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toriirwin
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I gave my son up to adoption to his godparents when I tried to reenter the military (based on the premise that I could not reenter the military as a single parent). The natural father was not on the birth certificate (although all parties involved knew who he was) and the god father and I lied on an affidavit saying he was the natural father in order to do a "specialized adoption" (it took only two months). It was all agreed upon that when I was out or was able to stabalize my situation my son would be returned to me. This was constantly repeated to the child as well. We had visitation and I also sent support. Now my child is going to be 13 and the family is still refusing him to live with me. The natural father was never notified of the adoption (I couldn't find him) but now he is involved and wants to be in his life. The child has seen him and spent time with him and also wants him to be his "real" dad. The adoptive family has repeatedly told the child that he could live with me but is refused when he asks. They even went so far as to send him to live with me two years ago and then changed their minds and came and got him which really devastated him. He is going to be 13 and has lived with them now for 5 years. My questions..if we all lied on the affidavit is the adoption even legal. If so, does the natural father have a case to overturn the adoption? I know if the adoption is still considered legal, I will have no rights to the child even though the natural father would get custody if he wins however that is not the issue. Question number 2..does the child have any say so in this matter because he is going to be 13 and wants to live with me. #3..social services is investigating the adoptive family for inappropriate discipline and emotional neglect..does that help his case? I live in Maryland, the natural father in Georgia and the adoptive family in North Carolina. The sad thing is...this was all suppose to be done for the best interest of my son (for his safety and security) and now he is the one being devestated by this whole mess.