. end of story.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia ---sorry for the typo...adopt not *adapt**

Hi, first of hats up to the father of my 2 yr old son. He is a great man and I appreciate him being in my son's life. When I found out I was pregnant, I told him that it may or may not be his. He stuck around and stayed with me during the pregnancy and after our son was born. the biological father was also told that I was pregnant and he was around in the first few months of my pregancy up until I had to chose sides. I cut the bio-father off as he claimed that I couldn't possibly be pregnant by him. After my son was born in '09, I asked the non-bio father to go do the DNA test, which came back not in his favor. We both were crushed! But he insisted to sign the birth certificate and to remain. Shortly after, we moved in together but things didn't work out after 8 months and we split up. We were both obviously struggling with the issue more than I wanted to believe. I suggested numerous times to contact the biological father for the sake of our relationship and our son and also to possibly get the adaption process started but he didn't want to hear that. We are now at the point where things are starting uncomfortable dealing with the 'father' in that he is hurt by no longer being an item. Despite that, I need to get this nasty cloud over my head gone and do things right...for me and the 'father' but moreso for my son. I have now again contacted the biological father, who seems to wanting to avoid me/the issue. Question is can we proceed with the adaption process without the bio-father's involvement? And can I force the bio-father to do the DNA test? What do we/ he or I need to be aware if the biological father (who by the way claims to be sterile) continue to avoid this matter? Please help and thank you. I can take any critic so be blunt and honest.

No new info post-edit.

 

[TY2009]

Thank you to ALL

Thank you for all your answers and for being frank. I know that what I decided to do was not the right thing to do, especially at the expense of my son. I'm trying to do things right and was looking for guidance as to how to go about it without involving attorneys etc. Any other guidance or information, links would be much appreciated.

@Silverplum...thanks especially.

 

[TY2009]

Blue Meannie...ease up!

No harm was done to the non-bio father.He is a grown man and nobody put a gun to his head. He was aware what he was doing and he is a great man to continue to stick to his guns. No matter how many of you call him dumb, idiot or plain crazy really doesn't matter. Too much time has passed and he is emotionally involved and WANTS to stay in his son's life. The harm done is to my son, which I hope I can correct before it's too late.

 

[TY2009]

Banned_Princess

Thank you very much. That is what I thought too. He is the daddy, he signed all the docs, he is taking care of him and my son calls him dad. But legally, we may face issues if the bio-father doesn't give up his rights. Am I right or wrong? If wrong, how so? Any ideas, leads? Thanks.

 

[Banned_Princess]

No harm was done to the non-bio father.He is a grown man and nobody put a gun to his head. He was aware what he was doing and he is a great man to continue to stick to his guns. No matter how many of you call him dumb, idiot or plain crazy really doesn't matter. Too much time has passed and he is emotionally involved and WANTS to stay in his son's life. The harm done is to my son, which I hope I can correct before it's too late.

No. we are calling him -already legal father-

no adoption is necessary.

and if adoption was necessary, bio dad WOULD HAVE TO BOTH BE INFORMED, AND AGREE.

 

[Silverplum]

Thank you for all your answers and for being frank. I know that what I decided to do was not the right thing to do, especially at the expense of my son. I'm trying to do things right and was looking for guidance as to how to go about it without involving attorneys etc. Any other guidance or information, links would be much appreciated.

@Silverplum...thanks especially.

I might have to change my signature line...it's caused some ruckus today. The boyfriend not marrying you comment is not directed at you: it's part of my signature.

 

[LeemonGator]

Wouldn't having someone who isn't the parent sign the birth certificate be illegal?

 

[NellieBly]

Don't you think the courts will question why someone on the birth certificate wants to adopt the child?

 

[Ohiogal]

No harm was done to the non-bio father.He is a grown man and nobody put a gun to his head. He was aware what he was doing and he is a great man to continue to stick to his guns. No matter how many of you call him dumb, idiot or plain crazy really doesn't matter. Too much time has passed and he is emotionally involved and WANTS to stay in his son's life. The harm done is to my son, which I hope I can correct before it's too late.

Yes the harm done is to your son. Why? Because you don't mind playing musical daddies.

 

[Ohiogal]

Wouldn't having someone who isn't the parent sign the birth certificate be illegal?

What's a little fraud between bedmates?