possible to adopt this baby??

[silvergurl88]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? We live in massachucetts and have been trying to adopt. we have been through all the state required classes, home visits, etc. It is a very difficult and frustrating process. A friend of mine told me the other day about an elderly woman in her church and how this womans teenage granddaughter had a baby a few weeks ago. Apparently this girl has no desire or ability to raise this baby. It seems to me that if all parties involved were to agree to let us adopt this baby than it should be fairly simple and straightfoward procedure. Wouldnt it just be a matter of both parents forfeiting thier parental rights, and naming my husband and I the people that they were choosing to adopt thier child? We are, I am sure over simplifiyng this but neither of us can come up with any reason why it couldnt be possible, but were apprehensive about continuing any further, until we were more confident about what legal issues we might encounter.

 

[Antigone*]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? We live in massachucetts and have been trying to adopt. we have been through all the state required classes, home visits, etc. It is a very difficult and frustrating process. A friend of mine told me the other day about an elderly woman in her church and how this womans teenage granddaughter had a baby a few weeks ago. Apparently this girl has no desire or ability to raise this baby. It seems to me that if all parties involved were to agree to let us adopt this baby than it should be fairly simple and straightfoward procedure. Wouldnt it just be a matter of both parents forfeiting thier parental rights, and naming my husband and I the people that they were choosing to adopt thier child? We are, I am sure over simplifiyng this but neither of us can come up with any reason why it couldnt be possible, but were apprehensive about continuing any further, until we were more confident about what legal issues we might encounter.

Adoption is never simple and definitely not a DIY project. You will need to retain an adoption attorney to assist you.

 

[WittyUserName]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? We live in massachucetts and have been trying to adopt. we have been through all the state required classes, home visits, etc. It is a very difficult and frustrating process. A friend of mine told me the other day about an elderly woman in her church and how this womans teenage granddaughter had a baby a few weeks ago. Apparently this girl has no desire or ability to raise this baby. It seems to me that if all parties involved were to agree to let us adopt this baby than it should be fairly simple and straightfoward procedure. Wouldnt it just be a matter of both parents forfeiting thier parental rights, and naming my husband and I the people that they were choosing to adopt thier child? We are, I am sure over simplifiyng this but neither of us can come up with any reason why it couldnt be possible, but were apprehensive about continuing any further, until we were more confident about what legal issues we might encounter.

Honestly, adoption requires the help of an attorney. It's not the kind of project you can just do yourself. You could always seek a consult with one and ask some questions.

 

[angelpie545]

As the other posters suggested, I would absolutely hire an attorney. Adoption is never simple on either side. I also would approach this situation with a lot of caution. Your friend may not have all the details since she heard the story second hand, and not from the mother herself. Also, even if the parents choose not to raise the baby, there is not guarantee that they will want you and your husband to adopt the baby. They may instead choose to have a member of their family care of the child, or choose to go through an agency. In addition, simply because the mother may not be willing/able to care for the child doesn't mean that the father isn't. He may elect to assume the major parental role in the mother's absence. Both parents should undergo unbiased counseling provided from an outside source not affiliated or employed by an adoption agency before making any sort of adoption plan, and should continue to receive counseling throughout the decision making process.