queeniez71
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What is the name of your state? ohio
First off, I am not trying to make him be a parent now, now is too late she is 18 years old and has no interest now in any kind of relationship with him after the way he has treated her since the support order was put in place 4 and half years ago. She tried to get to know him and have him in her life but giving her a hard time about me was more important to him then her. As for me being jealous of him and his wife, hahahahaha ,not possible ,whatsoever!He is a hateful man and his wife is no better,I have no desire to be with or even know someone who could treat any child let alone their own flesh and blood as badly as he has the child we share.I do feel badly for my daughter because her half sister has things that I alone could not give her and that her father has the means to but won't. Now if it was just over clothes or toys or stupid stuff then maybe I wouldnt have hassled with the money but I do this to help her with college. And legalcuriosity said that this is money for the child not for me but your wrong about that.It is called back child care not back child support and it is paying me back for his share of her care that I already paid for.The GL that was assigned by the magistrate said that this is not money owed to her but to me.She has already been raised and the money spent. Now he has to pay me back his share of her care.And why is it my fault he wasnt a father. It was hard enough at 15 for me to learn to be a mother why was it on me to teach him to be a father?And he's older then me.I had to step up and figure out my responsibilities why couldnt he? I never hid her or ran.He always knew where she was why didnt he do something to be apart of her life why should I have had to force him? No one forced me to do right by her she was my child that was all that mattered.As for going after support sooner I did not when she was born because I was afraid of getting him in trouble which was stupid but I was young and ignorant and did not know any better when she got older I thought it was to late but when I found out I could I did.And just so everyone knows I raised her not my parents not my friends I did. I say this because alot of teenage moms push their kids off but I did not .As for me saving this up all the those years like a savings account, I did not know until 2 years ago that I could go after that back child care.And really do you think at 15 I was sitting there thinking that I won't go after him until shes 17 for all the years of back child care he will owe me and I will retire on it in luxury? Im sure you probably do but it was not the way of it.And once again ,I ask you, why do you defend a person like this? And why are you giving me the hard time? Why shouldn't he be held accountable?I know I have been and most of the parents I know have been and im sure most of you have been ,so why shouldnt he?I would even agree with all of you if I had kept her from him or played games but I never did . If I hadn't cared for her I would have been thrown in jail and labled an unfit parent but he totally ignored any obligation for the child and he gets defended and somehow its my fault.
First off, I am not trying to make him be a parent now, now is too late she is 18 years old and has no interest now in any kind of relationship with him after the way he has treated her since the support order was put in place 4 and half years ago. She tried to get to know him and have him in her life but giving her a hard time about me was more important to him then her. As for me being jealous of him and his wife, hahahahaha ,not possible ,whatsoever!He is a hateful man and his wife is no better,I have no desire to be with or even know someone who could treat any child let alone their own flesh and blood as badly as he has the child we share.I do feel badly for my daughter because her half sister has things that I alone could not give her and that her father has the means to but won't. Now if it was just over clothes or toys or stupid stuff then maybe I wouldnt have hassled with the money but I do this to help her with college. And legalcuriosity said that this is money for the child not for me but your wrong about that.It is called back child care not back child support and it is paying me back for his share of her care that I already paid for.The GL that was assigned by the magistrate said that this is not money owed to her but to me.She has already been raised and the money spent. Now he has to pay me back his share of her care.And why is it my fault he wasnt a father. It was hard enough at 15 for me to learn to be a mother why was it on me to teach him to be a father?And he's older then me.I had to step up and figure out my responsibilities why couldnt he? I never hid her or ran.He always knew where she was why didnt he do something to be apart of her life why should I have had to force him? No one forced me to do right by her she was my child that was all that mattered.As for going after support sooner I did not when she was born because I was afraid of getting him in trouble which was stupid but I was young and ignorant and did not know any better when she got older I thought it was to late but when I found out I could I did.And just so everyone knows I raised her not my parents not my friends I did. I say this because alot of teenage moms push their kids off but I did not .As for me saving this up all the those years like a savings account, I did not know until 2 years ago that I could go after that back child care.And really do you think at 15 I was sitting there thinking that I won't go after him until shes 17 for all the years of back child care he will owe me and I will retire on it in luxury? Im sure you probably do but it was not the way of it.And once again ,I ask you, why do you defend a person like this? And why are you giving me the hard time? Why shouldn't he be held accountable?I know I have been and most of the parents I know have been and im sure most of you have been ,so why shouldnt he?I would even agree with all of you if I had kept her from him or played games but I never did . If I hadn't cared for her I would have been thrown in jail and labled an unfit parent but he totally ignored any obligation for the child and he gets defended and somehow its my fault.