Papers Served

[Justasoldier]

I live in Georgia,

Just got served papers and was booted from the house until the court date (14 April). Seeking an attorney at this very moment.
Reason for her wanting the divorce is filed as cruel treatment.
Basically due to her irresponsibility of finances, I have regained control of all monies and accounts of which I contribute 100% to for supporting the house (mortgage), all utilities, food, clothes and daily needs such as gas for vehicles.
In served papers, she claims marriage is irretrievably broken and there is no reasonable hope for reconciliation.
I will refuse as the defendent to agree to a divorce.
Older son not mine, younger one is.
She wants child support and alimony based on the papers served to me.
I have supported my family to include her older son 100% and have allowed her to run the household how she sees fit.
Will the court find justifiable reason for granting her a divorce? What can I do to prepare to win the court's decision?
Thank you.

 

[nextwife]

How long was the marriage?

She WILL be divorced if she wishes one. Spousal support, other than very short term, may not be justified. You need to tell more about the marriage.

 

[Justasoldier]

How long was the marriage?

She WILL be divorced if she wishes one. Spousal support, other than very short term, may not be justified. You need to tell more about the marriage.

Sorry I haven't responded sooner. Okay what would you like to know about the marriage other than 10.5 years?

 

[Proserpina]

Sorry I haven't responded sooner. Okay what would you like to know about the marriage other than 10.5 years?

She's going to get the divorce whether you agree or not - the only difference really is whether this is going to be relatively simple, or whether it's going to be long and drawn out.

It would benefit ALL of you - including the children - if you could do this amicably.

What is the basis of her filing on cruelty?

 

[Justasoldier]

She's going to get the divorce whether you agree or not - the only difference really is whether this is going to be relatively simple, or whether it's going to be long and drawn out.

It would benefit ALL of you - including the children - if you could do this amicably.

What is the basis of her filing on cruelty?

For over ten years I have let her run the house, finances, all issues concerning the children done her way. A previous cell phone bill exceeded contract amount where the bill was near $500.00. I asked her to not exceed and cause the bill to be so high. Last billing cycle, was near $1000.00 so I cut her phone off.
I knew she would react irrationally and so I moved a large portion of our savings into a separate account not allowing her access. I left over $6000.00 remaining to more than cover all bills and mortgage and also any expenses. This account she had complete access to and as I expected she removed all remaining monies from that account. So my intent was to continue to support her financially and all bills however she says I want to control her and this is where she is claiming cruelty.
Just so you know, I have given her many gifts in the past 24 months to include paid for in cash an Infinity QX56 fully loaded ($54,000.00). Only she has access to a CD investment of $30,000.00 which is money I made via an overseas contract. Also I have been overseas for near the last two years to accomodate her lifestyle and expenses. A sniper in Iraq tried to take my head off. In Afghanistan I was shot at, mortared, nearly killed by a Iranian 107mm white phosphorous rocket and I was on a helicopter that was brought down which could have killed everyone on board. All of this sacrifice for her and my family and this is how I am reciprocated.

 

[Sanuk-1997]

As a member of the armed services (retired) I got some bad news for you.
-She's going to get half your retired pay if you make it to 20 years because the courts consider it "property"
-She's going to get child support according to the laws of the state where papers are filed. The courts assume the mother is the best capable of raising children
-She's going to get half of "your stuff" because the court considers it community property

The courts have you in the crosshairs just as the southwest asian badguys did.

Welcome back to the good ole USA. Land of the entitled.

By the way, I feel for you. You have it bad getting shot at. Now you have to defend yourself against the very laws you were sent to protect.

The irony is mind boggling

 

[my life is mine]

As a member of the armed services (retired) I got some bad news for you.
-She's going to get half your retired pay if you make it to 20 years because the courts consider it "property" That is only a possibility
-She's going to get child support according to the laws of the state where papers are filed. The courts assume the mother is the best capable of raising children No, most likely, since he is deployable, Mother gets custody, so children do not have to move from one parents to anothers every time he deploys
-She's going to get half of "your stuff" because the court considers it community property Only in community property states, which GA is not

The courts have you in the crosshairs just as the southwest asian badguys did.

Welcome back to the good ole USA. Land of the entitled.

By the way, I feel for you. You have it bad getting shot at. Now you have to defend yourself against the very laws you were sent to protect.

The irony is mind boggling

You are very jaded about military members and their rights aren't you, or you are horribly misinformed.

 

[stealth2]

You are very jaded about military members and their rights aren't you, or you are horribly misinformed.

Or both....

