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Well - I might be overreacting but I need some opinions just to be sure.
I had lunch with my son at school today (ex's week) and my son's teacher told me something disturbing. On Friday, my ex dropped my son off at school (late as usual) and my son came to class in tears. Teacher said that he stated that "mommy doesn't like me." Teacher sent son out of the classroom to an aide (but apparently she doesn't remember which one).
I talked to son about it and he said that when mommy dropped him off at school she told him that "she doesn't care for him anymore and that she doesn't care if he grows up to be a bad person." ... I AM LIVID and trying to find my balance! Son was upset ... I hugged him and told him that I love him and quickly changed the subject.
I am worried for my son, as the last few weeks that he has been with her have been troublesome. I went on Wed of two weeks ago and my son told me that the night prior Mommy had told him and his sister to "leave her the f*** alone" and she slammed her bedroom door and broke it. He could then hear her throwing things in her room.
She has also constantly been calling me on her days because she states that son is not behaving ... she says "he is horrible after coming from your house." I reiterate that he doesn't give me any issues. Typically, she puts son on the phone and I talk with him .... and tell him that he needs to straighten up and listen to mommy. Regardless of whether my ex and I get along ... I would never ok bad behavior.
However, last Thursday (the evening prior to the Friday episode) she called and told me that she just can't take it anymore. I went over and talked to son and try to figure out what was wrong, as apparently he was again giving her a hard time. He said that he didn't understand why he was in trouble and that mommy yells at him all the time. There was alot more conversation that went on ... but I don't want to write a book. I attempted to talk to my ex and she just sat on the couch and watched tv and really didn't seem to want to deal with it. I told her what son said and what he was feeling and she was just defensive. I was not being offensive ... i thought that she wanted me to find out what was going on with son. Apparently, she just wanted me to come over an rail on him .... wasn't going to happen ... my son and i have a very open communicative relationship.
I didn't mean to make this a book ... I just wanted to see what opinions or suggestions anyone might have for this situation.
I understand that people have bad days and that she may be stressed with 2 kids in the house and a husband out of town for work. But I have always been willing to take son to give her a break. I think she just wants to keep him with her because as she says "it's her time" but at the same time she can't handle it .... But I am just making assumptions.
I'm just very frustrated with the whole situation. I feel horrible for my son - he doesn't deserve this no matter what is going on with his mother.
Well - I might be overreacting but I need some opinions just to be sure.
I had lunch with my son at school today (ex's week) and my son's teacher told me something disturbing. On Friday, my ex dropped my son off at school (late as usual) and my son came to class in tears. Teacher said that he stated that "mommy doesn't like me." Teacher sent son out of the classroom to an aide (but apparently she doesn't remember which one).
I talked to son about it and he said that when mommy dropped him off at school she told him that "she doesn't care for him anymore and that she doesn't care if he grows up to be a bad person." ... I AM LIVID and trying to find my balance! Son was upset ... I hugged him and told him that I love him and quickly changed the subject.
I am worried for my son, as the last few weeks that he has been with her have been troublesome. I went on Wed of two weeks ago and my son told me that the night prior Mommy had told him and his sister to "leave her the f*** alone" and she slammed her bedroom door and broke it. He could then hear her throwing things in her room.
She has also constantly been calling me on her days because she states that son is not behaving ... she says "he is horrible after coming from your house." I reiterate that he doesn't give me any issues. Typically, she puts son on the phone and I talk with him .... and tell him that he needs to straighten up and listen to mommy. Regardless of whether my ex and I get along ... I would never ok bad behavior.
However, last Thursday (the evening prior to the Friday episode) she called and told me that she just can't take it anymore. I went over and talked to son and try to figure out what was wrong, as apparently he was again giving her a hard time. He said that he didn't understand why he was in trouble and that mommy yells at him all the time. There was alot more conversation that went on ... but I don't want to write a book. I attempted to talk to my ex and she just sat on the couch and watched tv and really didn't seem to want to deal with it. I told her what son said and what he was feeling and she was just defensive. I was not being offensive ... i thought that she wanted me to find out what was going on with son. Apparently, she just wanted me to come over an rail on him .... wasn't going to happen ... my son and i have a very open communicative relationship.
I didn't mean to make this a book ... I just wanted to see what opinions or suggestions anyone might have for this situation.
I understand that people have bad days and that she may be stressed with 2 kids in the house and a husband out of town for work. But I have always been willing to take son to give her a break. I think she just wants to keep him with her because as she says "it's her time" but at the same time she can't handle it .... But I am just making assumptions.
I'm just very frustrated with the whole situation. I feel horrible for my son - he doesn't deserve this no matter what is going on with his mother.