please help!! how much money will i get???

[mommy2B_19]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? mn

please help!!!!

im 19 and im having a baby in three months and really need the childsupport money im intitled to having for having a baby by him.

my question is; how much money can i get?

and when can i get it??? do i have to wait till after i have my baby or can i get it sooner if i need it???

i dont have a job and am always broke; so i need to know if a court can say that the babys daddy can give me some of the childsupport money early before the baby comes. he's 21, and makes good money at his work but he wont give me any when i ask

can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby?

i was told that since hes the daddy, he has to pay to support me and the this baby foir 18 years.


me and him dont get along anymore, and he yells alot, and hes got another girlfriend already. if i dont want him to do it can he still try to see the baby?? i dont want him around the baby or me at all....and if can just get the $ that he is suposed to give me, i wont have to even see him.


please help!!!

 

[bononos]

"can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby?"
CHILD Support isn't to support you, it's to support the CHILD. (hence the name)

 

[stealth2]

Until the child is born and there's either a paternity test proving he's the father OR he acknowledges paternity, AND a court orders him to pay support - he's not obligated to pay anything. Once he is found to legally be the father, he has every right to file for visitation or custody - you don't get to decide whether or not he sees the kid. You picked him, now you're stuck with him. In addition, the child support is only his PORTION of the money needed to raise the child - YOU provide the other part of it. So you'd best start thinking about how you're going to earn that money. You're old enough to have a child - you're old enough to help support it.

 

[haiku]

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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? mn

please help!!!!

im 19 and im having a baby in three months and really need the childsupport money im intitled to having for having a baby by him.

***Until he establishes paternity after the birth he owes you nothing.****

my question is; how much money can i get?

***Remember paternity must be established first. Child support is based upon, a percentage of the non custodial parents income, adn in some sates BOTH parents incomes. YOU are also financially responsible to FULLY support yourself, and At least half you childs needs.****

and when can i get it??? do i have to wait till after i have my baby or can i get it sooner if i need it???

***AFter the baby isborn and paternity is established. He owes you nothing until then. you are responsbile for your own needs.****

i dont have a job and am always broke;

***You better be finding a job, honey, you have a child to support now.***

so i need to know if a court can say that the babys daddy can give me some of the childsupport money early before the baby comes. he's 21, and makes good money at his work but he wont give me any when i ask

****he LEGALLY owes you nothing until paternity is established****

can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby?

***NO****

i was told that since hes the daddy, he has to pay to support me and the this baby foir 18 years.

***Again, you must wait till baby is born****


me and him dont get along anymore, and he yells alot, and hes got another girlfriend already. if i dont want him to do it can he still try to see the baby?? i dont want him around the baby or me at all....and if can just get the $ that he is suposed to give me, i wont have to even see him.

***When he establishes paternity, he has the legal right to ask for custody and visitation. ****


please help!!!

 

[stealth2]

i was told that since hes the daddy, he has to pay to support me and the this baby foir 18 years.

The bold underlined part would be answered with a big fat NO, in case that wasn't already clear. YOU are responsible for supporting yourself - he has no responsibility towards you whatsoever.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Velcro.....Velcro...Velcro....
KEEP THOSE DAMN LEGS TOGETHER!!!

 

[howamidoing]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? mn

please help!!!!

im 19 and im having a baby in three months and really need the childsupport money im intitled to having for having a baby by him.

my question is; how much money can i get?

and when can i get it??? do i have to wait till after i have my baby or can i get it sooner if i need it???

i dont have a job and am always broke; so i need to know if a court can say that the babys daddy can give me some of the childsupport money early before the baby comes. he's 21, and makes good money at his work but he wont give me any when i ask

can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby?

i was told that since hes the daddy, he has to pay to support me and the this baby foir 18 years.


me and him dont get along anymore, and he yells alot, and hes got another girlfriend already. if i dont want him to do it can he still try to see the baby?? i dont want him around the baby or me at all....and if can just get the $ that he is suposed to give me, i wont have to even see him.


please help!!!

Its women(and I use that term loosely) like you ,who give single mothers a bad name.So he is good enough for you to sleep with and good enough for you to take his money,but not good enough to be a father to his child? Children are not meal tickets. Get a job. I'm just guessing you are having this baby so you can draw welfare and child support right? You need help...and not the financial kind.

