Reestablishment of Parental Rights

[Constansere]

Residing in Florida, Adoption Occured In Colorado.

Having been adopted under a closed adoption I have recently found my biological mother. The adoption also resulted in my birth certificate being altered to reflect my adopting parents as my birth parents. Now both myself and my birth mother wish to have her placed back on my birth certificate, and given back parental rights although I am age 29. What processes would be necessary for me to accomplish this.

 

[Perky]

Well, she could adopt you, I suppose, but what kind of parental rights do you think she'll have?

 

[nextwife]

Wow!

What did your parents do to you that you want to wipe out their years of parenting and supporting you?

 

[mistoffolees]

Wow!

What did your parents do to you that you want to wipe out their years of parenting and supporting you?

Especially when there's no real advantage to being adopted by the biological mother. So she's slapping her adopted parents in the face in order to send a meaningless message?

Wow.

 

[Proserpina]

Especially when there's no real advantage to being adopted by the biological mother. So she's slapping her adopted parents in the face in order to send a meaningless message?

Wow.

Oh, I can think of at least one advantage...

 

[mistoffolees]

Oh, I can think of at least one advantage...

What's that? She can be given power of attorney without being adopted. She can be given an inheritance in the will without being adopted. She can change her name without being adopted. She can be given virtually ANY rights without having an adoption take place.

What am I missing?

 

[LdiJ]

What's that? She can be given power of attorney without being adopted. She can be given an inheritance in the will without being adopted. She can change her name without being adopted. She can be given virtually ANY rights without having an adoption take place.

What am I missing?

There can be next of kin issues if she becomes incapacitated.

 

[nextwife]

There can be next of kin issues if she becomes incapacitated.

Health care POA.

 

[mistoffolees]

Health care POA.

Exactly. And they can do that without slapping the adoptive parents in the face.

 

[momofrose]

Residing in Florida, Adoption Occured In Colorado.

Having been adopted under a closed adoption I have recently found my biological mother. The adoption also resulted in my birth certificate being altered to reflect my adopting parents as my birth parents. Now both myself and my birth mother wish to have her placed back on my birth certificate, and given back parental rights although I am age 29. What processes would be necessary for me to accomplish this.

As an adoptive parent I am highly offended by this post. Your parents raised you for 29 years and now you want to wipe them away like they never existed??? I don't care what the reason is - you are a very selfish person and you should be completely ashamed of yourself...your poor parents

 

[nextwife]

I'm stunned.

The parents do all the work, spend all the money, give their child a life, food, shelter, education, and biomom just waltzes in long, long after the fact and the poster wants to totally wipe out everything from her parents now that mom finally shows up and the poster doesn't need support! Biomom wasn't the one who worked to provide a home for the poster, worked to put food on their table, took care of them when they were sick.

Having a fertile egg is NOT BEING a parent. It is not PARENTING one's child. That is work, work that biomom was willing to have the posters parents do instead.

 

[frostyisis]

I'm stunned.

The parents do all the work, spend all the money, give their child a life, food, shelter, education, and biomom just waltzes in long, long after the fact and the poster wants to totally wipe out everything from her parents now that mom finally shows up and the poster doesn't need support! Biomom wasn't the one who worked to provide a home for the poster, worked to put food on their table, took care of them when they were sick.

Having a fertile egg is NOT BEING a parent. It is not PARENTING one's child. That is work, work that biomom was willing to have the posters parents do instead.

Some bio-parents can't care for their children for reasons beyond their control. Abusive families can chase away the mother of a child and raise the child as their own saying that the child's mother had simply abandoned her. When the real facts were that they had threatened and beaten her. If she could beat them out and put her child up for adoption before they had the opportunity to hurt her or her child anymore because she thought (at her young age) that was the only way out, at least she was doing it for her child's best interest.

The adoptive family could've provided food, a shelter, health care for when the child was sick. They could've showered the child in gifts and goodies. That counts for very little when there was no real love, or acceptance. Especially if that child was always treated as the different one, as the outcast, as the child they wish they had never adopted, as the child they threatened multiple times to give back.

I can understand wanting to have your bio-mom on you birth certificate as your real mom. My guess is you have been disowned by your adoptive parents (happens more often than you would think, look it up) or have simply pushed you too far.

Do whatever you feel is right, but don't give up entirely on your adoptive family, they have always meant to have and provide the best for you, even if they have hurt you and they may not have shown their love as visibly as you would have liked.