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[GinAA]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

There had been a change in the dates our son would be able to spend time with his father this summer. I had emailed the new dates to his father with no response.

Our son left and spent 1 week with his uncle and grandparents and 2 weeks with his father. He came back this last weekend for a "break" at his own request. Our son then asked if he could stay the whole week since his step-brother had just moved here. I emailed his father on Friday and sent him a text msg as well. I never got a response. Our son called him on Sunday and when he got off the phone he told me that it was okay with his dad if he stayed all week.

I sent my EX and email stating that he is to talk to me concerning the parenting time schedules and that I had sent him emails concerning this summer and that I needed a response from HIM about the coming week and the extended time I was offering.

As of today, still no response. I have sent him another email stating that since he has not responded to my texts, emails or voicemails I was going to assume that he did not want to have the extra time and our son would be staying home for the remainder of the summer and that his parenting schedule would return to the normal schedule starting July 30th.

I have gotten no response as of yet.

Am I within my rights to withdraw my offer of extra time because he has not responded with his intentions?

I'm not doing it to be mean. We have family plans that will take us out of town and since he did not tell me he WANTED the extra time, I have planned on our son going with us.

Thanks.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

There had been a change in the dates our son would be able to spend time with his father this summer. I had emailed the new dates to his father with no response.

Our son left and spent 1 week with his uncle and grandparents and 2 weeks with his father. He came back this last weekend for a "break" at his own request. Our son then asked if he could stay the whole week since his step-brother had just moved here. I emailed his father on Friday and sent him a text msg as well. I never got a response. Our son called him on Sunday and when he got off the phone he told me that it was okay with his dad if he stayed all week.

I sent my EX and email stating that he is to talk to me concerning the parenting time schedules and that I had sent him emails concerning this summer and that I needed a response from HIM about the coming week and the extended time I was offering.

As of today, still no response. I have sent him another email stating that since he has not responded to my texts, emails or voicemails I was going to assume that he did not want to have the extra time and our son would be staying home for the remainder of the summer and that his parenting schedule would return to the normal schedule starting July 30th.

I have gotten no response as of yet.

Am I within my rights to withdraw my offer of extra time because he has not responded with his intentions?

I'm not doing it to be mean. We have family plans that will take us out of town and since he did not tell me he WANTED the extra time, I have planned on our son going with us.

Thanks.

Well, dad might try to take you to court for contempt, but you do have some defense in that he is refusing to communicate with you.

I will tell you though, that under the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines dad is supposed to get 1/2 of the summer. If you are not making the child available for 1/2 of the summer (and it sounds like you might not have) then you are not following the guidelines and could be held in contempt.

 

[GinAA]

Well, dad might try to take you to court for contempt, but you do have some defense in that he is refusing to communicate with you.

I will tell you though, that under the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines dad is supposed to get 1/2 of the summer. If you are not making the child available for 1/2 of the summer (and it sounds like you might not have) then you are not following the guidelines and could be held in contempt.

I understand that he could file contempt charges but he has to attempt to pick up our son first and as far as I know, he has no plans to.

I will call him before we leave and find out for sure.

Thanks.

 

[AbbaDabba730]

make sure you get it in writting.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

check out the following website: readnotify.com

There is an option to certify the emails to show that you really did try to communicate with him.

 

[GinAA]

make sure you get it in writting.

Hence the emails. He refuses to discuss anything over the phone but won't check his emails after he gets off work. I know he does because he has responded to some from his phone.

I will check out the site, Tink. I really do need the proof that he is getting the information but just choosing not to reply.

I know it's because I have filed for a modification of the child support order. The last order was from 1998! Our son is 15 now, he eats $1998 in food!

Thanks for the info!

 

[GinAA]

Update!

I received replies to most of the emails I had sent. He was very sorry and stated that he just didn't have time to check email on a regular basis. He claims he never got any texts from me or voicemails but does admit that he is not always in control of his phone.

We have been communicating all day and have ironed out the issues.

Thanks everyone!

 

[Mr.X]

Cool! Glad you got it worked out.