 

[Sanuk-1997]

You are very jaded about military members and their rights aren't you, or you are horribly misinformed.

Well let me tell you this:
My ex got half my retirement pay. She also got half of our property. She also got custody even AFTER I was retired from the service.

So you don't really know what service members endure in our wonderful family law courts.

Hey soldier, get back with us AFTER your divorce is final and let us know EXACTLY how good you come out of it.

If you listen to all these estrogen based units on this board, they will lead you to believe it's "fair" and "we're doing it for the children"... Like Hope and Change... it's all lies.

Hear me now. Believe me later.

 

[my life is mine]

Well let me tell you this:
My ex got half my retirement pay. She also got half of our property. She also got custody even AFTER I was retired from the service.

So you don't really know what service members endure in our wonderful family law courts.

Hey soldier, get back with us AFTER your divorce is final and let us know EXACTLY how good you come out of it.

If you listen to all these estrogen based units on this board, they will lead you to believe it's "fair" and "we're doing it for the children"... Like Hope and Change... it's all lies.

Hear me now. Believe me later.

Actually I do know what I am talking about, since I work with soldiers and sailors on a daily basis in concern of divorce.

Just this week, a deployable sailor, got 50/50 physical and legal custody of his 5 children, the Ex spouse is paying him child support. She will not be able to touch his retirement.

So please do not tell me what can or cannot happen with military members, it is just knowing how the system really works, that makes things like the above happen.

 

[Ohiogal]

Well let me tell you this:
My ex got half my retirement pay. She also got half of our property. She also got custody even AFTER I was retired from the service.

So you don't really know what service members endure in our wonderful family law courts.

Hey soldier, get back with us AFTER your divorce is final and let us know EXACTLY how good you come out of it.

If you listen to all these estrogen based units on this board, they will lead you to believe it's "fair" and "we're doing it for the children"... Like Hope and Change... it's all lies.

Hear me now. Believe me later.

Your bitterness is showing. She most likely got custody because she was the primary caregiver of the children and it was in their best interest to remain with her.

 

[LdiJ]

For over ten years I have let her run the house, finances, all issues concerning the children done her way. A previous cell phone bill exceeded contract amount where the bill was near $500.00. I asked her to not exceed and cause the bill to be so high. Last billing cycle, was near $1000.00 so I cut her phone off.

With unlimited plans available at anywhere from 49.99 to 99.99 per phone, wouldn't it have made more sense to go to an unlimited plan rather than cutting off her phone?

I knew she would react irrationally and so I moved a large portion of our savings into a separate account not allowing her access. I left over $6000.00 remaining to more than cover all bills and mortgage and also any expenses. This account she had complete access to and as I expected she removed all remaining monies from that account. So my intent was to continue to support her financially and all bills however she says I want to control her and this is where she is claiming cruelty.

You cuting off her phone when you didn't need to do that to solve the problem, AND moving a big chunk of savings were both fairly hostile acts that were just about guaranteed to get you the result you got. That was either controlling or an indication that YOU want a divorce. Since you clearly state that you don't, it sounds to me like it was controlling.

Just so you know, I have given her many gifts in the past 24 months to include paid for in cash an Infinity QX56 fully loaded ($54,000.00). Only she has access to a CD investment of $30,000.00 which is money I made via an overseas contract. Also I have been overseas for near the last two years to accomodate her lifestyle and expenses. A sniper in Iraq tried to take my head off. In Afghanistan I was shot at, mortared, nearly killed by a Iranian 107mm white phosphorous rocket and I was on a helicopter that was brought down which could have killed everyone on board. All of this sacrifice for her and my family and this is how I am reciprocated.

I think that your screen name is a misnomer. To have that kind of cash available from "an overseas contract" seems to indicate to me that you are an overseas contractor now, rather than a soldier.

If she wants a divorce, she is going to get a divorce. You will not be able to stop that. You also won't be able to stop the marital assets from being divided, and you may end up paying some alimony for a few years.

 

[Sanuk-1997]

Actually I do know what I am talking about, since I work with soldiers and sailors on a daily basis in concern of divorce.

Just this week, a deployable sailor, got 50/50 physical and legal custody of his 5 children, the Ex spouse is paying him child support. She will not be able to touch his retirement.

So please do not tell me what can or cannot happen with military members, it is just knowing how the system really works, that makes things like the above happen.

You're in OH. He's in GA

 

[my life is mine]

Actually this case was in St Mary's GA.

 

[my life is mine]

I have never helped with a case in OH, I do not live in OH. I do think you have me confused with another member here.