Relocation issues and remarriage to a soldier

[rodeoflower]

What is the name of your state? Washington

I am the custodial parent in my divorce. My ex moved out of state a year ago, I am now also requesting to relocate to Arizona, the father is not objecting.

My boyfriend is in the military and we are talking of getting married beginning of next year. Does anyone know what would happen if he were to be assigned out of the country after we are married? Would a judge break up our family for the sake of the other parent who is not even local? I am terrified that if we get married and he's stationed in Germany that my man and I would not be able to reside together. That I would be held hostage by the courts to remain stateside. Has anyone been through this???

 

[haiku]

you and your man can go anywhere you like, just be prepared of the possibility that if the father of your kids protests, you may have to give him custody, and you will get visitation.

living a few states away is one thing, but removing kids from the country can get a little more complicated.

its something you must think through before you marry someone in that situation.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Washington

I am the custodial parent in my divorce. My ex moved out of state a year ago, I am now also requesting to relocate to Arizona, the father is not objecting.

My boyfriend is in the military and we are talking of getting married beginning of next year. Does anyone know what would happen if he were to be assigned out of the country after we are married? Would a judge break up our family for the sake of the other parent who is not even local? I am terrified that if we get married and he's stationed in Germany that my man and I would not be able to reside together. That I would be held hostage by the courts to remain stateside. Has anyone been through this???

My observations have been that if the ncp is already on a long distance visitation schedule with the child....and that schedule can still be either maintained, or somewhat similar...then a military move is usually possible, even if its outside of the country. A military move doesn't pose the risk of jurisdiction being established in another country, or reduce the enforceability of court orders.

HOWEVER....remember that most likely YOU will be responsible for the bulk of the cost of transportation for visitation. Dad won't be off the hook entirely since he moved away from the child first...but you will most likely get stuck with the lion's share. So you need to be prepared to deal with that. Also, internationally your child can't fly alone until age 14 or 15 (I don't remember exactly) so keep that in mind too.

 

[thetsgtswife]

What about then the child will need a passport? even if its a military order issued move they still have to have it right? What if the other parent refused? IS this something she will need to get the court to rule on now or just wait it out?

TSGTSWIFE

 

[LdiJ]

What about then the child will need a passport? even if its a military order issued move they still have to have it right? What if the other parent refused? IS this something she will need to get the court to rule on now or just wait it out?

TSGTSWIFE

She would need to get the court to rule on it when and if the issue arises. If a judge rules that the children can move with her, then the judge will order dad to sign the passport application.

 

[thetsgtswife]

Makes sense. that is something most people dont think about when entering a relationship with a military member when they think about the possibility of moving overseas, that the other parent(ncp) will have to agree to let the child go by signing the passport paperwork. At least I hadnt thought of it when I married my husband.

TSGTSWIFE