Question about restraining orders?

[AJsMOM]

What is the name of your state?GA

I did post this on the Domestic violance bb, but it doesn't seem to be a very active bb, so I thought I would post it here.

My ex has put me through the ringer and back. Last night he called and wouldn't stop saying how he missed me (never once asked to speak to our son) and he would say how he can't live without me. Towards the end of the conversation he said "I can't go on. I'm just tired. Whatever happens, don't hate me". Ok, of course I'm thinking he's going to try to commit suicide, he's tried before. I'm an emotional wreck and can't keep going through this crap.

So, is there any way that I can get a restraining order or no contact order to keep him from calling and putting me through this hell? He's never physically hit me, but is VERY emotionally abusive.

Any suggestions (other than "don't answer the phone" lol )

TIA

 

[BL]

You could ask for one based on harassment . Contact your phone Co. and ask how they handle unwanted calls .

Please understand this man IS the children's Father . He is going through a grieving period . His feelings are real . He most likely does care and love his children , but is more concentrated on being a family with you still .

It is Normal . His reactions aren't . He needs professional help .

You should state to him you can't deal with this right now , and encourage him to seek mental health therapy .

Hopefully when he realizes it over for you two , he will put his energy into loving and having a Father/children relationships .

Don't deny it to him . It might take a while for him to come around .

In the eyes of your children when the grow older and if the Father/children relationships get back on tract , the kids will appreciate you not getting in between. Think ahead .

 

[VeronicaGia]

Also keep in mind that you have kids with him. Therefore you will be dealing with him the rest of your life.

And you have no proof about what he said to you on the phone, so I doubt you can get a restraining order. Even if you did, the restraining order will be for you, not the kids. He and the kids have the right to see each other and be involved in each others lives.

 

[CMSC]

I agree that you can't prove anything but you can record his calls, go ahead and tell him you are doing it because he will more than likely say the same thing. Although what he is saying isn't abusive in the call you described, it is mentally wearing and not good for you to hear. If you threatens suicide call 911 and give them his address and tell them what he said. That may give him some help he needs.

 

[AJsMOM]

First and formost. I would NEVER want to keep him from his child (we only have 1 child). But I do fear his stability. He has had an on going drug addiction for the 5 years we were together (yes, I new about this and he was in and out of treatment). I fear that because of our breakup, he's back out on the streets using. He claims that he'd never put our child at risk like that, but you just don't know someones actions when drugs are involved. KWIM?

Thanks for the advice. There is no "proof" of the emotional/mental crap that he's putting me through. I just don't want to talk to him till he's cleaned up his act. I can tell just by talking to him that he's lying to me about certain things.

I don't know. This is all still pretty fresh for me too. I'm trying to figure out how to live on my own and raise my children in a moral home. It's stressful in itself when it's so hard to find decent work. But that's neither here nor there.

Thanx again for the advice