 

[stealth2]

blah blah blah ... THE PEOPLE ARE MUCH NICER THERE! ... blah blah blah

So why are you here? Go to your "nice" people. Sorry, but at 19, she's old enough to be working at some sort of job - and should have been doing so before getting pregnant. A baby's not a free ride.

 

[haiku]

ummm she did not sound all that scared and helpless to me, and difinitely in need of a reality check.....

 

[TNBSMommy]

Ya know, I was 18 when I had my last child,(and yes, I learned my lesson!) while I was pregnant my mother died, I had already lost my dad... So there I was 18, no parents, no job, already had one baby, and one on the way... I went and got a job while I was 6 months pregnant, it NEVER occured to me to sit at home whining about how would I have money, it DID occur to me that I needed to get off my butt and support my children. I didn't even THINK to go after CS until years later... I know not every one is me, but come on... there comes a time when you need to grow up and be responsible. And stop asking for a hand out.

This girl is on here saying, "how much money can i get?
so i need to know if a court can say that the babys daddy can give me some of the childsupport money early before the baby comes.
was told that since hes the daddy,he has to pay to support me
can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby? " AND YET!


"i dont want him to do it can he still try to see the baby?? i dont want him around the baby or me at all....and if can just get the $ that he is suposed to give me, i wont have to even see him."

Yes, she is saying in a nutshell, she wants the baby's father to support HER, and PAY her and NOT HAVE ANYTHING to do with the baby, just send her check, and leave them alone... What she needs to do is grow up, and yes she needs to realize SHE is just as much responsible for supporting the baby as the father is, and along with that that the father has JUST as much a right to be a part of the baby's life as SHE does.


Sorry for the rant... that just irritates me.

 

[howamidoing]

FYI, I am here to gain knowledge and different perspectives. AND I have hung around because IF I can help anyone, by sharing my thoughts or my story, I would like to do that.
IMO this 19 year old needs some REAL advice. She obviously needs some guidance. I don't think she needs to be told to keep her legs closed!
A little too late for that anyway.
Some people "come off harsh" out of HUMAN CONCERN. As a way to HELP a person see from anothers perspective. All I see is a lot of judgement and comments meant to make people feel like sh!t.
While some in here are really nasty and their answers are worthless, there are a lot of others, who like me, found help within these boards and want to return the favor.

When you come on here asking ,"What can I get , What can I get?" Come on you should expect those kind of answers. As I said before a baby is not a meal ticket. I was also a single mother for a long period of time. I never asked what can I get...I worked for the biggest part of my pregnancy. That is a cop out.If you want to give her good advice, tell her how it is in the real world, those you ask what can I get, get absolutely nothing. Thats what is wrong with our system, everyone wanting something for nothing.

 

[stealth2]

Ya know, I was 18 when I had my last child,(and yes, I learned my lesson!) while I was pregnant my mother died, I had already lost my dad... So there I was 18, no parents, no job, already had one baby, and one on the way... I went and got a job while I was 6 months pregnant, it NEVER occured to me to sit at home whining about how would I have money, it DID occur to me that I needed to get off my butt and support my children. I didn't even THINK to go after CS until years later... I know not every one is me, but come on... there comes a time when you need to grow up and be responsible. And stop asking for a hand out.

This girl is on here saying, "how much money can i get?
so i need to know if a court can say that the babys daddy can give me some of the childsupport money early before the baby comes.
was told that since hes the daddy,he has to pay to support me
can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby? " AND YET!


"i dont want him to do it can he still try to see the baby?? i dont want him around the baby or me at all....and if can just get the $ that he is suposed to give me, i wont have to even see him."

Yes, she is saying in a nutshell, she wants the baby's father to support HER, and PAY her and NOT HAVE ANYTHING to do with the baby, just send her check, and leave them alone... What she needs to do is grow up, and yes she needs to realize SHE is just as much responsible for supporting the baby as the father is, and along with that that the father has JUST as much a right to be a part of the baby's life as SHE does.


Sorry for the rant... that just irritates me.

