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[Yurgee]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?NY

I have been paying child support for about 9 years by personal check. I pay on time and it seems as though my ex-wife doesn't receive her checks on Friday all of the time due to something in the mail system and she has now asked that the courts change payment to go through the child support agency.

It seems simple but I'd rather not have my employer know what I pay and I have been fine for 9 years and I would rather continue to pay as I do.

Does the administrative law judge have to grant her request or does she have to prove that the current payment method is not working?

 

[TheGeekess]

Why don't you want your employer to know that you pay CS? They can't fire you for that.

Setting it up through the court is a smart move. It protects you from Mom deciding 3 years later that she didn't get enough money and filing paperwork to the effect that you've never paid CS and having your paycheck garnished for the next 30 years for arrearages (that really never existed).

 

[BL]

She can request the payments go through CSEU , but if you show she gets them most of the time , on time or within a couple of days ,the court may not grant it .

How often do you pay ?

You mention Fri.

If the court were to grant an order of the payment be paid through CSE , the electronic central registry would detect non payment if not paid on time ,also after so many weeks and could cause trouble .

Is she close enough to either pick up the check on time , or you deliver it to her onetime ?

IMO , if it's only late sometimes by a couple a days , this would be wasting the courts time .

Why after 9 yrs. all the sudden an issue ?

 

[Yurgee]

I would just rather not have my employer know that I pay child support. There are all kinds of perceptions and questions about personal situations that I would prefer did not effect me.

My ex has another ex that has to pay via child support collection and I am assuming that she likes it that way. I pay on Fridays and it must be one more step for her (cashing the check). I am assuming that the court magistrate will laugh at her because they have better things to do.

I pay and I pay on time. I just wanted to know if they would JUST grant it to her.

It may sound selfish, but I just want know one to know what I pay and when I pay exceptme.

 

[LdiJ]

I would just rather not have my employer know that I pay child support. There are all kinds of perceptions and questions about personal situations that I would prefer did not effect me.

My ex has another ex that has to pay via child support collection and I am assuming that she likes it that way. I pay on Fridays and it must be one more step for her (cashing the check). I am assuming that the court magistrate will laugh at her because they have better things to do.

I pay and I pay on time. I just wanted to know if they would JUST grant it to her.

It may sound selfish, but I just want know one to know what I pay and when I pay exceptme.

You could offer to set up an automatic electronic transfer of funds from your bank account to hers. That might eliminate her reasons for wanting the change.

 

[DawnPlusTwo]

Would you not just be able to pay the CSE directly? Rather than a wage garnishment?

 

[BL]

Would you not just be able to pay the CSE directly? Rather than a wage garnishment?

Unnecessary involvement with CSE is best ,especially for a NCP .

The poster here states payment on occasion are not received on Fri., but the are sent on time .

Bank transfers would work .

Plus in reality , the custodial parent should not rely on these CS payments to get through a weekend .

The custodial parent should be glad the payments are sent out and paid consistantly ,rather than nit pick.

 

[Humusluvr]

I would just rather not have my employer know that I pay child support. There are all kinds of perceptions and questions about personal situations that I would prefer did not effect me.

My ex has another ex that has to pay via child support collection and I am assuming that she likes it that way. I pay on Fridays and it must be one more step for her (cashing the check). I am assuming that the court magistrate will laugh at her because they have better things to do.

I pay and I pay on time. I just wanted to know if they would JUST grant it to her.

It may sound selfish, but I just want know one to know what I pay and when I pay exceptme.

My ex has a similar perception. He doesn't want his employer to know about his child support obligation. So, he and I set up a bank transfer that happens every two weeks, directly from his bank account to mine. We worked it out on our own, and it has worked for a while. It happens automatically, neither of us has to write checks or go to the bank because it's all online. We worked it out like adults, and we are both happy with the situation.

I think court is for when you DONT agree. If you agree on something, by all means keep it friendly.