paying child support..

[Amy R]

What is the name of your state? KS

Do I have to pay child support if I am still consider legally married him, he has the child but I still get to see my son. We have been married since May 1999, we split in April 2000 but are still legally married. He lives in Wisconsin.

Could it be that I am ordered to pay because he is getting help in his state like medical assistance, food stamps, cash assistance, etc..

If you could help me, I appreciate it so much. Thanks

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state? KS

Do I have to pay child support if I am still consider legally married him, he has the child but I still get to see my son. We have been married since May 1999, we split in April 2000 but are still legally married. He lives in Wisconsin.

Could it be that I am ordered to pay because he is getting help in his state like medical assistance, food stamps, cash assistance, etc..

If you could help me, I appreciate it so much. Thanks

My response:

What does the legal state of your marriage have to do with your obligation to assist in the support of your own child? Where is the logic of your question?

IAAL

 

[BelizeBreeze]

My response:

What does the legal state of your marriage have to do with your obligation to assist in the support of your own child? Where is the logic of your question?

IAAL

Could it be, might it be, perhaps it be because she's a.....
W.O.M.A.N.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Could it be, might it be, perhaps it be because she's a.....
W.O.M.A.N.

My response:

Well, that was obvious. For some reason, women can't believe the law is a double-sided coin. "Duh, child support orders don't apply to me!" Here's news for our writer: "They do."

IAAL

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Do you both really feel that way about all women?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Do you both really feel that way about all women?

My response:

Who said anything about "all" women, or even "most" women? It's the women who have dealings with Family law, and through their own ineptness, or background, cannot believe that they've been ordered to pay child support. "That's a man's job!" Oh, brother, how many times I've heard THAT one.

IAAL

 

[Amy R]

To All Of You Who Think That I Do Not Want To Pay Child Support Are Wrong, I Simply Asked If I Had Too Because A Friend Brought It Up Saying That She Doesnt Think I Should Have To yet Because We Are Still Legally Married! We Are In The Process Of Getting A Divorce. So Why Are You All Yelling At Me?? Im Sorrie I Guess If I Offended Some Of You!!!

 

[Amy R]

My response:

What does the legal state of your marriage have to do with your obligation to assist in the support of your own child? Where is the logic of your question?

IAAL

Okay, sorrie to sound soooo freaking dumb!..well my question is...Why do I have to pay child support if I am still married to him?? I could see if we were divorced then that would be a different issue.

And I never said that I didnt want to pay child support, I am more than willing to pay if I have too..so get it straight!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Okay, sorrie to sound soooo freaking dumb!..well my question is...Why do I have to pay child support if I am still married to him?? I could see if we were divorced then that would be a different issue.

And I never said that I didnt want to pay child support, I am more than willing to pay if I have too..so get it straight!

My response:

You don't get it. So, you'll pay support for YOUR child only if you HAVE TO? You mean, someone has to force you? Someone has to ORDER you?

Lady, the state of your marriage has NOTHING to do with whether your child eats, or has underwear, or pajamas, or a shirt or two.

You have a very ignorant "friend".

Is there a trailer somewhere in your story?

IAAL

 

[AHA]

You are not living together, so why should he be the only one to pay for your child's well being? Raising a child doesn't cost less just because you for some reason(probably to avoid paying higher taxes or something equally superficial) are staying married eventhough you don't share a life or even live in the same state.
Since you haven't been living together for years, why not get divorced? Is your "friend" a family lawyer or has personal experience in this? If not, what makes her opinion a written law?
Do your ex and child a favor and get a divorce, and start paying for your child's needs asap, you shouldn't have to be ordered to do that. Take responsibility for a kid that didn't ask to be born.

 

[Amy R]

My response:

You don't get it. So, you'll pay support for YOUR child only if you HAVE TO? You mean, someone has to force you? Someone has to ORDER you?

Lady, the state of your marriage has NOTHING to do with whether your child eats, or has underwear, or pajamas, or a shirt or two.

You have a very ignorant "friend".

Is there a trailer somewhere in your story?

IAAL

The court has already ordered me to pay! I just dont get why I would have to pay because were still married, I would think after the divorce then they order me to pay.

I still send money to my son every month too. I just stated where we were married because I thought its different in every state. I guess not *sorry*

And I did not ask for your opinion about my friend!

If you do not get what I am trying to ask..please dont response!

 

[Amy R]

You are not living together, so why should he be the only one to pay for your child's well being? Raising a child doesn't cost less just because you for some reason(probably to avoid paying higher taxes or something equally superficial) are staying married eventhough you don't share a life or even live in the same state.
Since you haven't been living together for years, why not get divorced? Is your "friend" a family lawyer or has personal experience in this? If not, what makes her opinion a written law?
Do your ex and child a favor and get a divorce, and start paying for your child's needs asap, you shouldn't have to be ordered to do that. Take responsibility for a kid that didn't ask to be born.

OMG..why am I getting attacked in here, I NEVER SAID I WOULDNT PAY! I simply asked why do I have to pay?? I can see after we get divorced and the reason we arent divcorved is because of him not me..and I do pay for my child's well being.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

The court has already ordered me to pay! I just dont get why I would have to pay because were still married, I would think after the divorce then they order me to pay.

I still send money to my son every month too. I just stated where we were married because I thought its different in every state. I guess not *sorry*

And I did not ask for your opinion about my friend!

If you do not get what I am trying to ask..please dont response!

My response:

Here's what I got in my e-mail BEFORE our writer edited her post:

If you do got get what I am trying to ask..please dont ****ing response! All I wanted was a nice, polite answer not someone being a ****ing ASS!

IAAL

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

OMG..why am I getting attacked in here, I NEVER SAID I WOULDNT PAY! I simply asked why do I have to pay?? Because the guy wearing the black robe ordered it.


I can see after we get divorced and the reason we arent divcorved is because of him not me..and I do pay for my child's well being. That poor kid. At least dad has him/her and not you.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

You're being "attacked", as you call it, for asking such a STUPID question in the first place. You keep equating your marriage to whether you SHOULD pay support to your child, and I keep telling you that your marriage has NOTHING to do with it - - yet you KEEP mentioning it. Are you really that dumb?

What if you were never married, had a child, and had the child taken from you because you were a druggie or an alcoholic (which I suspect is one of the reasons, anyway - - but that's beside the point)? Wouldn't you EXPECT to support your child regardless of someone TELLING you that you HAD to?

IAAL