Help is here- I hope.
Hi, I just read your post . I have been representing myself for six months now, while my husband has a high dollar attorney. The best advice I can give you is be prepared to have a paper trail of anything and everything that could help you, or anything that you even think you might need with you at all times. MOST judges seem to be easy on you, knowing you do not know all of the laws. Don't be afaid to ask the judge questions-- EVER!! If you are not sure what the other party is implying or what he means don't be afraid to ask him to elaborate, that's his job. You also might want to prepare a list or reminder of things you want to address to the judge so you don't forget once you get into court. I have had a tendency to get so nerveous and upset that I forget to ask something and I end up having to file a motion to get back in front of the judge to give it a try again. The more you are in court the easier it gets. Also, never sign or verbally agree to anything without fully thinking it through or completely understanding what the intent of any action may be. Use your best judgement.
If you need some advice on forms or legal paperwork, you can try contacting a paralegal to help you out with the necessary paperwork, OR try researching in a local law library or a public library. I have found my public library very, very helpful with info I have needed and samples of forms and basic know-hows of what a legal doc should look like, but even then some judges are very easy on you if you are representing yourself. Plus sometimes the county clerk's office can show a examples or similiar docs for you to go by.
Have faith that you can accomplish something by yourself, just don't let anyone try to intimidate you, just because you are not an attorney doesn't mean you are stupid. Remember to ask questions if you are not sure you understand. And be prepared!!
Good luck and I hope some of this has been a little helpful.
Harlee418
