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[Jillian483]

What is the name of your state? North Carolina

My husbands ex wife absolutly refuses to purchase gifts for the children. When it is their birthday they don't get as much as a cake. At christmas time they get nothing. She has 1 other kid with her new husband and he always gets gifts which I think hurts the kids even more. It is not for a lack of money as he pays child support and she makes 75k a year. IS there anything he can do about this? Last christmas we sent gifts so that they would not feel left out and mom sold them all on ebay. I know this because she has the same screen name that she had when she was married to him and we saw all of the items go up for sale.

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? North Carolina

My husbands ex wife absolutly refuses to purchase gifts for the children. When it is their birthday they don't get as much as a cake. At christmas time they get nothing. She has 1 other kid with her new husband and he always gets gifts which I think hurts the kids even more. It is not for a lack of money as he pays child support and she makes 75k a year. IS there anything he can do about this? Last christmas we sent gifts so that they would not feel left out and mom sold them all on ebay. I know this because she has the same screen name that she had when she was married to him and we saw all of the items go up for sale.

No. So far as I have ever heard or read, it is not required by law for parents to celebrate holidays with their children.

Just be the best you can be when the kids are with you. Teach them coping skills. That's about it. Good luck.

 

[Neal1421]

What is the name of your state? North Carolina

My husbands ex wife absolutly refuses to purchase gifts for the children. When it is their birthday they don't get as much as a cake. At christmas time they get nothing. She has 1 other kid with her new husband and he always gets gifts which I think hurts the kids even more. It is not for a lack of money as he pays child support and she makes 75k a year. IS there anything he can do about this? Last christmas we sent gifts so that they would not feel left out and mom sold them all on ebay. I know this because she has the same screen name that she had when she was married to him and we saw all of the items go up for sale.

You can't make the woman buy the children gifts. Tell your husband to keep the things he buys for the kids at his house, that way he doesn't have to worry about the things he buys being sold.

 

[fairisfair]

You know there are some people who do not celebrate holidays, based on religious beliefs.

Oh, and then of course there is scrooge. Either one might be the case.

Leave the gifts you buy at your house, if you are worried about mommy dearest selling them on the street. Clothing with their name embroidered on it might be a little harder to sell. just a thought. or those photo silk screen pictures, or anything else that makes it so personal no one else would want it.

 

[BL]

If it is effecting the kids emotionally , counseling may be in order .

Abuse comes in all sizes including Emotional .

How old are the kids ?

I take it they reside with the X ?

Yes keep the gifts home for them to play with .

Kids aren't stupid , and as they grow they can figure things out for themselves .

It's childish on Her part to take her frustrations out on the children .

 

[LdiJ]

Its certainly not something that I would take to court by itself, but it is something worth bringing up if you happen to be in court for other issues. I can't imagine that a judge would be very impressed with mom for doing that.

 

[abstract99]

You husbands ex and my ex should get toegther, they would get along great. I am in the same situation and I simply send a few things a year. For me it is more important that my kids actually see that I sent the items. After that I don't care what happens to them because then mom is the bad guy. I of course got a court order stating that mom HAS TO give anything addressed to the kids from me to them unopened within 12 hours of her receipt of those items. She, of course takes them away afterwards but at least the kids know that I was thinking of them.

Wal Mart has a buy it now pay within 90 days option when you buy stuff online. I send a receipt with the clothes that way if the clothes do not fit she can exchange them but not return them for money since I have technically not actually paid for them yet.

 

[ceara19]

You husbands ex and my ex should get toegther, they would get along great. I am in the same situation and I simply send a few things a year. For me it is more important that my kids actually see that I sent the items. After that I don't care what happens to them because then mom is the bad guy. I of course got a court order stating that mom HAS TO give anything addressed to the kids from me to them unopened within 12 hours of her receipt of those items. She, of course takes them away afterwards but at least the kids know that I was thinking of them.

Wal Mart has a buy it now pay within 90 days option when you buy stuff online. I send a receipt with the clothes that way if the clothes do not fit she can exchange them but not return them for money since I have technically not actually paid for them yet.

If you use a credit care to pay for the gifts, many stores have return a policy that requires refunds to be credited to the card used for the purchase.

 

[dad_of_one]

You husbands ex and my ex should get toegther, they would get along great. I am in the same situation and I simply send a few things a year. For me it is more important that my kids actually see that I sent the items. After that I don't care what happens to them because then mom is the bad guy. I of course got a court order stating that mom HAS TO give anything addressed to the kids from me to them unopened within 12 hours of her receipt of those items. She, of course takes them away afterwards but at least the kids know that I was thinking of them.

Wal Mart has a buy it now pay within 90 days option when you buy stuff online. I send a receipt with the clothes that way if the clothes do not fit she can exchange them but not return them for money since I have technically not actually paid for them yet.

I agree with this idea. Keep sending things just throughout the yeear so that way the kids know that their family is thinking of them. As they get older and see mom doing that it will come back to bit her in the butt. How is she going to be able to explain what she is doing? Also another idea is that when you make purchases for the gifts that your sending save the receipt so that way as the children get older and if they ever asked why no gifts show them, show them how there were purchases made but mom decided not to give them to them. Also the receipts will help if you ever go into court about other issues that you have been sending things over the years and yet the children has never received them. Just an idea. Good luck!