Not sure what to do

[penelope10]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX

I have a situation that I am really unsure what to do about legally, or if there is anything I can do. Lil Bit's Step Mother and Dad have a love-hate relationship. In the past there have been arguments that have been so nasty that Lil Bit has had to leave their home.

This Friday they got in a fight (Lil Bit was not there). Step mother threw Oz's phone and smashed it. Then, evidently, during this fight OZ told his wife that Lil Bit hated her.

Step mother then started texting Lil Bit telling her that she was no longer welcome in her home and a lot of other ugly things. Lil Bit gave her a short response and then ended the text.(Nothing nasty back). She then tried to call her Dad (and of course could not reach him because his phone was broken). On Sat. she spoke to her Dad and they decided to meet today for lunch. He told Lil Bit that he wanted to see the texts and that he was going to divorce his wife because "he loved Lil Bit more that his wife and he knew that she treated Lil Bit poorly."

So today they meet for lunch and he was no longer interested in seeing the texts. He told Lil Bit that he was going to stay married to his wife and he understood if Lil Bit no longer wanted to go over to his home. And basically that he hoped that Lil Bit would want to still see him. (I guess spend an hour or so together at lunch every so often). He also cried and said, " I don't know why this is happening."

So now I have a 17 year old who is depressed and laying in bed taking a nap. I asked her if she wanted to see a counselor and she said no. (I think I am still going to pursue the counselor thing).

Is there anything I can do legally or otherwise to stop this woman from texting my daughter in the future? (This woman has also sent nasty texts to my older daughter in the past). I have stayed out of the situation and have just been here as a support for both my girls. I am really reluctant to contact their father as he repeats everything to his wife, which, I feel will just make matters worse.

As a side note this summer Lil Bit and OZ went on a short vacation together. The woman kept texting OZ over and over saying f... you, you're a liar. And of course OZ foolishly decided to show these texts to Lil Bit, I guess to get sympathy. (Lot's of mind games being played I feel on his part).

 

[Isis1]

penny!! we haven't seen you in ages!!!

sorry, just wanted to say hi! i'll read your thread now.

ETA:

oh hon, i am so sorry to hear that. how much longer will she is 18? still encourage the therapist. dad is really screwing up his chances to have a healthy relationship with his daughter. which is really awful for lil bit.

 

[penelope10]

Hi to you too!

 

[icelyn]

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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? TX

I have a situation that I am really unsure what to do about legally, or if there is anything I can do. Lil Bit's Step Mother and Dad have a love-hate relationship. In the past there have been arguments that have been so nasty that Lil Bit has had to leave their home.

This Friday they got in a fight (Lil Bit was not there). Step mother threw Oz's phone and smashed it. Then, evidently, during this fight OZ told his wife that Lil Bit hated her.

Step mother then started texting Lil Bit telling her that she was no longer welcome in her home and a lot of other ugly things. Lil Bit gave her a short response and then ended the text.(Nothing nasty back). She then tried to call her Dad (and of course could not reach him because his phone was broken). On Sat. she spoke to her Dad and they decided to meet today for lunch. He told Lil Bit that he wanted to see the texts and that he was going to divorce his wife because "he loved Lil Bit more that his wife and he knew that she treated Lil Bit poorly."

So today they meet for lunch and he was no longer interested in seeing the texts. He told Lil Bit that he was going to stay married to his wife and he understood if Lil Bit no longer wanted to go over to his home. And basically that he hoped that Lil Bit would want to still see him. (I guess spend an hour or so together at lunch every so often). He also cried and said, " I don't know why this is happening."

So now I have a 17 year old who is depressed and laying in bed taking a nap. I asked her if she wanted to see a counselor and she said no. (I think I am still going to pursue the counselor thing).

Is there anything I can do legally or otherwise to stop this woman from texting my daughter in the future? (This woman has also sent nasty texts to my older daughter in the past). I have stayed out of the situation and have just been here as a support for both my girls. I am really reluctant to contact their father as he repeats everything to his wife, which, I feel will just make matters worse.

As a side note this summer Lil Bit and OZ went on a short vacation together. The woman kept texting OZ over and over saying f... you, you're a liar. And of course OZ foolishly decided to show these texts to Lil Bit, I guess to get sympathy. (Lot's of mind games being played I feel on his part).

Cellular phones have blocked text number options. My prepaid cellular phone through Net 10 doesn't have this option through the phone itself. My daughter's Trac Phone does have this option. My account through Verizon has this option through their website. You are the parent. See if daughter's phone has this option in blocking numbers from texting. Depending on the severity of the text's content you may obtain an Order to Prohibit Harassment. At 17 your daughter is old enough to make a decision in not seeing dad or step mother. I am sorry she is going through this. Therapy might help. It may be a tough road. Unfortunately you cannot "make" someone stop doing something. I received a nasty text from the NCP. I took a picture of the text message (it was easier this way then spend minutes on the phone with Net 10) and forwarded to his attorney, our PC and our Court judge. Haven't received a text since.

 

[TheGeekess]

Cellular phones have blocked text number options. My prepaid cellular phone through Net 10 doesn't have this option through the phone itself. My daughter's Trac Phone does have this option. My account through Verizon has this option through their website. You are the parent. See if daughter's phone has this option in blocking numbers from texting. Depending on the severity of the text's content you may obtain an Order to Prohibit Harassment. At 17 your daughter is old enough to make a decision in not seeing dad or step mother. I am sorry she is going through this. Therapy might help. It may be a tough road. Unfortunately you cannot "make" someone stop doing something. I received a nasty text from the NCP. I took a picture of the text message (it was easier this way then spend minutes on the phone with Net 10) and forwarded to his attorney, our PC and our Court judge. Haven't received a text since.

Horseapples. And Penny knows better. So, take your bad advice and go elsewhere.

 

[Proserpina]

Cellular phones have blocked text number options. My prepaid cellular phone through Net 10 doesn't have this option through the phone itself. My daughter's Trac Phone does have this option. My account through Verizon has this option through their website. You are the parent. See if daughter's phone has this option in blocking numbers from texting. Depending on the severity of the text's content you may obtain an Order to Prohibit Harassment. At 17 your daughter is old enough to make a decision in not seeing dad or step mother. I am sorry she is going through this. Therapy might help. It may be a tough road. Unfortunately you cannot "make" someone stop doing something. I received a nasty text from the NCP. I took a picture of the text message (it was easier this way then spend minutes on the phone with Net 10) and forwarded to his attorney, our PC and our Court judge. Haven't received a text since.

Absolutely incorrect.

AGAIN.