Public Event Contact

[mhenley]

New Jersey
I need to know when I am at a public event that my children are part participating in when it's not my visitation, such as softball games and school ceremonies can I have contact with them?

 

[LdiJ]

New Jersey
I need to know when I am at a public event that my children are part participating in when it's not my visitation, such as softball games and school ceremonies can I have contact with them?

In most cases the answer to that question would be yes. However it really depends on what your orders say and whether your contact with them is restricted in any way.

 

[mhenley]

Public event Contact

No restrictions, just the standard template spelling out my vitiation times and
np parent willdo anything to estrange the children from either parent, etc. etc

 

[stealth2]

Yes, you're allowed to.

 

[nextwife]

Personally, unless there IS some form of "no-contact" order, it would be pretty odd to be at something their kids are at and NOT acknowledge and speak to them. I can't imagine knowing my dad was at my play, or concert, or ball game and NOT having him stay and tell me afterward what he thought!

 

[mhenley]

Public Contact

Next Wife here is the situation - the event I will describe is typical of all the events I go to when I don't have visitation scheduled.
My daughter’s softball team was at a minor league game and they got to parade abound the field in their uniforms. The parents were formally invited. I went to the event and said hi to the kids at which time my ex wife’s husband, who by the way was arrested two weeks before for simple assault for assaulting me during my visitation, menaced me. He made my kids go over to him. My ex wife told me to leave as it wasn't my visitation but I stayed until the parade was over. I am getting tired of being shut out of my kid’s special events because of this. Is there any legal remedy I can take?

 

[LdiJ]

Next Wife here is the situation - the event I will describe is typical of all the events I go to when I don't have visitation scheduled.
My daughter’s softball team was at a minor league game and they got to parade abound the field in their uniforms. The parents were formally invited. I went to the event and said hi to the kids at which time my ex wife’s husband, who by the way was arrested two weeks before for simple assault for assaulting me during my visitation, menaced me. He made my kids go over to him. My ex wife told me to leave as it wasn't my visitation but I stayed until the parade was over. I am getting tired of being shut out of my kid’s special events because of this. Is there any legal remedy I can take?

You can address the issue in court....a judge wouldn't be pleased with mom and her husband at all. However it may not be something to take to court by itself.

 

[nextwife]

Next Wife here is the situation - the event I will describe is typical of all the events I go to when I don't have visitation scheduled.
My daughter’s softball team was at a minor league game and they got to parade abound the field in their uniforms. The parents were formally invited. I went to the event and said hi to the kids

THis is what would normally be expected of a parent and it is a GOOD thing for kids to see that their parents care and are there to support them! Whether the parents are a couple or not should have no bearing on the normal things that parents do , which includes attending kiddo's games, shows, team events and what not. How unfair to the kids to have a STEPdad interferring with their RIGHHT to have daddy at their events and to see him. The fact that it is not your visitation does not mean you stop being dad during non-visitation time.

Gosh, I hate that kind of bull-crap. It's SO "not in the best interests" of the child. It is also a bizarre thing for any kids, yours, or those of intact families in attendance, to witness. I can't imagine trying to explain to my own kid why someone's dad, who is a "nice daddy" wouldn't be allowed to talk to his own kids! She SOOO wouldn't get it, frankly neither do I.

 

[casa]

Next Wife here is the situation - the event I will describe is typical of all the events I go to when I don't have visitation scheduled.
My daughter’s softball team was at a minor league game and they got to parade abound the field in their uniforms. The parents were formally invited. I went to the event and said hi to the kids at which time my ex wife’s husband, who by the way was arrested two weeks before for simple assault for assaulting me during my visitation, menaced me. He made my kids go over to him. My ex wife told me to leave as it wasn't my visitation but I stayed until the parade was over. I am getting tired of being shut out of my kid’s special events because of this. Is there any legal remedy I can take?

A court would NOT be pleased to hear of this. I think you'd be wise to have an attorney address it, however, since it can be a complicated issue. It would help you to have your orders specifically address extra-curricular events so you don't have to go through this in the future. If the X and her new spouse are behaving this way- I doubt they'd change unless a court ordered them to.

As an aside- Your children are seeing this, and what the X and new spouse don't realize is that they are only tainting the children against them.

Sorry you are dealing with such ridiculous behavior~ I relate!

 

[momofrose]

I am an NCP and go to almost every event for my daughter whether it's my parenting time or his parenting time..same for him. Though we can not stand to be in each other's presence, I think we are adult enough to realize that it is crucial for children (especially those from divorced families) to be supported in every possible way.

I wudl continue to go whenever you can (as you have) and document anything you need to to bring her back to court..this is definitely inferring with your relationship with your child.

Unless there are restriction you can be at any and all special events for your children!

Good Luck

Denise