PAS and Hostile Aggressive Parenting

[calidad]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CA

I have a evaluation on monday and after reading everything I could I am CONVINCED I am a victim of HAP without a dout. Virtually every criteria of HAP has been displayed by my ex(exept the unthinkable-abuse accusations).

I believe I am also a victim of Parental Alienation-

I have a year and a half of documented actions and emails to prove my point. From throwing my clothes and art out in the street the day of our seperation, in front of the kids, too not allowing me to speak to my girls on days such as Valentines day, and my oldests birthday.

Would it be disrespectful to bring liturature to the eval that shows that everything in my mediation response packet matches to the tee what defines HAP?

Is PAS regularly recognized by the state?

Stuff like catching my oldest writing names of who comes over, directions to my fiance's house, and notes as to what goes on in general during my parenting time. I regularly get calls from my ex 5 minutes after drop off as to what she believes I did wrong.(kids have to be in car as home is to far away).

Also there have been times that I have medicated my daughter because i have not been informed that she has already been, to get a phone call after drop off with my ex saying things like "WHAT ARE TRYING TO DO OVERDOSE AND KILL OUR DAUGHTER!!!!" once again in front of the kids.

I have also got comments from my ex about my conversations with my fiance on the way to drop off, "You are going to new york, and you cant pay for braces!!!!?" when the conversation was about a prior trip.

Are these good/great/so-so/no-no things to bring up during my evaluation?

They were the basis for my OSC seeking more parenting time.

Or is it a better idea to leave it alone being that it was in my "response" packet to the evaluator?

 

[Humusluvr]

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/pas-custody-cases-441548.html

Helpful reading. PAS is a BIG NO NO.

Describe what is happening to you. But don't use the words PAS.

 

[calidad]

Thanks for the link!!

Thank you for the link!!

I can se why its a NO-NO!!!!!!!

 

[LdiJ]

Thank you for the link!!

I can se why its a NO-NO!!!!!!!

Don't use HAP either...stay away from defining anything. Again, just explain what is going on.

 

[cyjeff]

Don't use HAP either...stay away from defining anything. Again, just explain what is going on.

Perfect advice.

You are not a child mental health professional. For you to introduce ANYTHING like this into court smacks of trying to pretend to be one.

Just state your case.

 

[calidad]

Thanks for the guidence! couple more ?'s

Thank you all for the help I see your points, I am not a professional, I will just explain what is going on my case i think t is solid on its own.


I recieved the response packet in the mail yesterday, I was 31 pages, we are only allowed 25, when I check in should I state that to the clerk or let them do their thing?


Also..... In the response packet there were VICISOUS accusations about emmotional abuse and neglect!!!


I was able to rip apart everyone of her accusations with emails and documentation (childrens medical records and the such) showing how rediculous these accusations are. Will I be able to defend myself to the mediator/evaluator and show without a dout that these are BASELESS accusations once agan?

Will I be able to show all these documents during the eval. to dicredit my ex? There is not enough time to serve another response and that has me worried!!!

The ONLY 2 things brought up in front of the judge when asked why she wanted a 3111 was my daughter no longer wanted as much time with me, and my fiancee was stalking her . She never mentioned ANY of the things in her response packet when answering to why she wanted a 3111. Is this OK?

These are also the same accusations that have been levied against me for the last 2 years!!!!!! Yet I still have a 32% time share. At the time that was all i could REALISTICALLY have while still personally careing for them. Now is another story, with that and my previous post with dealing with alienation and her agressive paretning towards me.