Brava!!!!!!!

 

[misslawli]

You may not like what I have to say but here it goes any way. Have you considered adoption?? Quite honestly it may be your best option. Children are expensive. If you are unable to supprt yourself then it may be something to consider. I am a single mom, I have a good job that I have had for almost 8 years, good insurance, a wonderful family supprt structure. Even with all this it is difficult on my own. I considered adoption very seriously, but chose to keep the baby because of my good job ( I was financially stable) and for my area I make good money. But I still struggle sometimes. I have moved in with my father to help us both out. If you truly want what is best for your baby consider it. There are literally millions of couples waiting to adopt that can provide for a baby and give them the love and support they deserve. Some people have been waiting for several years, so it's not like they are kids that arent able to support themselves.

Besides it could take monthsfor the support order to go through. You cant always count on it. Read through some posts on here. Some cp's are trying to collect on arrears of up to $50,000.

Plus if he does get court ordered visitation the if you refuse to let the baby go, it could ultimately lead to him getting custody after a while.

These are all things to consider.

 

[AHA]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? mn

please help!!!!

im 19 and im having a baby in three months and really need the childsupport money im intitled to having for having a baby by him.

my question is; how much money can i get?

and when can i get it??? do i have to wait till after i have my baby or can i get it sooner if i need it???

i dont have a job and am always broke; so i need to know if a court can say that the babys daddy can give me some of the childsupport money early before the baby comes. he's 21, and makes good money at his work but he wont give me any when i ask

can court make him support me before the baby comes? since im having his baby?

i was told that since hes the daddy, he has to pay to support me and the this baby foir 18 years.


me and him dont get along anymore, and he yells alot, and hes got another girlfriend already. if i dont want him to do it can he still try to see the baby?? i dont want him around the baby or me at all....and if can just get the $ that he is suposed to give me, i wont have to even see him.


please help!!!

He does NOT have to support you, all he HAS to do is HELP to support your child (ie pay half of the child's expenses) which means YOU have to pay for the other half plus your own expenses. Things that should have obviously been considered in advance before bringing a child into poverty from day 1. You need to save every possible penny now, and go out and get a job as soon as the baby is born. You won't be entitled to anything from the father until after the baby is born and a paternity test has proven him to be the father and the court has ordered him to pay cs. And all of that doesn't happen in 1 day. The father ALWAYS has as much right to the child as the mother, sometimes even more so if he is the only one of the 2 parents that has an income to support the child and provide a home for it.
A baby isn't a free ticket to richdom, quite the opposite. It's a shortcut to povertyville, especially if you are already poor before the baby expenses even start!! Have you tried finding a job? Seems like you have absolutely nothing to loose, so you need to get out there asap and fill out applications for anything and everything that will pay you something! And make sure you get birth control as soon as the baby is born. There will already be 1 more life in your hands, please don't add to that number before you are in a stable relationship and have money to afford a family. Children deserve a better start, don't you think?
Good luck to you

 

[nextwife]

Poster, if you truly believe that having a baby means he has to support YOU for 18 years, you sure have a surprise coming. You support you. That's what grown-ups do.

He pays his SHARE of the cost of supporting HIS and YOUR child. Plus his half share of child care. And that will not occur until AFTER paternity is legally established and a CS order is set through the courts. And he has every right to file to share custody/have vistation. You will have no say once a visitation order is set through the courts. The courts decide who gets the baby when.

You should really consider whether you ARE financially and emotionally prepared to parent. As stated, adoption is a viable alternative. I didn't become a parent until I had a good job, health insurance, a good savings savings account safety net, and had bought and furnished my own home so that my child would have a safe place to live and a good school to attend. Oh yeah, my car is free and clear, too. If my (I was already a homeowner when we married) husband was hit by a bus tomorrow, my financial world would NOT totally collapse - I don't need to depend on him financially.

You know, my husband's dad DIED three months BEFORE he was born. His mom NEVER got a penny of life insurance or help from his dad. And of course, no CS (they were married, but I'm making a point). Yes, get the CS you can, but you need to also be able to manage without it, should you need to. Dad's do sometimes die, get sick, disabled. WE need to stand on our own, not be totally dependent.