What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
My husband was married to his ex for 14.5 years. Miserable marriage. One child conceived, after 10 years and 30K in fertility treatments (she had problems) She latched onto him when he had orders to Korea, a couple of dates and a glass of wine and guess what? Shes talking marriage. He brings her back to the states and they marry. Each month she hoards his pay, going into HER checking account each month. It grew and grew over the years. He intenionally asked to be deployed over and over again to get away from her.
They were separated the last two years, he kept talking divorce, she wouldnt have his terms. She wanted the child, the house, the 50K in the bank, alimony, child support and a chunk of his retirement. Typical. They couldnt settle so she wouldnt sign papers.
When he and I met and things got serious, we knew we had to get him divorced. His little girl (living with the ex) told ex about me. She told authorities she thought he was "messing" with the child. DCF launched an investigation. She never showed for a single hearing. NONE. He fought it all and won, got custody of the daughter, got divorced and had her evicted from the home. She vanished into thin air. We even had a PI try to find her to serve her adoption papers when I adopted this child. She hid out, worked under the table (she owed us two years of child support) wouldnt answer her phone, wouldnt call when we sent letters to her po box, just vanished. She was to turn over the childs belongings, she sold them. Noone could find her at all. For all we knew, she moved back to Korea.
A motion for contempt hearing was held last week against her and the back child support. We couldnt care less about the support! She showed for this hearing and told the officer that she knows her ex is retired and owes her 26% of his retirement. We ran to the court, pulled it up and sure enough, the decree states it! What now? Its been 4 years. She has to be the one to apply for that money, we cant do it for her. We dont have the $30K in arrearage. We were told by base legal to law low, dont bring it up. If she applys through DFAS and they start a current allotment somewhere down the line, fine, but what about the arrears? Would she need to take us to court to fight us for all of that money? We are horrifed over it. We are raising 3 kids of our own and she really cleaned his clock money wise.
Thanks!
My husband was married to his ex for 14.5 years. Miserable marriage. One child conceived, after 10 years and 30K in fertility treatments (she had problems) She latched onto him when he had orders to Korea, a couple of dates and a glass of wine and guess what? Shes talking marriage. He brings her back to the states and they marry. Each month she hoards his pay, going into HER checking account each month. It grew and grew over the years. He intenionally asked to be deployed over and over again to get away from her.
They were separated the last two years, he kept talking divorce, she wouldnt have his terms. She wanted the child, the house, the 50K in the bank, alimony, child support and a chunk of his retirement. Typical. They couldnt settle so she wouldnt sign papers.
When he and I met and things got serious, we knew we had to get him divorced. His little girl (living with the ex) told ex about me. She told authorities she thought he was "messing" with the child. DCF launched an investigation. She never showed for a single hearing. NONE. He fought it all and won, got custody of the daughter, got divorced and had her evicted from the home. She vanished into thin air. We even had a PI try to find her to serve her adoption papers when I adopted this child. She hid out, worked under the table (she owed us two years of child support) wouldnt answer her phone, wouldnt call when we sent letters to her po box, just vanished. She was to turn over the childs belongings, she sold them. Noone could find her at all. For all we knew, she moved back to Korea.
A motion for contempt hearing was held last week against her and the back child support. We couldnt care less about the support! She showed for this hearing and told the officer that she knows her ex is retired and owes her 26% of his retirement. We ran to the court, pulled it up and sure enough, the decree states it! What now? Its been 4 years. She has to be the one to apply for that money, we cant do it for her. We dont have the $30K in arrearage. We were told by base legal to law low, dont bring it up. If she applys through DFAS and they start a current allotment somewhere down the line, fine, but what about the arrears? Would she need to take us to court to fight us for all of that money? We are horrifed over it. We are raising 3 kids of our own and she really cleaned his clock money wise.
Thanks!
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